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RE: When breast WASN'T best - 3/23/2009 1:43:56 PM
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manda59
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(((Erin)))
I know you want to keep the peace, but if it bothers you, you may need to be more assertive about stating what you actually want her to do, and stand up to her gently but firmly if she tries to pull the "I know best" thing on you.
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RE: When breast WASN'T best - 3/23/2009 1:47:06 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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Ugh...I just talked with MIL and he has now taken another bottle. I dont know what the deal is. He wont take hardley any from my mom but takes 3 or 4 bottles a day from MIL, though I dont know why so many. Two is normally enough, but everytime he lets out a little cry they feed him. I dont want to sound like I dont want them feeding him but....I dont know. I'm in a mood today and this is stressing me out.
You know, if he is actually eating when they offer the bottle then I wouldn't worry about it, honest. Lots of women nurse the same way, and we bottle fed Gabby totally on demand which for Micah meant feeding her every time she cried, lol.
What about it is really bothering you? That they aren't doing it the same way you do or that he might be eating to much(cause that really isn't something I would worry about)?
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RE: When breast WASN'T best - 3/23/2009 2:05:56 PM
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Makes perfect sense to me. You're his mom and you want the final say, even if you're not with him. I tend to feel the same way, even about things that don't really matter and can get really irritated if I am not careful to watch myself and make sure it is something that does matter before I speak to the person about it.
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RE: When breast WASN'T best - 3/23/2009 2:07:51 PM
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manda59
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I'd be exactly the same, Erin, so I can relate.
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RE: When breast WASN'T best - 3/23/2009 2:12:34 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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Hmm. Do you not fully trust them? I find that I feel more controlling when it's not someone I totally trust, but with my MIL or my friend I don't have any control problems because I trust them to make pretty much the same decision I would. Kwim?
But really, I'm pretty easy going. As long as they weren't feeding her ho-hos and koolaid at 5 months old, or letting her CIO then I wouldn't be bothered by much.
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RE: When breast WASN'T best - 3/24/2009 12:16:37 PM
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purejoy
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Erin, when Isaac was with your mom and not eating as much, was he cranky and fussy? Or just not eating?
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I think I feel like I have NEVER had any control over things.
That makes sense though. From when you got pregnant, to when Isaac decided to be born...neither of those things are when you thought they would be. I'm sure you would not change a THING about your little guy, but I'm saying it makes sense that you would feel that way. So don't be too hard on yourself about that.
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I'm not bitter about working but I dont know, its complex. That make any sense?
Complete sense.
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RE: When breast WASN'T best - 3/24/2009 3:03:31 PM
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manda59
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Is Lydia having some solids now as well when she's at daycare? (IIRC she's about 6 months now, isn't she?) It might be also that she's not needing her midday feed as much now (I remember that was the first one to go with my two).
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RE: When breast WASN'T best - 3/25/2009 10:08:09 AM
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If she's not with your mom enough to use it fast enough then yeah. When my dd was at the daycare center 5 days a week 8 hrs a day I would give her a can and keep one at home but she drank through it enough that it never went bad. She always sent it home over the weekend unless she had just opened it.
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RE: When breast WASN'T best - 3/25/2009 1:46:52 PM
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purejoy
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Glad it's an easy fix, Erin!
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RE: When breast WASN'T best - 3/26/2009 7:23:46 AM
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Our original intent was that we would mix the bottles at home. However, MIL, thinking she was being helpful, went and bought her own.  So our can (still a sample) went bad. He only takes a maximum of three bottles (usually more like one or two) a day (M-F). We dont use any at home.
Glad that got figured out. Hope all goes well from here on out!
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RE: When breast WASN'T best - 8/6/2009 3:24:37 PM
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Aw, Manda, I love your threads  . I don't fit well into the natural childbirth/nursing arenas! Will post my latest bfing experiences here! I did post in this thread two yrs ago re my first two children (pg 1) but now have this new baby, Hattie ...
So Hattie was whisked away to NICU in the hospital because she had a bit of fluid in her lungs ... she cleared the issue herself (under observation) ... her APGARs were 9,9 so it is little wonder ... there was just nothing wrong with her! Anyway, after she cleared, the hospital staff thought it best to give her a bottle ... before I'd even held her! I was surprised to find this out but not upset as I'd stated upfront I would be supplementing (which I think does NOT mean the first thing she gets is a bottle). But no matter as she was a star nurser from the get go! She latched on like a champ in spite of a tongue tie and has not lost her enthusiasm! It seems to me, she prefers me to the bottle/formula which seems like a good start for a successful supplementing career. C&A liked the bottle better because it was just so darn EASY.
So, with H, I am careful to nurse before giving a bottle, although at night I sometimes turn her over to John right away for a feeding and then turn over and go back to sleep. I then pay for this with big aching full breasts. Yow! I truly hope I do better continuing to breastfeed with her than I did with her sisters. My soreness level is also considerably lower than with Avery ...
I can't say I "like" to breastfeed ... it just makes me feel accomplished to do it. And now that I've been told I will fail because I am supplementing, I am as determined as ever to prove them all wrong!
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RE: When breast WASN'T best - 8/6/2009 5:44:22 PM
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Hazel2
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You ARE kind, Manda. It is hard to be a new mom ... I know I'm not exactly new, but each baby is so different! It can be intimidating!
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). Before the break, he'd figured out the whole bottle-thing and was eating 15-20 oz while I was at work. Today he ate 4 oz 
He let 3 1/2 bottles go bad while he just sat there and screamed. He'll get used to it again, but... poor Daddy who had to hold a screaming and hungry baby 
I picked her up one day at daycare and she had eaten a total of not quite 4 oz, and that was a day she was there all day. The teachers were concerned and made sure to mention that she didn't eat well and typically wasn't eating very much at daycare. At home dh could get her to eat 4-5 oz/feed, but at daycare she would take 2 oz. Then she started eating more at daycare, but only for one particular teacher. Even when she only eats little bits at daycare, she's still happy and playing too, so I don't worry about it too much. I figure if she gets too hungry, she'll take it from whoever offers it to her. It's just funny because I'm pretty sure she's making a conscious choice to wait until she gets home so her daddy can give her a bottle or I will bf her if I am home. 
