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ORIGINAL: Denny01

Hello Sir,

My name is Bro. Dennis. I’m 17 yrs old now and I am a high school graduate. my reason of writing this letter to you is to describe the kind of life I am living as a teen, not pleasing to God and my regrets. (Please Sir, I write also to seek your help.)
I am a Christian but my Christian life is not one that can be written home about; it’s WORTHLESS! Reason is that, since the day I gave my life to Jesus as my Lord and Saviour, and then baptized (Sunday 24th December, 2006) I have been even worst than my former lifestyle. I do immoral things in the sight of God. My ordeal or Confession goes thus:
It was in the year 2005, when my cousin introduced me into The Computer and internet thing. At first, I never had full knowledge of it but it influenced me a lot. This cousin, whom I senior thought me how to browse the internet and check mails, plays games and chat. Then I was 14yrs old and he was 13yrs old. Due to the great influence of games and emails, I never thought of what I was doing. In the long process of time, he then introduced me to watching PORNOGRAPHY on the internet. It so much affected me that I steal my parent’s money and sneaking away to the café with him to watch it; then returning home by 8pm. This continued until I stole my Dad’s money to buy a phone on January 2006 to be precise. He didn’t know and when he asked me of the money to buy a phone came about, I lied that I saved it.
I started using this phone and connected it to the internet again and started watching porn on it. My parents were unaware of this evil act I was doing: though they think im a HOLY SEED. This continued until April 2007 when I started to migrate from porn watching to MASTURBATION. I kept on that act until now. I can’t seem to stop masturbating and watch porn even on the internet. It been a longtime I served God with all my heart…..every time I try to please God, I see myself backsliding to continue in it. Even today, this morning: 7th of October 2008, I masturbated and watched porn at home on my PC. (My Pc is connected to the internet presently).
Please Sir, help me on steps to stop masturbating and watching porn both on the internet and on the TV. It’s getting worse everyday. A month wouldn’t pass by without me committing that act. Imagine 3yrs of watching porn and masturbation as a teen.


I’ll be grateful if my request will be treated accordingly.




THANKS AND GOD BLESS.

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ORIGINAL: ranmanpats

JUST STOP! If you want to stop, then stop. Quit sinning and saying it is inevitable. Next thing you will be telling me you were born that way and deserve special privileges.
How bout this - stop buying it, logging on to it and watching it. If you do this, guess what? You will have stopped. If you keep doing it, you will....well keep doing it.
I am not saying prayer is not needed, it most very well is, but God will not miraculously make you stop. You have to do it.
Hey, this is a tuff love post, but isn't that why we have a mens only page?

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ORIGINAL: MowTin

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ORIGINAL: rosswell59

This seems to me to be a more philosophical approach than scriptural. God allows us to sin to teach us what we are as men born of the flesh. The scriptural pattern is "cease to do evil learn to do good". The first step is judging ourselves before God by confessing our sin. The second step is to seek His grace to be strengthened in the inner man that we will not succomb to these natural desires. After all, there ARE women who enjoy enticing men into lust. One only need to walk through any public place to observe this phenomenon. It may be true that they are spiritual slaves but as sinners, they enjoy such bondage.
Yours in Christ,
Ross

Well, you said it: "cease to do evil learn to do good."

Repentence means to change your mind. It means that you've changed your thinking. You see the evil in your deeds.

Unfortunately, a lot of Christians try to deal with sexual issues through "will power" or praying that the desire will disappear. Using will power is sort of like lifting something heavy. Yes, you can lift it and maybe you can keep it lifted for a long time but the weight never gets lighter. The weight is there 24 hours a day 7 days a week waiting for you to tire. Eventually you get tired and drop the weight. You feel guilty and ashamed and you start the cycle all over again.

You'll often find that the more you struggle against your sexual desires the stronger they become. Why? It's because the focus on SELF becomes more intense as you struggle against your desires. You actually become more selfish and the selfish desires become even more powerful.

The solution is to take the focus off of self. Go out and do good. Think about other people and how they feel. Have sympathy for these poor women. As your focus on self diminishes so will your selfish desires. Instead of praying for yourself (by praying for these desires to disappear) maybe you should pray for these women. Pray that they should be set free and be saved to marry godly men and become godly mothers.

I remember the only time when I felt really free of these desires was when I was actively doing good. Focusing on these desires by praying about them and trying to surppress them through will power only makes them stronger. It appears to work for a while but eventually you weaken. It is a losing strategy IMHO.

I think our real problem is not that we lust for these women. I think our real problem is that we don't care about them. If we cared then these images would make us sad instead of lustful.