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an honest look - 6/14/2008 6:41:10 PM
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OneOfHisJewels
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If you take a truly honest look at yourself, what flaw do you KNOW you need to work on overcoming before marriage?
I know I need to work on overcoming anger, esp. over past hurts, and to completely have my joy in the Lord, and to truly forget what lies behind.
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RE: an honest look - 6/14/2008 6:54:50 PM
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I need to work on expressing my emotions better. I have a keep my feelings to myself; it was how I was raised. So, I would want to learn to do that in order to better communicate with my wife and grow intimacy with her.
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RE: an honest look - 6/14/2008 7:07:50 PM
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I'm a little too cautious about making a commitment. Marriage is such an important decision that it's possible I overcompensate by erring on the side of caution.
I'm also a little too much of an introvert. I need to learn how to be around people for more extended periods of time without wanting to disappear and have my solitary time.
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RE: an honest look - 6/14/2008 7:15:17 PM
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I need to be able to make room for another person in my life without feeling like I'm losing who I am. And I need to be able to make a long term commitment without feeling trapped. I need to be able to compromise without thinking that I'm making a huge sacrifice.
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RE: an honest look - 6/14/2008 8:36:35 PM
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I merely need to determine whether what appears to have happened in my life really happened or if I'm just insane. *sigh*
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RE: an honest look - 6/14/2008 10:03:48 PM
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I need to slow down. I am fast-paced person who likes to work hard. I need to slow down and...have more fun. I am still working on this thru God's help.
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RE: an honest look - 6/14/2008 10:08:13 PM
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I definitely need to be able to trust again, I am a huge red flag watcher now. I got married so young and my ex wife has some serious issues.. I'm very cautious. I also maintain a high standard for my daughters for two reasons. One because this person will be involved in there life to some extent, it is unavoidable. And two because I have an ego and want my girls to see their dad as strong, happy, and successful. I probably watch too closely for red flags.
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RE: an honest look - 6/21/2008 10:12:37 AM
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I'll need to learn to trust someone else to make decisions for the Things. I've been doing it myself for so long and while I've second guessed myself quite frequently it will be hard to let someone make decisions for them.
I'm also a fairly stubborn person and will need to learn to compromise (which I'm getting much better at!).
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RE: an honest look - 6/23/2008 11:03:41 AM
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Not one thing!!!!, take me as I am
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RE: an honest look - 6/23/2008 12:42:33 PM
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ORIGINAL: Psalms274
there is nothing I need to work on (in other word "fix") before I get married .... and I will always be a work in progress ... as will my husband ...
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RE: an honest look - 6/23/2008 12:45:19 PM
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I will admit my cooking skills need work.
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RE: an honest look - 6/23/2008 4:37:58 PM
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I will admit my cooking skills need work.
Amen to that!!!!!!
I once knew a woman who didn't know how to cook when she got married. She only knew how to bake. "Honey, would you like cookies for dinner?"
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RE: an honest look - 6/24/2008 10:17:28 AM
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..... y'all are crackin' me up!!
What Pauley isn't tellin' ya is the fact that he's a most excellent cook!!!
You would need to know this to catch his humor!!!
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RE: an honest look - 6/24/2008 6:56:42 PM
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ORIGINAL: shemaromans
I'm also a little too much of an introvert. I need to learn how to be around people for more extended periods of time without wanting to disappear and have my solitary time.
That's one of my fears --- that there will be such long times of my introverted side kicking in, that I'll not want to be around my own family much! And during a child's younger years, Momma needs to be around him/her a lot. Constantly, during babyhood.
So...
My single years seem to have one theme (among many) of pushing through my own discomfort to do what is needed to be done, to show love, to put others first ... but also to take care of myself so that I can take care of others. (As a type 1 diabetic on the insulin pump, care of my physical self is crucial.) It's a principle and practice that is good to begin before marriage and motherhood.
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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker
1. I need to be able to make room for another person in my life without feeling like I'm losing who I am.
2. And I need to be able to make a long term commitment without feeling trapped.
3. I need to be able to compromise without thinking that I'm making a huge sacrifice.
(I've numbered the statements so that readers can follow my responses, which correspond to the statements above.)
I hear ya, PH. I hear ya.
But... it's good to remember: you and I can do all things through Christ who strengthens us (Philippians 4:13).
1. So... I can make room in my life and resist that fear of "losing" who I am. And I can also maintain who I am ---> by trusting that Christ preserves me. I certainly cannot preserve my me-ness. Besides, if I overprotect my life, I lose it! But by giving my life away, as God directs, I gain His life....and the true "me" He always intended there to be. It's a beautiful mystery.
And the becoming one --- a new creation, in a sense --- is a mystery as well. We must push past fear ... embrace Christ ... and let the mystery unfold. =)
2. If one chooses one's spouse wisely and trusts God, the likelihood of actually "being" trapped in a bad marriage, is much less. (No guarantees, of course.) Remember Psalm 56:3 --- no matter what comes up in life, God is with us and we can trust Him in ANY situation.
Going back to Phil. 4:13 ---> What thing can I do b/c Christ strengthens me by BEING my strength (see Nehemiah 8:10)? I can choose wisely and I can trust God --- in all stages of meeting, getting to know, spending time with, evaluating the character of, and choosing to marry the man who will (if the Lord allows) become my husband.
3. Actually, God calls us to make huge sacrifices. And to join in Christ's suffering. But like Meshach, Shadrach, and Abednego (Daniel 3), we can go into the fiery furnace of the unknown --- into possible suffering, or even definite suffering --- and trust God that He will either rescue us or get us through --- our souls preserved for Him, for the hope we have of heaven. That we will not bow down to the false god of fear, of envy, of wrath, or of any other concept or thing that would try to keep us out of close communion with Christ.
It really helps to read the accounts of Christian martyrs and of other Christians who survived the horrible sufferings they went through --- to see how God brought them closer to Him in communion/fellowship, glorified Himself through their sufferings, and how He revealed Himself to nonbelievers through these faithful ones.
Thus, it puts into perspective anything we would suffer --- for example, any level of the pain involved with a sacrifice of any kind.
I'm there with ya. I have the same fears. But.... I cannot stand on fear, which is nothing solid... I can only stand on His grace. On His Word. On the Truth. On HIMSELF.
And thus, I know that because He lives, because He holds the future, I can face "tomorrow"* with a husband.... with children..... and be His child through the roles of wife and mother.
 I hope this encourages all of us to faith and good works!  
* hat tip to Bill and Gloria Gaither for writing the beautiful words from "Because He Lives" *
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RE: an honest look - 6/25/2008 2:23:26 AM
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I don't know how to deal with regret. It eats me alive and i end up doing things to forget about it.
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