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How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/20/2009 2:57:33 PM
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sunshine4God
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Last month a friend I was really close with turned on me.I wrote her an email telling her some good news,and her response to me was very mean.She told me loud and clear,(her email was all in caps) how she doesn't have time for my emails,and in case I've forgotten she is very busy with church,her job,kids,and etc and that I need to stop bothering her.I'll admit I was really excited about my news and told her on facebook,You gotta read my email! I also admit that at times I've nagged her about things,but as a friend she's always forgiven me for that bad habit. Now she's been deleted from facebook along with my email list,and doesn't even say hi to me at church anymore. You would think with how mean she has been to me,losing her for a friend would be no big deal. Yet for some reason I really miss her,and all the fun times we had together.I used to babysit her kids,and she was once even like a mentor to me,helping me grow alot in the Lord. I have forgiven her in my heart,but don't want to bother with her anymore since she's hurt me so bad. So how can I quit thinking back on our past,and just move on with my life and the True friends I have? Thanks and God bless you always,Love Sunshine.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/20/2009 3:57:35 PM
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Hi Sunshine,
I had a similar experience once many years ago. I tried to be nice to my friend, invite her child to come over to play with my child, etc. Then one day when I called her, her daughter answered the phone. She asked who it was, and when my friend heard it was me, I overheard her "less than enthusiastic response". I took the hint, and never called her again. I let that hurt my heart for a long time, and even now (20 years later) that incident still triggers negative emotions inside of me. Obviously I'm not going to be able to tell you how to get over it, but I do think it is possible to learn from it. For myself, I've learned to pay more attention to other people's feelings towards me, and back off at the first sign that I'm overwhelming them. Only you know how your situation might become a learning experience for you. I'm sorry for your hurt. (((hugs)))
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/20/2009 4:30:07 PM
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Oh I feel for you. Just last year a friendship of 15 year with someone who was like a sister to me. I would spend my vacations with her, and was going to be the godmother to her children. But then a lot of things happened and she ended up telling me that she did not want to keep the friendship going it was too hard and she just didn't care any more. I was devastated. I had tried to keep things going but I just couldn't. The one thing I think that helped is we don't live in the same state so I don't have to see her. And I had some very supportive friends come along side me and hold me up. I would suggest turning to your other friends and learning to appreciate who they are to you.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/20/2009 10:13:15 PM
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Thanks so much sue,and I feel for you also.My friend and I were were really close friends for a while,but not nearly as long as you and your friend.I do have lots of other supportive friends,that have proven to be true friends no matter what.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/20/2009 10:18:53 PM
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Hi Sunshine,
I had a similar experience once many years ago. I tried to be nice to my friend, invite her child to come over to play with my child, etc. Then one day when I called her, her daughter answered the phone. She asked who it was, and when my friend heard it was me, I overheard her "less than enthusiastic response". I took the hint, and never called her again. I let that hurt my heart for a long time, and even now (20 years later) that incident still triggers negative emotions inside of me. Obviously I'm not going to be able to tell you how to get over it, but I do think it is possible to learn from it. For myself, I've learned to pay more attention to other people's feelings towards me, and back off at the first sign that I'm overwhelming them. Only you know how your situation might become a learning experience for you. I'm sorry for your hurt. (((hugs)))
Dee Dee
Thanks so much and I know what thats like,being less than nice on the phone.My friend would actually sit home and ignore my phone calls,since she didn't want to talk to me.I have learned from this situation though,to give people a break and also who my true friends are.Its hard but I am trying to get through it.Its just the silliest things make me miss her,like going out to eat yesterday at a place me and her,went last time we went out to eat. Its also hard seeing her every week at church and pretending like she's not there. Oh well.Like another friend said,there are different seasons of friendship.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/20/2009 11:11:02 PM
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We don't turn off our feelings when friendships sour; you'll have to take the time to grieve the loss. You need to forgive her, just like Jesus forgave you.
If your emails were exasperating her, you need to ask yourself if you were writing too many and asking for too much of her time and attention when she didn't have it to spare.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/20/2009 11:24:49 PM
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We don't turn off our feelings when friendships sour; you'll have to take the time to grieve the loss. You need to forgive her, just like Jesus forgave you.
If your emails were exasperating her, you need to ask yourself if you were writing too many and asking for too much of her time and attention when she didn't have it to spare.
I didn't email her that much and anyways she had said it was ok for me
to email her. I didn't think I was asking too much of her but perhaps I was. I have forgiven her as Jesus has forgiven me.I just don't want to bother with her anymore,so that way she won't hurt my feelings anymore.Thanks for your advice and God bless you always,Love Sunshine.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/20/2009 11:45:04 PM
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Thanks so much sue,and I feel for you also.My friend and I were were really close friends for a while,but not nearly as long as you and your friend.I do have lots of other supportive friends,that have proven to be true friends no matter what.
Its instersting after things blew up wiht this gal, I learned more about myself and what friendship should be. I think by being willing to learn from this experience I also learned how to be a better friend and to appraciate my friends more.
I don't know how I would have done if I was in your situation where I had to see her every week. Might have given me a different perspective.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/20/2009 11:46:39 PM
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Deermousie,I am trying to do as Jesus would do,but at the same time don't want to be hurt anymore. If she comes up to me saying sorry,than yeah we can be friends again. I don't want to confront her though,because I'm afraid of how it will go.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/21/2009 12:07:12 AM
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Sunshine, we don't know what's caused your friend to act like this. Maybe things have suddenly got really bad for her in her life, maybe she's jealous of you, or maybe she's genuinely too busy with her life to spend time with you.
She did this in a bit of an abrupt way, so I'd ask God to give me the strength to be brave & gently find out why she doesn't want to know you anymore. She might have misunderstood your behaviour & reacted/over - reacted in a negative way. Women's hormones can play havoc with their moods sometimes. It's not always easy being a woman  .
At the end of the day, you'll get to the bottom of it all which will give you peace of mind & closure on the whole situation, or perhaps you'll be able to renew your friendship if you can come to a deeper understanding of each other.
Hope God guides you in the right direction & gives you peace in the situation whatever the outcome..
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/21/2009 1:17:04 AM
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It sounds like your friend wasn't very tactful in ending the friendship... but then again - ending a friendship isn't easy, even if the person was nice about it.
Since she's not only a friend but a sister in Christ - and you both attend the same church; I suggest praying for your friend... she probably needs it.
It does sound like she's overwhelmed by things in her life and by her response to your email (overwhelmed people respond badly)
- so pray for her.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/21/2009 10:09:51 PM
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It sounds like your friend wasn't very tactful in ending the friendship... but then again - ending a friendship isn't easy, even if the person was nice about it.
Since she's not only a friend but a sister in Christ - and you both attend the same church; I suggest praying for your friend... she probably needs it.
It does sound like she's overwhelmed by things in her life and by her response to your email (overwhelmed people respond badly)
- so pray for her.
Thanks so much for reminding me to pray for her.I have been praying about the situation,but havent directly prayed for this person too often.
Thanks to your reminding me though,I did pray for her today and will try to pray for her more often.Have a good night,and God bless you always,Love Sunshine.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/21/2009 11:43:31 PM
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- so pray for her.
I will pray for both of em.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/21/2009 11:59:04 PM
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Thanks so much Robin.I appreciate all the prayer I can get.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 10/31/2009 11:51:28 PM
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Last month a friend I was really close with turned on me.I wrote her an email telling her some good news,and her response to me was very mean.She told me loud and clear,(her email was all in caps) how she doesn't have time for my emails,and in case I've forgotten she is very busy with church,her job,kids,and etc and that I need to stop bothering her.I'll admit I was really excited about my news and told her on facebook,You gotta read my email! I also admit that at times I've nagged her about things,but as a friend she's always forgiven me for that bad habit. Now she's been deleted from facebook along with my email list,and doesn't even say hi to me at church anymore. You would think with how mean she has been to me,losing her for a friend would be no big deal. Yet for some reason I really miss her,and all the fun times we had together.I used to babysit her kids,and she was once even like a mentor to me,helping me grow alot in the Lord. I have forgiven her in my heart,but don't want to bother with her anymore since she's hurt me so bad. So how can I quit thinking back on our past,and just move on with my life and the True friends I have? Thanks and God bless you always,Love Sunshine.
Losing friends can be as painful as parting with a girlfriends / boyfriends, especially when there's a falling out. It's normal for friendships to fade away, but I think your friend should have done a better job communicating. Instead of blowing up at you, she could've told you that you were taking up a little too much of her time. Pray for her and one day she may realize she overreacted and was mean to you. Of course I don't know the whole story but am basing this on what you've told us. Who knows, she may come to her senses sooner than you think. There are friends and girlfriends I remember, but the one or two I felt betrayed me stood out in my memory. I forgive those that mistreated me (not that I haven't hurt anyone) and am at peace now. When I think about these past relationships, sometimes I shake my head and remember how things used to be and the mistakes I made, even the small ones. Don't beat yourself up, if a true friend finds you too needy and doesn't have time they will tell you before it becomes a serious problem, not tell you to get lost out of nowhere. It takes time to heal so pray and try to get on with your life. Pray for her and focus on the other good friends God has given to you.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 11/2/2009 11:42:49 PM
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[ Losing friends can be as painful as parting with a girlfriends / boyfriends, especially when there's a falling out. It's normal for friendships to fade away, but I think your friend should have done a better job communicating. Instead of blowing up at you, she could've told you that you were taking up a little too much of her time. Pray for her and one day she may realize she overreacted and was mean to you. Of course I don't know the whole story but am basing this on what you've told us. Who knows, she may come to her senses sooner than you think. There are friends and girlfriends I remember, but the one or two I felt betrayed me stood out in my memory. I forgive those that mistreated me (not that I haven't hurt anyone) and am at peace now. When I think about these past relationships, sometimes I shake my head and remember how things used to be and the mistakes I made, even the small ones. Don't beat yourself up, if a true friend finds you too needy and doesn't have time they will tell you before it becomes a serious problem, not tell you to get lost out of nowhere. It takes time to heal so pray and try to get on with your life. Pray for her and focus on the other good friends God has given to you.
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Thanks so much for your advice,and for reassuring me not to beat myself up.I have done that pretty often,and know its not healthy too.I have been praying for this girl,and asking God to have his way in this situation.I am also focusing more on my other true friends,and doing my best to trust God through it all.God bless you and have a good night.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 11/3/2009 9:25:02 PM
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Hey,
I am kinda of going thru the same thing but its a little diffrent. Here is how I been handling it
1. I pray that god would help me to forgive and help me to see the situation clearly.
2. I prayed that God would help know what to do about it
3. I pray for the person
4. I look around me and try to reach out to people who need a friend.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 11/3/2009 10:32:53 PM
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Oh, sunshine, I know how you feel. I went through the loss of three friends (one was closest, of course). I cried for a year. And I sang Twila Paris' song, Throne Room Suite, which says:
Search my heart, make me clean,
It's Your approval I long for.
Rule my life, be my King,
Do what You will, I belong to You.
For I've found my hope in You,
Trusting in no man,
Leaning not on earthly wisdom,
Things I understand,
Hide my heart away,
Fill me with Your love,
Let the world forsake me,
I will find my hope in You. . .
And it continues. But it was a beautiful time of real grieving over the loss of women who were 'sisters' to me. But it was also beautiful because it was a time of drawing closer to the Lord. During that time I read a quote by C. S. Lewis that said "God gives His gifts to vessels who are empty enough to receive them."
The loss of these friendships was one of the emptying experiences that opened me up to the Lord's love in greater and deeper ways than before. It takes breaking like that for us to be ready for His coming in new and more meaningful ways.
Even though I cried out to the Lord and just physically cried for a whole year, my soul grew immensely and I found Jesus to be the friend no girlfriend ever could be. I no longer 'needed' friends because I had a friend. And now I could just be a friend to others.
About eighteen months after the loss of those friends, the one woman who I had been closest to called me. She said, "I have tried and tried and tried to forget you. But I can't. So I asked the Lord why I couldn't forget you. He told me He wouldn't let me forget you because what I did was sinful and I needed to repent. . . to Him and to you. . . Can you forgive me for throwing you away?"
Sunshine, that phone call was a miracle that only the Holy Spirit could make happen. That woman and I remain friends. We aren't talk every day friends like we were before. But we are closer than before because of the healing the Lord brought about in our relationship. She comes to our home each Wednesday for Bible study. And our restored friendship is a most wonderful testimony of the power of God.
It will take time. Your loss is so new. Take your grief and pain to the Lord and let Him comfort You. Let Him become that friend that sticks closer than a brother (or any old girl friend ). I'm sending you a cyber hug. The Lord loves you and means this for good in your life. Believe it!   Liveloved
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 11/3/2009 10:34:12 PM
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Thanks so much sloneboy and I have been trying to remember to do all those same things. I'm sorry you're going through the same thing.Its rough isn't it?
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 11/3/2009 10:59:44 PM
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I really don't know the right answer but here is the best I can say. Ask God to help.
Realize that there is an enemy and He is real. Spiritual warfare is there and as you
start following God more, the more the enemy will want to discourage ou.
Second, with friends, ask them about
how they are doing? Often we need to learn to them and care about them.
And likely the anger isn't directed to you, it is just likely other
things that have happened a long time(in their youth). And there is probably
current struggles which are hard for her to deal with.
And honestly sometimes God wants to break our people pleasing ways but losing
a friend is not easy.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 11/4/2009 11:00:55 PM
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Oh, sunshine, I know how you feel. I went through the loss of three friends (one was closest, of course). I cried for a year. And I sang Twila Paris' song, Throne Room Suite, which says:
Search my heart, make me clean,
It's Your approval I long for.
Rule my life, be my King,
Do what You will, I belong to You.
For I've found my hope in You,
Trusting in no man,
Leaning not on earthly wisdom,
Things I understand,
Hide my heart away,
Fill me with Your love,
Let the world forsake me,
I will find my hope in You. . .
And it continues. But it was a beautiful time of real grieving over the loss of women who were 'sisters' to me. But it was also beautiful because it was a time of drawing closer to the Lord. During that time I read a quote by C. S. Lewis that said "God gives His gifts to vessels who are empty enough to receive them."
The loss of these friendships was one of the emptying experiences that opened me up to the Lord's love in greater and deeper ways than before. It takes breaking like that for us to be ready for His coming in new and more meaningful ways.
Even though I cried out to the Lord and just physically cried for a whole year, my soul grew immensely and I found Jesus to be the friend no girlfriend ever could be. I no longer 'needed' friends because I had a friend. And now I could just be a friend to others.
About eighteen months after the loss of those friends, the one woman who I had been closest to called me. She said, "I have tried and tried and tried to forget you. But I can't. So I asked the Lord why I couldn't forget you. He told me He wouldn't let me forget you because what I did was sinful and I needed to repent. . . to Him and to you. . . Can you forgive me for throwing you away?"
Sunshine, that phone call was a miracle that only the Holy Spirit could make happen. That woman and I remain friends. We aren't talk every day friends like we were before. But we are closer than before because of the healing the Lord brought about in our relationship. She comes to our home each Wednesday for Bible study. And our restored friendship is a most wonderful testimony of the power of God.
It will take time. Your loss is so new. Take your grief and pain to the Lord and let Him comfort You. Let Him become that friend that sticks closer than a brother (or any old girl friend ). I'm sending you a cyber hug. The Lord loves you and means this for good in your life. Believe it! Liveloved
Thanks so much for the advice and for encouraging me with your story as well.I cannot imagine losing three friends in a year.Thats rough.I so pray that will happen for me,gaining my friend back.That would truly be a miracle and very awesome. God bless you and have a great night,Love always Sunshine.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 11/8/2009 2:26:00 AM
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Sunshine - I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I'm had a different situation, in that I'm the one who did the leaving. I had a friend that I've known for years and who really treated me poorly for a long time. As I began to heal from many hurts and wounds and as I began to know who I am in Christ I changed ALL (and I mean all) of my friendships, with the exception of this one. I tolerated her treatment less and less and started standing up for myself. When I tried to talk to her about the issues, she'd get defensive and would justify herself and turn around and attack me. So I finally cut her out of my life - cold turkey. I'm in the process of forgiving her, and I pray for her because some of her other friends have stopped sharing major parts of their lives with her (like the fact that they were getting married), but I don't know if I'll ever really want to see or talk with her again. Should I do so, I will tell her why I ended contact - although I doubt that she'd receive it.
I don't get the sense though, that you've been that way with this person. The only question I would ask if during the friendship - did you spend more time talking about yourself and your problems? Like, did you know what happened in your friend's day to day life? Was it all about you? I've had people try to do that to me too and I had to distance myself from them because they were too draining. If that doesn't sound like you, it might just be your friend. I do know that sometimes when you are vulnerable with people (and it sounds like you've been that way with your friend), some people can't handle it. They can turn on you because for some reason, they thrive on treating you poorly. Those people are not friends. Revealing yourself to people gradually can help with this - you'll probably find that there will only be a select few that you can share with at a very deep level.
Whatever it is, you'll need to just forgive and move on. Respect her decision to end the relationship. Withdraw and pray for her. At some point in the future, you might be able to find out why this happened. It sounds like you've found some people who appreciate you for who you are. Focus on those relationships. You seem to be a very nice, very sweet person. Lots of people will appreciate that about you.
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RE: How do you get over losing a friend? - 11/8/2009 9:39:54 PM
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ORIGINAL: Liveloved
Search my heart, make me clean,
It's Your approval I long for.
Rule my life, be my King,
Do what You will, I belong to You.
For I've found my hope in You,
Fill me with Your love,
Let the world forsake me,
I will find my hope in You. . .
It takes breaking like that for us to be ready for His coming in new and more meaningful ways.
About eighteen months after the loss of those friends, the one woman who I had been closest to called me. She said, "I have tried and tried and tried to forget you. But I can't. So I asked the Lord why I couldn't forget you. He told me He wouldn't let me forget you because what I did was sinful and I needed to repent. . . to Him and to you. . . Can you forgive me for throwing you away?"
Sunshine, that phone call was a miracle that only the Holy Spirit could make happen. That woman and I remain friends. We aren't talk every day friends like we were before. But we are closer than before because of the healing the Lord brought about in our relationship. She comes to our home each Wednesday for Bible study. And our restored friendship is a most wonderful testimony of the power of God.
It will take time. Your loss is so new. Take your grief and pain to the Lord and let Him comfort You. Let Him become that friend that sticks closer than a brother (or any old girl friend ). I'm sending you a cyber hug. The Lord loves you and means this for good in your life. Believe it! Liveloved
amen.
I stand with you.
Everything you said, I would have said exactly the same things.
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I found Jesus to be the friend no girlfriend ever could be. I no longer 'needed' friends because I had a friend. And now I could just be a friend to others. That's how I am. a friend. Jesus is now my best friend.
< Message edited by Robin-again -- 11/8/2009 9:45:56 PM >
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If we don't feel close to Him we are the ones that walked away. He is still right beside us.
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