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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 10/31/2008 9:07:43 AM
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momma_bee
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OK - I don't know if I need to vent, or actually need someone to tell me I'm right or really need to laugh about this.
Probably the last.
I am mad.
Several times in the past year, I have talked to my hubby about taking a few days off to do some MAJOR housework. I suggested in the spring, when it was damp and we could burn garbage. I suggested in the summer when the kids were away and we wouldn't have to stop for them, I suggested in the fall, so it was done before the snow flew. Every time, hubby would give me a suggestive grin and suggest what we would do. 
So, I started talking about taking a few days off without him. You know - "I think I will take these days and do this, this, and this and you can help in the evenings" and he would say that he would take off, give me a suggestive grin and suggest what we would do.
So, I even picked days that he couldn't take off and he said he would come home early, give me a suggestive grin....
Do you see a pattern here?
And it isn't that I didn't like his suggestions. I wasn't like I didn't want the help or mind the idea of a break. But, his idea of 'getting things done' involves him staying up late, then I get to sleep in, he wakes me up in a suggestive manner and then he naps because he was up too late. Then it is lunch time - where he will plan a MEAL, rather than grab a sandwich, turn on the TV and take another nap.
I was thinking along the lines of starting at 7 when the kids get on the bus and ordering pizza for supper so I don't have to do dishes.
So, I don't take off of work. It avoids conflicts. On Wednesday night, PBee told me he told his boss to pencil him off on Friday depending on who else is off. WHY? Because there is work that needs done at the house. So, I asked him if one thing was on his to-do list and he said 'I don't have a to-do list, I'm going hunting / scouting for deer.'
I don't mind him hunting. He will go out for squirrel and watch for signs of deer and pick a couple good spots.
But, why-o-why can't he take a day and spend that entire day doing the chores that need done around the house?????
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 10/31/2008 10:01:58 PM
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BeeLuvsAva
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Well I am new to this entire site, and I am trying to get around to get to know people.
My Name is Bethany, and I have a daughter that will be 3 weeks old on Monday. Currently I am not working since I am still on maternity leave, but I still do some work at home on my computer, I work as a Hotel Manager, and usually I work about 60-70 hours a week (when I am working) I do plan to cut it down since I do have a baby, maybe not even stay in the same field of work since it is so demanding of my time, I have talked it over a few times with some of my bosses about working for the cooperate office so I can have a 9-5 Monday-Friday kind of schedule (praying that does come through for me)
I love cooking, but I can't really cook a lot since it is just me and my 3 week old beautiful baby girl, but I still enjoy doing it.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 11/1/2008 4:10:15 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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Welcome Bethany!!!
I'm a schoolteacher, married to the love of my life....we have a five year old son.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 11/1/2008 4:39:22 PM
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BeeLuvsAva
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ORIGINAL: daughter_of_faith
Welcome Bethany!!!
I'm a schoolteacher, married to the love of my life....we have a five year old son.
Thanks!
How do you like being a schoolteacher? what grade do you teach?
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 11/1/2008 5:22:26 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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I enjoy teaching children. It's lots of fun!! I am a special education teacher for students in kindergarten through fourth grade. There are definitely challenges and some days I feel like I am teaching a brick wall (or two) but overall it's pretty good.
I'm with you Kylie in wishing that employers would work better with employees who have families. In my current position, I am a supervisor of my paras. That gets interesting, but if they need to leave to take care of their family or take a sick day I do NOT make a big deal about it. I know what it's like so I try to be understanding.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 11/1/2008 5:57:23 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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I try to give my paras the best work environment possible. Unfortunately I have no control over their pay so if they do leave that is usually the reason.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 11/1/2008 6:28:54 PM
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BeeLuvsAva
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I try to give my paras the best work environment possible. Unfortunately I have no control over their pay so if they do leave that is usually the reason.
But that is understandable, and I am sure they understand.
I know it must be in many ways difficult to work with kids, I was going to school to be a teacher, and all my teachers told me to make sure if I really wanted to work with kids I should try working at a daycare, and that will give me some idea of how it will be like, obviously i changed my mind soon after that, so kudos to you!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 11/1/2008 6:31:41 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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My first job was at a daycare. I've been working with children ever since (most of the time--I've worked a few retail jobs here and there). Guess you could say I've always loved kids! They are such a blessing.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 11/1/2008 7:29:15 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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a lot of people do not have the patients to take care of that many kids at the same time, and then go home to take care of your own!
Therein lies the greatest challenge of my position, Bethany. It is a delicate balance to maintain a home life of being a wife and mother along with working outside the home. I think all mothers who work outside the home find themselves balancing things out one way or another as well.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 11/1/2008 7:44:45 PM
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BeeLuvsAva
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a lot of people do not have the patients to take care of that many kids at the same time, and then go home to take care of your own!
Therein lies the greatest challenge of my position, Bethany. It is a delicate balance to maintain a home life of being a wife and mother along with working outside the home. I think all mothers who work outside the home find themselves balancing things out one way or another as well.
Yes it is, and although I have not had to balance being a mother and work quite yet, I know this will be a challenge.
I know you must be tired day in and day out. How do you seperate the kids from your work and your kids? is disipline the same?
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 11/1/2008 8:43:23 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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I know you must be tired day in and day out. How do you seperate the kids from your work and your kids? is disipline the same?
It can be a challenge to separate the two. Usually my DH is kind enough to allow me to have a few minutes of transition time. I think that really helps me move from the role of teacher to the role of wife/mother.
I am (somewhat) more strict with disciplining my own child because he knows exactly what I expect. He's had nearly 5 and a half years to learn my rules. My students have only had a few months.
At home, I am Mommy. While at school, we're trying to teach our son that I am Mrs. Surname. That gets to be a challenge because he's always saying, "That's my mommy! Mommy, I love you." (etc.)
I do get tired quite a bit as kids have boundless energy that I cannot always match.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 11/3/2008 4:58:42 PM
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KatMack
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Well, I've had an insane day at work. It's one of those days that I wished I DIDN'T work in ministry... that I had a nice secretarial job in a dentist office or something...
We had a young man in our youth program kill himself yesterday. I knew and loved that guy and I'm positively heartbroken over it. I can't imagine the pain his momma (a friend of mine and my old boss) is going through. I've just wanted to huddle in a corner and grieve, but I've been on the phones all day with church members- planning meals, offering comfort, talking things out with them while they wait for the pastor. UGH! People, I'm just the secretary!!! I can't wait to get home to my hubbie. I need a hug!
--Kat
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