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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/29/2009 5:35:22 PM
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fluffmonkey
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its easy to get snappy at work, but better not to get snappy ...lol
I work 1/2 day at one post office, to go to another post office for the rest of the day :p crazyness
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/29/2009 7:13:20 PM
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wow (((kylie))) sounds like a crazy and tough week! I hope things get a bit more easy for you at work and at home.
It's okay to get snappy, everyone know's that there is just some days you can't help.
This week has been pretty busy, I have been staying at the office untill almost 6:30 every night (except tonight  ) so that we can get the company ready for the new month, and the daycare my DD goes to is fine with it, but they charge me a arm and a leg to let her stay after 5:30  , I told my supervisor today that I was going to have to leave the rest of my work for tomorrow, she was not so happy about that, but then I told her that she would have to pay my daycare if I kept having to stay later, so of course she dropped the subject. 
I am so ready for the weekend, I don't think it will come soon enough, I have to catch up on cleaning, laundry, and bake cookies for Chruch on sunday. Plus I feel I have hardly been able to see DD, everyday this week that I pick her up from daycare(almost 8p.m because of traffic) she is asleep, and she only wakes up to be fed and then go back to sleep  in the mornings I am just so busy getting her ready for daycare, and myself ready for work I just don't feel I get to sit down with her enough and just hold her. I am REALLY ready for the weekend!
I am done rambling! sorry!
Any of you ladys have big plans for the weekend?
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/29/2009 10:00:52 PM
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No real big plans for the weekend. We'll just be hanging out....going to church on Sunday. It's first Sunday potluck. Then the Superbowl is that evening. I'm taking a day off on Monday so I can take DH to get some xrays. They will manipulate his knees and cause severe pain. The xrays have to be taken about 3 hours away
Other than that...work is work. We're still teaching. I finally sent a child to the office today...first one all year. He just refused to work and I was tired of it. I'm a special ed. teacher so it's not unusual for children to struggle, but he was making no effort and I KNOW he is more than capable to make more of an effort as I have seen it in the past.
Bee...that's gotta be rough barely seeing your little one. I did that when I was in college and working part-time, but I tried to make sure he wasn't there past 6 unless I had a night class. It's really tough to spend such long hours away, esp. since Ava is so little. ((hugs))
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/30/2009 11:12:16 AM
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My weekend - Includes work and then probley work on the house and sunday- church and some relaxing (hopefully)
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/31/2009 10:26:27 AM
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lol yeah I have alot to do after work, house needs cleaning, all the laundry needs to be done, I have hardly any clean clothes left, and hubby pratically has none... well besides his dress pants for church lol
Grocery shopping needs to be done :/ along with what-ever else I am forgetting about sooo maybe sunday want be to bad >_>
Kylie hope you get to rest some, good luck with everything this weekend
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 2/3/2009 10:09:13 AM
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That saddens me, it really truly saddens me to the core. Why are we like this as women? Why do we divide ourselves like this? I don't want anyone to tell me that I should be going out to work for whatever reason, so why I am going to tell someone that they should be staying home.
I think there are a number of reasons women do this. One is that women are socially conditioned to use snippy behavior as a weapon in their competition with one another. Insecurity also plays into it. And passion. What I mean by that is that some people consciously choose a lifestyle based on certain deeply held beliefs and values, then fall into the trap of thinking that their specific choices are the only way someone can express those values. (Think about the statement,"I stay home because I want to put my children first.") In my experience, this is particularly prevalent in the Christian community, and in some segments of homeschooling and Quiver Full (though by no means reflective of everyone in those groups).
It is very sad, especially within the Body of Christ. As Christian sisters, we should be bigger than this.
On a lighter note, it's one of the ancillary good things about being childless by choice. So many of the most ugly divisions are among mothers, and as a non-parent, I don't have to participate in those "starts with a p and rhymes with 'missing'" contests! 
I'm coming into this thread way late! I had to ask. I'm quoting moon mouse's comment because I was surfing the net and saw this article Laying Up Treasures in Heaven (link removed by mod, TOS 9)
What do you ladies, especially for those who work outside home and are childfree by choice, think? I know this website can be quite wacky from what I see. I don't know if the Bible specifically said that wives are destined to be mothers and homemakers besides being a helpmate for husbands, is there?
For me, I like to work but don't mind working from home to supplement my husband's income. We don't have kids yet and are newlyweds. So I feel a little conflicted because of that website!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 2/3/2009 10:41:47 AM
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What do you ladies, especially for those who work outside home and are childfree by choice, think? I know this website can be quite wacky from what I see. I don't know if the Bible specifically said that wives are destined to be mothers and homemakers besides being a helpmate for husbands, is there?
For me, I like to work but don't mind working from home to supplement my husband's income. We don't have kids yet and are newlyweds. So I feel a little conflicted because of that website!
It's interesting that you posted this today and I "just happened" to stop by today, since I've spent less time on crosswalk lately for a number of reasons, but that's another story entirely!
Anyway...what do I think of the article? I had to sit here for a while thinking of a word I could use that wouldn't be a TOS violation, LOL! Nauseating, uninformed, stereotyping dreck was what I finally settled on!
This doggie do-do isn't anything new. I've heard the "you're just a poor, misguided little career girl who has bought into the evils of covetous feminism" line before. Frankly, it's poorly thought out. Men are waiting just as long to marry and have children as women. Are they all doing so for the money? Granted, the body clock is a little more vital for women, but if we're talking about making the choice to marry and procreate, men are making the same choices as women. How about women who have children, but continue to work? Are they just as "guilty" as childless women, or do they get a pass because they produced a child? He briefly touched on work obsessed men, but doesn't make the same assumptions about their spiritual state as he does about women. I have to wonder if he has issues with dealing with women in the workplace.
The Bible largely assumes that both men and women will marry and have children. It was the norm then, and it still is today. Society is organized to accommodate the family unit of husband, wife, and kids. And, most people want to marry and have children. But there is no Biblical command to marry. In fact, Paul commends singleness as a difficult but admirable calling. I also believe (although I know some disagree) that there is no command for married couples to have children...children are commended, and something every couple should prayerfully consider, but not commanded. And, the Bible emphasizes the importance of the home in a woman's priorities, but nowhere says women cannot work in the home, or even out of the home.
I'm not childfree by choice because I'm chasing after earthly treasure. I'm childfree because God has not placed on my heart a desire to have children, and my interests and skills (which HE gave me!) lie in other directions. If a law were passed tomorrow that says married women with healthy husbands can't work for pay, I still wouldn't have kids.
This guy is full of bull, doesn't know his Bible very well, and obviously hasn't met any real live childfree women. I'd ignore him and go out and meet some real childfree people!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 2/3/2009 10:44:12 AM
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SnowGrel, I work PT and some day I would like to have kids but I know right now doesn't feel right and I believe God will let us know when its the right time for us. I am a newlywed myself... with us just starting out its good we both work, even though I don't always get alot of work it helps out... I understand that theses things on earth will perish, some people work so hard to have "these things in their lifes the boat, hdtv and etc " thats all that is important to them... God is not in the picture for them...and their husband or wife or kids are left behind feeling neglected. As long as your not letting your work get in the way of your time for God, and neglecting your family... its nothing bad to work and enjoy to work... how things are today its hard for couples to survive with out both working... it can be tough!
Money causes alot of greed, and marriages to crumble... it can cause alot of problems when its placed above God. Its okay to have things but just don't let those things have you!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 2/3/2009 8:07:50 PM
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I once worked with a man who subscribed to the philosophy shown in that website...he told me that if I cancelled my cable TV and didn't drive, we could live on one income. While I don't necessarily like taking my children to daycare every day, the truth of the matter is that there is NO way we could live on my husband's income.
Not to mention, that I LIKE my career...it is challenging and stimulating...I don't think I could stay home all day, I'm just not cut out for it...I TRY to find a balance between my career and my children/home...and I think I'm doing a fairly good job of it for now...
IF I should happen to get rich, some rich (and unknown) relative leaves me a fortune, I'd then happily quit my job, but to go back and finish my engineering degree...(which I'm going to start again this summer).
I think this patriarchial stuff has to come to an end...there are many ways for women to fulfill their roles, talents and desires...cookie-cutter just doesn't cut it.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 2/8/2009 6:03:49 PM
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I edited out the link in SnowGerl's post as the article isn't what I'd call supportive for Working Women, but I did leave the title so if one wishes to find it they can do so.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 2/8/2009 7:50:09 PM
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Kylie, just wanted to check in on you and your family. I have no idea what part of Australia you're in, but couldn't help but think of you when I heard the news reports about the wildfires. Let us know if your near there and how your doing, please!
--Kat
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 2/11/2009 7:50:22 AM
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I made it through the first round of permanent cuts. Next will be if I am on the shut down list or not. I have mixed feelings about that.
On one hand - I need to work. On the other hand - I can make good use of the time off. Poppa's honey-do list will become mine, which will cost money, but it would anyhow.
In fact, one of my friends is in the same boat and we said we'd do the work together so that we'd have some fun and have extra hands. My kitchen and bathroom floors, her kitchen cabinets.
And, it is awful to rejoice that someone is getting escorted out - because it isn't you. My heart feels squished and my throat is full and my head spins all the time. The tummy ache is new, but undoubtedly stress-related as well.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 2/11/2009 8:11:54 AM
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I'm so sorry you're having to go through this, momma-bee. I'll be praying for continued peace for you in all of this.
The church down the road from us just laid off half of their office staff and one of their music ministers. Sure makes a girl working in a church a bit nervous. Praise the Lord, we don't seem to affected by the economic downturn. Our giving is down some, but we've been in the process of shifting our church's focus and that has meant a lot of changes in our ministry- actually making things cheaper, so here's hoping we can continue without having to let anyone go.
I've been sick as a dog since Sunday. I worked half days on Monday and Tuesday and am now drowing in backed-up projects. ACK! Praying I can have a very productive day and get at least caught up on the things we need done for tonight's service with minimal problems!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 2/11/2009 9:08:17 AM
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You know Kat - I specifically thought of you as I was thinking about my post and the economy. Simply because I have seen folks assume that working for the church is a ministry and you can do it at a reduced amount if need be.
I was hoping you wouldn't ever find yourself in that position.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 2/11/2009 6:23:50 PM
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Well at least now I know.
Layoff effective Mar 16, give or take a week. Lasting 3-4 months, hopefully, give or take a week.
They are giving me an attractive enough package while on unemployment - they are keeping benefits intact and paying an 'allowance' to cover our part. Since I have very little taken out (I am on Poppa's insurance and such) I'm still earning vacation days and am not required to take my vacation up front. As it is, my weekly gross will be within $50 of what I get now. That makes it worth staying home...
God is good, all the time.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 2/11/2009 7:43:43 PM
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Well at least now I know.
Layoff effective Mar 16, give or take a week. Lasting 3-4 months, hopefully, give or take a week.
They are giving me an attractive enough package while on unemployment - they are keeping benefits intact and paying an 'allowance' to cover our part. Since I have very little taken out (I am on Poppa's insurance and such) I'm still earning vacation days and am not required to take my vacation up front. As it is, my weekly gross will be within $50 of what I get now. That makes it worth staying home...
God is good, all the time.
Praise the Lord MommaBee! That is amazing! I am sure that relieves so much stress off your back.
This week has been pretty tough with work...they have had me coming home late again, so I am not picking up DD from daycare untill 7-7:30 on monday and tuesday but at least they are paying the extra that the daycare is charging me everyday. But I still don't seem to get in enough time with DD.
This weekend I think I want to start looking for a closer Daycare, the one I take DD to right now is about a hour away from my work and it's just such a long haul. I take her to that daycare onlyl because it's christian, and Its a privaite owned one, and I just really liked the women that run it, they know what they are doing. But the long drive is taking away from time I could be spending with DD, and I just don't think I can do it anymore, I get home and I am just ten times more tired then I would have been if I didn't have to drive a hour from work to her daycare, and then another 20-30 min drive home. I have been really praying about it...so we will see this weekend.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 2/11/2009 8:42:09 PM
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MB, that does sound like a decent deal.
Bee, I hope you find just the right place for your baby. Good childcare makes working soooo much easier, I know.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 2/11/2009 9:19:02 PM
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And, if it is timed exactly right I can travel with Cindy...
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