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Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce his ... - 4/17/2008 2:38:24 PM
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faroukfarouk
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"would you let your son pierce his ears?
Dont think there is such a thread on this site anyway
DenimDiva: You're welcome to start one. If you start one, I'll join you there. Roberta"
Okay so I wasn't planning to start it, but Roberta put me up to it....
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 3:02:37 PM
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faroukfarouk
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...so I guess this is a question to answer...
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 3:11:28 PM
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As I said in the other thread, I let my girls decide on their own.
I would do the same for my sons. They are now 22 and 19 and have no piercings (or tattoos).
I would let them decide on their own, I would not make that decision for them, but they would've had to wait until they were older and able to take care of their ears by themselves- just like the girls did.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 3:14:17 PM
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faroukfarouk
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As I said in the other thread, I let my girls decide on their own.
I would do the same for my sons. They are now 22 and 19 and have no piercings (or tattoos).
I would let them decide on their own, I would not make that decision for them, but they would've had to wait until they were older and able to take care of their ears by themselves- just like the girls did.
Okay, fine.
BTW, but when they were teens and able to take care of the ears, did they actually know that you would have let them pierce their ears, if they had asked?
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 3:20:20 PM
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DenimDiva
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They knew all along that they could do it if they wanted too.
I have 2 girls and 2 boys. So far, the only one who got her ears pierced is the 15 year old.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 3:30:48 PM
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quote:
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They knew all along that they could do it if they wanted too.
I have 2 girls and 2 boys. So far, the only one who got her ears pierced is the 15 year old.
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I would do the same for my sons. They are now 22 and 19 and have no piercings (or tattoos).
Well they must have thought it was nice to have a tolerant mom; some moms aren't! Anyway. (Though re. your mention of the tattoos, I'm guessing you still wouldnt be too thrilled if your daughters wanted those.)
I guess it varies from family to family what age the boys' earrings thing is seen as appropriate, anyway.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 3:32:45 PM
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DenimDiva
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I personally do not care for tattoos, but to each his own.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 3:38:20 PM
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I personally do not care for tattoos, but to each his own.
I guess there is a difference, though, isnt there, because most parlors wont tattoo under 18s, after which they dont need parental permission, right?
Whereas it seems that the teens, boys as well as girls, can get into the ear piercing thing way before then.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 4:03:01 PM
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I'd want my children to wait until 18 before having a tattoo, and we'd have a long talk about them beforehand.
The boys would have the same restrictions as a girl regarding earings, old enough to take care of them, etc.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 4:21:47 PM
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I'd want my children to wait until 18 before having a tattoo, and we'd have a long talk about them beforehand.
The boys would have the same restrictions as a girl regarding earings, old enough to take care of them, etc.
Okay, so in the end, like you wouldnt with a daughter, you wouldnt prevent your sons from having their ears done as well, if they really wanted them and could look after them.
Take care.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 4:37:12 PM
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Yes, his mother, who likes to have her children "look" rebellious, even at a young age. Remember, not all mothers are the mothering type.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 4:40:17 PM
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Yes, his mother, who likes to have her children "look" rebellious, even at a young age. Remember, not all mothers are the mothering type.
Thnx. And interesting that you seem to associate being 'mothering' with the 'clean' earlobe look for boys. I guess that there are some moms out there also who are very mothering and also happen have taken their sons to have their ears done.
Thnx again.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 4:43:01 PM
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Don't twist my words. That is not what I said. Anyone who knows me on these boards knows that.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 4:44:51 PM
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No offence intended or even understood: I must simply have misunderstood.
God bless.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 4:45:00 PM
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I agree with The Denim Diva's position.
I didn't have boys, but if I did, I would've done the same thing.
course...I don't see what the big deal is one way or the other 
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 4:53:33 PM
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But Wal-Mart will do it practically free with one of those gun things...and they give you the medicated goop to avoid infection. 
I guess when you are disobedient, you generally do it in secret though.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 4:58:24 PM
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So parents shouldn't feel free to say no, just in case their kids decide to be disobedient? Let's give them nothing to disagree with?
Well, I can't agree with that.
If one of my sons, as a grown man living on his dime not mine, were to get his ear pierced, I would not care. I can't be sure of course, but I probably wouldn't say a word to them about it.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 5:04:16 PM
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So parents shouldn't feel free to say no, just in case their kids decide to be disobedient? Let's give them nothing to disagree with?
Well, I can't agree with that.
If one of my sons, as a grown man living on his dime not mine, were to get his ear pierced, I would not care. I can't be sure of course, but I probably wouldn't say a word to them about it.
Of course it's the parent's call. You are absolutely right. And the young person also needs to understand that no means no, if that's the case.
There is still a point to considering if the boy is likely to go do it behind the parent's back and risk an infection (not a good idea, with all the diseases about), some parents would weigh up whether on balance the sensible and moderate thing is to let their son also, in a hygienic and clean environment, have done what maybe many of his friends at school and in the church youth group have already had done.
Only that parent can make that call, of course.
Take care.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 5:06:11 PM
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I think someone earlier said it was a matter of personal conviction or what the "family" itself decides and then enforces...I agree with that.
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RE: Roberta asked: "would you let your son pierce ... - 4/17/2008 5:07:54 PM
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PrincessDonna
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That seems to follow with the logic that kids/teens are going to have sex no matter what you say, so you might as well just put them on the pill, so they can do it "safely". Or as some parents think...kids/teens are going to drink, so I might as well supply it to them here at home, so I can make sure they are safe.
It's a parenting philosophy my husband and I totally disagree with, as do many on this forum, I believe. We don't just allow our children to do something we don't want them to do, just so they don't get hurt if they decide to disobey.
ETA...Connie, we crossposted. And I do agree, it is up to the parents to decide and then follow through. It just seems the OP isn't getting why some would say 'no' on this topic.
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. I do know the youngest has one now. He's 30, I guess it's up to him. Can't say I like it, but by this time it is not my choice!
