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RE: The Meet Market - 7/15/2008 8:31:47 PM
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Prairiehiker
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Well that's encouraging! And, if you're going to be heading that way while on vacation, then who knows what it could lead to maybe???
Sounds interesting!
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Well that's encouraging! And, if you're going to be heading that way while on vacation, then who knows what it could lead to maybe???
Sounds interesting!
Yeah, now, I'm praying for a sale on E, lol!
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/15/2008 8:33:24 PM
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Exactly! I think we all need to pray for that sale to come through - and quickly. 
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/16/2008 12:28:57 AM
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Exactly! I think we all need to pray for that sale to come through - and quickly.
Actually, I received a 50 or 60% off subscription in the mail last week but I threw it away because I never really thought I'd be interested in communicating with anyone. So, I emailed them just now to see if they will still give me the one month for 1/2 the price. Who knows, they might.
I'm just surprise by this. I really never take an interest in online communication with a stranger, let alone someone whose picture I've never seen before. But I really really like what he said in his profile especially what he wrote about he's most passionate about his relationship with Jesus and that he can't live without his bible, and God's love and strength. That's the first sentence in his profile and I was hooked reading it, lol. I think that's the part that got me all curious. He's speaking my language there.
Ok, we'll see what happens.
I bet they probably will give you the special price. When I first joined, I told them my budget was kind of tight, so they gave me three months for the price of one. They did the same thing for a friend of mine, too. I think they basically do that for anyone who asks because they don't want to lose a customer.
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"I'm A Passionate Lover With Passionate Needs"
We are of the understanding that this is actually the default setting of most single men. We feel that most men are also aware of this. Therefore, when a man feels compelled to point that out to complete strangers, not only is it redundant, it is also......alarming.
Roxie, that post was so, so, so, so, so, so funny!!!!  I really needed a good laugh -- thanks! And I don't want to get into poking fun too much here, but related to "Passionate" above, one of my favorites is "I am a very loving man who likes to spoil a woman." Maybe it's just me, but that has a little of the "ew" factor in it, too. 
Thanks for the laugh!
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/16/2008 6:33:41 AM
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What do you suppose a "Christian" man indicating he has an "active love-life" means by that?
Yeah, I know! *shudders* Some things are just really skeeeery!!!
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/16/2008 8:33:03 AM
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Soooo....I got the discount, but not exactly what I wanted. E gave me 3 months for the price of 1 month.
If anyone wants to check him out and tell me if he's worth the $60 fee, lol, I can PM you my E profile and you can give me your opinion on the guy. I'm not sure if he's got a cookie cutter profile like the rest of them. I normally just skim them without really giving them much thought.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/17/2008 3:40:37 PM
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If any of the women here want some honest feedback on her profile from a man's perspective, PM me and I'll take a look at it.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/17/2008 9:11:01 PM
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What do you suppose a "Christian" man indicating he has an "active love-life" means by that?
I don't know what he means, but for me, it means CLOSE :) NEXT!
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/17/2008 9:15:01 PM
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The stuff posted in what not to put in your profile, now doesn't that go without saying?
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/17/2008 9:32:27 PM
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The stuff posted in what not to put in your profile, now doesn't that go without saying?
humbleinspirit - you would think so, but unfortunately some guys do post profiles that sound like that. I think that they are looking for a certain type of woman and maybe that type of woman will respond to witty statements about "needs", "active love lives", "lo-shuns", as well as grainy shirtless pictures of them with other women who have been cut out (so that only their arms wrapped around them remain).
But thankfully, those guys are not the majority (at least in my experience). Most guys have profiles seem ok - there are a lot of nice guys out there - but a woman might not respond because of differences in interest.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/17/2008 9:40:24 PM
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I agree with rgod.
(But, yeah, humble, I was being a LEEETLE facetious in my PSA. A little. Not much!)
Actually, in my year-long experiment of dating I met a lot of really, really good Christian men on good ol' cheesy, easy, sleazy yahoo personals.
And I was on yahoo, and I'm a good Christian woman. There ARE really quality people online.
And, Current Person Of Interest--who is a gentleman with great integrity--was on yahoo, too.  Luckily. Or I would never have met him.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/17/2008 9:44:24 PM
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I supposed most profiles are designed to attract a certain type of person, and most of them just don't attract me but I'm sure they would attract other women. I've seen men post pictures of their boats, their cars, their ex girlfriends who happens to be working at Hooters (I guess that really strokes a man's ego among other things, lol), pictures of their degrees. One sent me a picture of his corvette which I really didn't know what to make out of. Was he hoping that I'm a gold digger? I just assumed he was compensating for something and clicked next!
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/17/2008 9:53:14 PM
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I supposed most profiles are designed to attract a certain type of person, and most of them just don't attract me but I'm sure they would attract other women. I've seen men post pictures of their boats, their cars, their ex girlfriends who happens to be working at Hooters (I guess that really strokes a man's ego among other things, lol), pictures of their degrees. One sent me a picture of his corvette which I really didn't know what to make out of. Was he hoping that I'm a gold digger? I just assumed he was compensating for something and clicked next!
Which is the beauty of it! unlike real life, online, there's always a NEXT!
I'm with you. I drifted toward the simple, straightforward, less-flashy profiles.
In fact, it turned out that the most interesting profiles often belonged to the least interesting men. The, uh, I guess you could call them "primary winners" in my little personal election both had very simple, pleasant, "Hi, here are just a few things about me" profiles and two smiling pics. The "final nominee", had very little info, and a sweet pic of him with his kids.
Like everything else, a profile is just a clue. You gotta do the dirty work of digging out the real person yourself. No shortcuts.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/17/2008 10:17:59 PM
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I did eH for a little over a year about 3 years ago before deciding that I could easily be rejected for free and not have to pay for the privilege. So I closed the account. During the course of that year I never actually did get to the point where I met anyone. I had one guy tell me how fantastic I was over the course of several e-mails and ask to see a photo and the minute I sent it to him I got a "thanks, but not interested" -- so hard to not take that personally.
I do have two friends that met their spouses through eH...one is a Christian couple and one is not...so it really does work.
Right now I've got my profile up with Fusion101 and I tried Match.com for about 3 days before I got spammed by someone in West Africa...I didn't like that there's no real pre-screening on match.com regarding communication. Seems to me the eH method is a bit better because you have more invested in it an are less likely to get the obvious scam artists...I've recently been thinking about giving eH another try...I'll have to think about it some more...
Word to the wise, if you are using one of these services and someone tries to move you too quickly to their personal e-mail address or AIM listen to your gut instinct about it. I did and in the end google'd the guy's userID only to find out that he was a scam artist...so be sure to do your homework and trust your intuition.
In fact my very first post here at CW resulted in a spam PM along the lines of the Nigerian scam artists (you send me money and I'll repay you tenfold)...
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/17/2008 10:19:46 PM
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What do you suppose a "Christian" man indicating he has an "active love-life" means by that?
I don't know what he means, but for me, it means CLOSE :) NEXT!
Oh yeah! And another thing that confused me... On E-H, (which I tried for a month, but it wasn't me. I guess I'm too independent. I don't need THEM to pick for me! LOL) there was a choice that said, "I am reserved and traditional in my sexual needs." WHAA>>>>? I mean, I am sure I was over-thinking, but....does that mean...wait...no it, must mean...no--Heck, I don't know WHAT that means, and I really don't feel comfortable exploring that onversation with total strangers! But does that mean, now, while I am dating? Or forever, even after marriage? Or....And when a man said that, I was REALLY confused. I thought that was an ODD question! It definitely needed some clarification.
Not meaning to violate any TOS here. I;'m just discussing my confusion.
<-----still scratching head.....
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/17/2008 10:26:23 PM
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mutinywxgirl
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Remember, EH is no longer only Christian - so, that does come up with most of the people. But, I'm with you - um, why do I need to know that, or why do you need to know that about me??????
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/17/2008 10:39:47 PM
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okrox
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I did eH for a little over a year about 3 years ago before deciding that I could easily be rejected for free and not have to pay for the privilege.
LOL! LOL! LOL!
So I closed the account. During the course of that year I never actually did get to the point where I met anyone. I had one guy tell me how fantastic I was over the course of several e-mails and ask to see a photo and the minute I sent it to him I got a "thanks, but not interested" -- so hard to not take that personally.
 OUCH!
I do have two friends that met their spouses through eH...one is a Christian couple and one is not...so it really does work.
Right now I've got my profile up with Fusion101 and I tried Match.com for about 3 days before I got spammed by someone in West Africa...I didn't like that there's no real pre-screening on match.com regarding communication. Seems to me the eH method is a bit better because you have more invested in it an are less likely to get the obvious scam artists...I've recently been thinking about giving eH another try...I'll have to think about it some more...
Word to the wise, if you are using one of these services and someone tries to move you too quickly to their personal e-mail address or AIM listen to your gut instinct about it. I did and in the end google'd the guy's userID only to find out that he was a scam artist...so be sure to do your homework and trust your intuition.
In fact my very first post here at CW resulted in a spam PM along the lines of the Nigerian scam artists (you send me money and I'll repay you tenfold)...
VirginiaChix
That is good advice.
The reason I used Yahoo is because you can make your profile unsearchable. No one can see it unless I let them. However, that meant I had to at least say "Hi" first, which was very VERY hard. I now have much more sympathy for the boys! Some women also wouldn't do that because they don't feel it's proper. However, because of my job (I do NOT want to run into any former inmates! Not online OR IRL!  ) I felt like that was my only option. I got over feeling silly about it, and felt much safer knowing that my odds of getting an inmate were much less if I was in control.
ALSO--Current Person of Interest and I were just talking about this last night. I was recapping some CW threads for him, and he said "You tell those women that we men are very, very dense and clueless. Even if they are depending on God to make us ask them out, they are still going to have to help us. We are terrified and clueless. We appreciate a little nudge at the start! So YES, by all means, if you're interested and somehow we overlooked you, go ahead and MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. We can take it from there, generally."
So there you have it, girls. Straight from a happily-dated man's mouth!
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/17/2008 10:45:44 PM
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Another thing. When a man states that he's not picky, it means exactly that. He's probably the type that would hit on a telephone posts if you put a skirt on it, lol. I've run into a few of those men online. Luckily, I never met them in person.
I still haven't decided if I'll respond to that man on E H. If the sale doesn't come by the weekend, I'm spending that $60 on my holiday instead.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/17/2008 10:50:28 PM
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Oh yeah! And another thing that confused me... On E-H, (which I tried for a month, but it wasn't me. I guess I'm too independent. I don't need THEM to pick for me! LOL) there was a choice that said, "I am reserved and traditional in my sexual needs." WHAA>>>>? I mean, I am sure I was over-thinking, but....does that mean...wait...no it, must mean...no--Heck, I don't know WHAT that means, and I really don't feel comfortable exploring that onversation with total strangers! But does that mean, now, while I am dating? Or forever, even after marriage? Or....And when a man said that, I was REALLY confused. I thought that was an ODD question! It definitely needed some clarification.
Not meaning to violate any TOS here. I;'m just discussing my confusion.
<-----still scratching head.....
I just took it to mean having conservative Christian values of celibacy until marriage. It's sad, but that's necessary to clarify these days, even with those claiming to be Christian (like the gentleman mentioned a few posts earlier). Having that question there helps set boundaries from the beginning and brings up the issue so people can talk about it if necessary.
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RE: The Meet Market - 7/18/2008 1:00:24 AM
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I just took it to mean having conservative Christian values of celibacy until marriage.
Well, that is one way to interpret it. Sadly there are others.
OK, I see what you mean. It took me a while to connect the dots (aging brain cells, ya know ).
But I still think it's good they have the question out there. Although the wording is ambiguous, it at least opens the door to talking about moral values in the beginning rather than having the topic come in an unpleasant way | | | |
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