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Buddhist friend - 10/16/2009 11:27:09 AM
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heremainsfaithful
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I have a question. My daughter has a close friend who is a practicing Buddhist. She is a very nice girl. Now, my daughter is a Christian and believes the truth. She is not someone who is easily swayed at all. I have talked to her about this, and she is encouraged to come to us if she finds any of this friend's conversation confusing. The friend does not try to share her beliefs with my daughter.
Part of me is concerned about this, though I do not feel comfortable banning this girl from my daughter's life. Then another part of me sees it as an opportunity. When I was in high school, speakers would talk about witnessing to lost friends, and my thought was always that I had no lost friends. I really didn't - not one.
Any thoughts?
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RE: Buddhist friend - 10/16/2009 11:34:01 AM
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How old is your daughter and how do they know each other?
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RE: Buddhist friend - 10/16/2009 11:37:05 AM
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My daughter 13, and they go to school together.
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RE: Buddhist friend - 10/16/2009 9:47:54 PM
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I grew up in a non-Christian home and became a Christian at 17; there were NO other Christians in my year at school.
I married a Christian, and our children have been raised in a Christian home, but have *always* had more non-Christian friends than Christian friends. My son (age 20) made a commitment at 9, and right through junior school (up to age 10) and high school up till he was 18 was only one of about 8 Christians out of a school of 1200 students. It's been similar for my daughter (now 16), though thinking about it, there's actually even fewer other Christians now than when my son was at that school, so much so that there is not even a Christian Union there now.
My children have a few Christian friends at church, but none of their own age, and none really close. My son is in his third year of university, and thankfully the number of Christians there is much higher (200 out of 1200 students).
So what I'm basically trying to say is that both of my children have grown up having non-Christian friends, surrounded by them, in fact.
But then, having said that, neither have ever had just one very close friend.
Does your daughter have other close friends? Does she have close Christian friends at school/church?
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RE: Buddhist friend - 10/17/2009 7:38:10 PM
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You've brought her up right, planted the seeds, and she will do fine. I'd bet you a golden nickel they do talk about their beliefs, I certainly did when young and met someone different. That's not a bad thing, they can learn something from each other about different cultures and religions. Maybe your daughter will plant a little seed in her friends head that will grow when she's older. They are young friends for now, and that is fine. Eventually the friendship will have run it's course and will end due to maturing, finding different interest, and different religious beliefs. If you try to force her to end the friendship now, or ban her from being friends, it will be seen as overbearing, they'll be confused, and will rebel. I'd say keep her rooted in your church, and let the friendship run it's course... it'll end soon enough as they grow.
< Message edited by APZR -- 10/17/2009 7:48:03 PM >
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RE: Buddhist friend - 10/17/2009 8:29:24 PM
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Thanks for all the feedback. My instinct is to make sure she knows the truth and to encourage her to spend a lot of time here with her friend, not so I can spy, but just so her friend can also see a Christian family. My daughter only has a few "close" friends, so that was why I was a little concerned. But the others are Christians. I sometimes struggle with how much "world" to expose her to at this age, though she is pretty firm in what she believes.
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RE: Buddhist friend - 10/17/2009 8:59:42 PM
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Thanks for all the feedback. My instinct is to make sure she knows the truth and to encourage her to spend a lot of time here with her friend, not so I can spy, but just so her friend can also see a Christian family.
Where else does she spend time with her, apart from at school?
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RE: Buddhist friend - 10/17/2009 9:04:59 PM
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They ave been to some of the same birthday parties, my daughter has been over there, and the friend has spent time here. I took them to the mall last weekend. I got a haircut while they "shopped." Hard to shop with only 20.00 lol
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RE: Buddhist friend - 10/17/2009 9:39:08 PM
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It sounds like you are doing a good job. Giving them just enough space, but not too much.
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