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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 7/30/2009 11:07:01 AM
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Eutychus
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In case you missed it, I posted this in the other thread:
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I remember, when I was working a few years ago, when all the stink started about smoking and second-hand smoke and businesses had to make a separate area for smokers to smoke in (since then smokers have been confined to out-side or off company property). Anyway, the company I worked for gave us a smoking room with an exhaust fan to draw the smoke outside --- of course the lunch room had these same type fans and all smokers used the tables under these so as not to bother non-smokers --- well they put us in this room, yet the biggest anti-smokers, moaners and grumblers came into the smoke room with us. We asked why, their answer was, "We like sitting with you all, you're so much fun to be around; you just have to know that we'll do and say whatever it takes to get you to quit."
I didn't miss it. Let me tell my own story.
Years ago, back in the late 70s, I got sick and tired of smoking and finally quit (and managed to stay quit a year before stupidly caving in moment of stress and anger).
Guess what my good old smoking buddies did. They made fun of me. One even blew smoke in my face. They rode my back until they were convinced they could not destroy my resolve. The ONLY support I got was from nonsmokers.
So don't tell me how saintly smokers are to one another and how accepting they are to everybody else.
T'ain't so.
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 7/30/2009 12:00:22 PM
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Haven't been posting much due to some health problems my husband is going through, but I am still quit. I would like to respond here to some of the most recent posts. All smokers know the health risk and unfortunately the addiction is stronger than that fear, at least for most folks. In defense of Pat here, very few people have successfully quit smoking based on what someone else thinks they should do. Until she reaches the place that she wants to quit for her own reasons regardless of what those reasons are she won't succeed. This may not be true of all smokers, but for myself when I got down to why I was having so much trouble putting them down, it was because I truly didn't want to give them up. People do what they want to do and if they want to do something they will. Same with smoking. I quit because I felt it hurt my witness, smoking killed my dad, and I was just ready.
Honestly, I feel non-smokers can encourage me more right now than smokers. I don't want someone to tell me it's okay to smoke, I want someone to tell me not to touch them anymore. Blessings all.
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 7/30/2009 12:02:35 PM
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stellaluna
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I believe there are several people who are non-smokers that post in this thread, just for the opportunity to cheer others on.
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 7/30/2009 12:05:51 PM
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Eutychus
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Vanessa, it's great to see you post and that you are still free. I also agree with your comments. Nobody can make another want to quit and, sometimes, trying to help another see the bad in continuing just reinforces the choice to continue.
Being Free has become my greatest joy in this journey!
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 7/30/2009 12:09:05 PM
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vvmyrss
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Don't touch them anymore!
Thank you! My husband is having partial seizures and has possibly suffered a mild stroke, his left side is a little weak. Waiting to have the EEG done next week.
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I believe there are several people who are non-smokers that post in this thread, just for the opportunity to cheer others on.
Yes, I know. My point is sometimes we need someone to be blunt and to the point and not sugar coat anything, or at least I do.
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 7/30/2009 12:16:37 PM
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Thank you! My husband is having partial seizures and has possibly suffered a mild stroke, his left side is a little weak. Waiting to have the EEG done next week.
Oh Vanessa, how scary for you both.
(((hug)))
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 7/30/2009 12:35:18 PM
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I'm sorry, I meant that for Sharon-Marie
No problem.
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I hope your husband's health issues get figured out soon
God is in control and I rest in that.
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 7/30/2009 1:21:32 PM
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My name's Manda and I am a non-smoker. 
I am a carer for someone with mental health issues who smokes. He is also an on and off recovering heroin addict.
I cannot abide the smell of cigarette smoke, either in the air or on someone's clothes or breath. I have a sensitive nose and cigarette smoke makes my nose feel weird inside and it also makes me feel sick. If I am in a smoky atmosphere for any length of time (as I was when I worked in a day centre for homeless people) I get a noseache (up in the bridge of my nose) and headache.
But as far as I can, I try to accept smokers as they are, including their habit, just as I try to accept anyone else as they are. I don't make any derogatory remarks, nor do I try and talk to them about cutting down or giving up (unless they've asked me to). I don't mention the smell of the smoke or how it affects me (here is the first time I've ever mentioned it in the company of smokers).
I do ask them not to smoke in my car or my home, and if they're smoking out in the street I will try and stand upwind of them, to try and avoid smoke drifting into my face.
But that's it.
Does that mean I am not accepting smokers as they are?
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 7/30/2009 2:03:42 PM
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The reply I expected.
When I smoked, I'd occasionally have a non-smoker tell me that they didn't think there was anything wrong with smoking and that there was no proof smoking did any harm.
Even then, I thought they were, at best, naive. All I had to do was think about the times I nearly coughed up a lung at night or had difficulty breathing.
Funny, I've not had such an experience since I quit.
None. Nada. Zip.
Aside from all that, I can take a trip, planned or on the spur of the moment, for a day or two weeks without any concern whatsoever about getting a nicotine fix. I can do anything, go anywhere, be with anyone for as long as I want without having to worry about my old master, nicotine.
Can you say that?
Not worrying that the next twinge in my body is going to turn out to be oral or lung cancer is a nice benefit. But more than that, the thing I value more than anything else on a day to day basis is the SHEER FREEDOM FROM THE NICOTINE SLAVE MASTER!!!!
I can't say it enough, I REJOICE for you in your FREEDOM!!!
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 7/30/2009 2:40:14 PM
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Lets remember, this is the quit smoking support thread. If you are not ready to quit then please do not come in here and harass those who are ready. Thank you for your cooperation.
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 7/30/2009 3:39:47 PM
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stellaluna
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Of course, I'd like to see the people in the smoking thread posting in this quitting thread. Always happy to see people overcome their addictions.
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 7/30/2009 7:08:58 PM
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Silverstring
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Smoking is harmful.
Quitting isn't easy.
Praise God, I'm free now (I hope). This happened after a lot of help and support from you in this room. Prior to this, parts of my family and some of my friends did try to talk me into quitting, pointing out it's bad for my health (duh) and that I was stupid and weak (some of them aren't my friends any more). All true, I'm sure, but after an evenings barrage of this I just couldn't wait for them to clear out so I could light up and get some illusion of peace.
So sick and tired of "understanding" friends and family seeing yet another weak willed defeat in this area, I did not tell them about the quit before several days/weeks into this last attempt.
Craves, be them mental or physical, are very stressful. Chemicals mess with the brain, and previous defeats are prominent in the mind. So let's all remember this, and cut each other a lot of slack here.
Ultimately: All you need is ONE successful attempt. Keep at it.
< Message edited by Silverstring -- 7/30/2009 10:07:35 PM >
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 8/1/2009 9:30:17 AM
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Awesome! What encouraging reports from our quitstickers!
Vanessa, we will be praying for your husband. I agree with you:God is in control. That is good advise. We all need to put complete trust in God in all
things.
If I am correct this is 59 days for you, Vanessa! Wow! and praise the Lord!
Never, never give up!!
Keep your eyes on the Lord!
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 8/1/2009 8:21:24 PM
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manda59
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Man Seeks Exile on Scottish Island to Quit Smoking
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 8/1/2009 8:25:22 PM
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stellaluna
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Well, that's one way to do it.
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 8/1/2009 8:42:26 PM
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Silverstring
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Try this one for isolation
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 8/3/2009 9:13:55 PM
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vvmyrss
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I really feel like I'm getting slammed lately. My husband had a severe reaction to the seizure medication the neurologist put him on, so no more medication. He is having the EEG done Wednesday to find out what is going on. I have to confess that I have seriously considered smoking today, but haven't caved yet. Somebody give me a stern talking to here. What has kept me off of them is a very timely message our pastor did on temptation. He said temptation is a invitation and to throw that invitation out and that God is faithful and will give us the strength to withstand. But I am really tired of being slammed. Encouragement welcomed right now.
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 8/3/2009 9:21:40 PM
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stellaluna
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We're all so proud of you! Hang in there. And remember: if you can get through this without smoking, you can get through anything without smoking!
Nicotine just delays the inevitable: coping with your stress. Prayer is a much better coping mechanism! I'm praying for you right now!
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 8/4/2009 8:00:57 AM
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Eutychus
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Nicotine doesn't fix or improve anything. It only feeds and stengthens the nicotine addiction. The only way to keep it from taking over your life again is to starve it to death!
Day 1,070 nicotine-FREE, Day 1,167 tobacco-FREE. Another day on the Freedom Train!
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