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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/9/2008 10:14:07 AM
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momma_bee
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Yeah - tongue is FIRMLY in cheek for that.  <-- It slipped out for the picture though. I know you are too busy keeping up with your soaps. You know, my mom folded clothes every Monday afternoon whle she watched her shows. I wonder what she did the other days of the week. Seriously, I just don't recall, but I can see her folding that clothes plain as day.
I'm hoping that Poppa will do dishes while he is there.
They look at his leave balance and incidents of sick (not family sick) leave for the past 6 months. Basically, they wouldn't want a manager to go on Leave WithOut Pay. It is a government job.
I heard one yesterday that may make you chuckle. The fellow was talking about helping his daughter financially becuase she and her hubby were just starting out and he could do it. Later in the conversation he said his daughter is CLEARING $48K. I know that she doesn't live around here, but that sounds like a LOT of money. And, he was bemoaning that if she didn't move, she'd never make more than that. I'd be happy with it.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/9/2008 10:17:30 AM
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Mrs.Wifey
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It depends on where you live, I think. between DH and I we make about $45-48k a year and we don't really have "play" money. If we were to move back east where my parents live one of us would have to get a second job.
But, we also have a small amount of debt that we are working to pay off. If we didn't have that then we would be much better off.
It's odd to be back in this folder, and even odder to be the one carrying our medical benefits.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/9/2008 10:18:37 AM
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I was thinking... I have a little less than two weeks before I go back to work, and I was wondering if I should make some meals and freeze them. They probably wouldn't last very long, but they would probably help in the first few transitioning weeks.
Hmm, I wonder if I can get on that.
The biggest problem is we're in the middle of a reno project, our house is moved, and all of my fridge and freezer contents are down at my MIL's. I suppose I could go pick up some stuff though.
Thoughts?
You can pre-cook ground meat & chicken, put it in meal-sized serving bags, then add the fresh ingredients for soup or casserole, etc,when you need it. I like meals that I can come in, throw the ingredients together, then either stick in the oven or simmer on the stove unattended for a while so I can then change clothes, wind down, throw a load of clothes into the washer, play with DS when he was small, then "poof"--magically 30 minutes to an hour later, dinner is ready! That's why I do a lot of one-pot meals. Taco soup, chili, chicken & dumplings, chicken & noodles, chicken & rice, pasta or Tex-Mex casseroles, etc.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/9/2008 10:40:25 AM
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It depends on where you live, I think. between DH and I we make about $45-48k a year and we don't really have "play" money. If we were to move back east where my parents live one of us would have to get a second job.
I think that is about the average family salary for around these parts (Georgia), but where you live in Georgia is important. Out in the country areas, you'd probably be doing pretty well, but living in downtown Atlanta, there's no way you could make it. Some of the suburbs are quite expensive, where the houses start at 400K (we don't live in one of those suburbs).
This is assuming that the family is like you, Ryanne, living within their means, making reasonable purchases.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/9/2008 11:12:18 AM
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momma_bee
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And we are keeping a family of 4 on not much more than that (and it takes two of us working)
I mentioned it to Poppa last night and he said that if we were able to give to our kids, we would, regardless of the NEED.
And he is right. And, truth be told, my mom and dad have helped us for years. Babysitting. Sewing clothes. And, I'd love to have Dad come and redo that kitchen floor (which is why it isn't clean) fix the windows, the wall and help with the roof. And, even though it isn't money - it is priceless.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/9/2008 2:44:55 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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ORIGINAL: Mrs.Wifey
It depends on where you live, I think. between DH and I we make about $45-48k a year and we don't really have "play" money. If we were to move back east where my parents live one of us would have to get a second job.
I think that is about the average family salary for around these parts (Georgia), but where you live in Georgia is important. Out in the country areas, you'd probably be doing pretty well, but living in downtown Atlanta, there's no way you could make it. Some of the suburbs are quite expensive, where the houses start at 400K (we don't live in one of those suburbs).
This is assuming that the family is like you, Ryanne, living within their means, making reasonable purchases.
Yup. My parents actually live in what most people consider the boonies although their town has rapidly grown in the past 10 years. A house that we could buy here for $150k would easily cost $300 there  My mom is really pushing us to move back, but there is no way we could make it right now. Plus the school system is not as good, there are not as many job options, etc...
But, we are comfortable and all the needs(and most of the wants) are met. We are extremely blessed.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/9/2008 9:39:22 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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Yep, cost of living is all in where you live....
We're in rural Kansas & could make it fairly easily on just my teacher salary. In Cali, hahaha.....we both worked & it took every last bit of money we had to pay the rent, bills, and buy food. We definitely weren't living extravagantly.
Today was a LONG LONG LONG day. I'm planning on cutting tomorrow short. There's an inservice meeting that is supposed to last until 3:30 PM. I plan to come home immediately after that. Why? Because I put in over 10 hours today (that's a lot at a school where the "regular" day is 8 hours & that's counting the 30 minutes of prep before & after school). I have an IEP meeting on Thursday, so it will be another long day.
Foodwise: I'm still planning on buying some of the Angel Food boxes (at least one of the prepared meals, maybe more).
Question for y'all: does the "mommy guilt" ever get any better? Today I have it really bad because I barely saw my child. My time at home this morning was spent getting ready. This evening we made supper, ate it, and then he went to bed. 
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/10/2008 8:38:57 AM
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I got to go to a MOPs (Mothers of Preschoolers) meeting yesterday! Our church has a group and I've always wanted to participate, but couldn't because I was working. Well, my aunt is their mentor mom and she majorly went to bat for me. She convinced my boss to let me go if she could find a volunteer to cover the office phones for me. One of our senior ladies came in, covered the front desk for me and I had a great time. I'm pretty sure that was the first time in over five years that I got to go to something at my church and not be asked to do something work related while there! I felt positively decadent. Of course, I'm now a bit behind in my work... but it was worth it!!!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/10/2008 12:15:26 PM
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She was nice, I appreciate the fact she is a Chrisitian, I appreciated and agreed with most of the conversation. But...she overstepped her bounds a little. If didnt care about my child I wouldnt be driving two hours everyday to see him, and I am/was pretty much one of the ONLY moms there in the unit most of the time. Maybe I have to pay for the $2,000+ a day the doctor (JUST the doctor, not the hospital) is charging to take care of my son.
She overstepped her bounds A LOT! And honestly, the most grief I have gotten is from Christians.
At our Bible Study last week, we were studying Hannah. The conversation came up about working/staying at home. There is a couple in our Bible Study where the wife is a SAHM and homeschools her kids, there is an older couple, a few middle aged couples, and us- soon to be expecting our first with me planning on going back part time. The older lady had a small tangent about the same thing- staying at home, only wanting more stuff if you work, etc. I know her VERY well and was not offended by her, but I know others could easily be. I told her that for us, while I might really enjoy being a SAHM, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt I would be walking outside of God's will right now if I walked away from my ministry in nursing. My job is a HUGE ministry for me, and I know that God wants me there too. Our family will always be my primary ministry, but not my only one. She did call me the next day to apologize, but she didn't change her opinion. 
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Working nights is NOT the answer.....my mom did that for years & she was better at a mom when she stayed at home or worked days than when she did nights. She's openly admitted that she neglected us kids during that time (when she wasn't working, she was sleeping). Our dad became our mom & dad.....
I agree, for me at least. I couldn't even be a WIFE when I worked nights, I can't imagine trying to be a wife and mother!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/10/2008 3:58:27 PM
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KatMack
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What landabee said!!!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/10/2008 4:45:13 PM
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YEAH!!!!!!!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/10/2008 7:02:27 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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Ditto to landabee. I don't think I could have said it better! You are doing AWESOME, Erin!!!
Kat, yay for getting to go to MOPS. I never got to do that because of my work/school schedule, so that is awesome that you had others going to bat for you & someone VOLUNTEERING to cover the phone.
Nicole, yeah, it just kind of stinks. Yesterday was really bad because of how many hours I worked. Literally I didn't see my boy (aside from helping get him ready and then helping with supper/putting to bed.) Today was better...I came home early. Probably going to regret it because I will have more work to do...but we had an inservice meeting & I came home as soon as it was over. Went to pick up the little one first.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, RYANNE!!!!
Yolanda, doesn't your little one have a birthday coming up soon?
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/10/2008 9:54:18 PM
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Yup, next week, the party is this weekend! :) I'm excited.
Landabee, I have a question for ya... how do you pronounce your name? Is it the "on" sound or the "an" sound? I get Yol-an-da all the time. It's supposed to be Yol-ON-da...
Just curious...
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/11/2008 12:09:26 PM
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Yolanda, I can't BELIEVE he's going to be 1 already!!!!!!!!!!
Today is my boy's first High School football game!!!! My bos is the coolest. He's going to let me leave a little bit early on Thursdays so I can make it to his games.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/11/2008 1:58:06 PM
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Hi everyone! I have a one year old and a two year old and I use to be a stay at home mom for 2 years. Just got a job and I work at night 7pm-3am. I really find this thread helpful. Thank you all for sharing.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/11/2008 3:21:08 PM
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myckey
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Welcome, Juda7!!
Landa, how's the weather there?
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 9/11/2008 5:22:37 PM
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landabee
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Landa, how's the weather there?
Overcast with high humidity. Wind gusts and intermittent really intense rain down pours. You know........typical hurricane season in Florida.
We're either fearing an approach, feeling leftovers or catching outer bands. LOL.
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Today I have to be tough. Dh is out of town so cannot pop in to check on a sick child throughout the day. I would have to take a day off work to be around. And I don't think the headache is so bad that it warrants a day off (besides, the school will ring me if necessary). 
