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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 3/17/2008 9:33:14 AM
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stampinlady
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I acknowledge him and leave him alone when he wants to be alone. I don't nag, don't push my "do's" and let God do the changing, which is very hard. I let him be him and not nit pick and the little things.
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 3/20/2008 11:31:10 AM
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jollof
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Guess i'll ask him too, like deermosie did, but i do a number of things i know he appreciates:
I wake up early to pack his lunch
Kiss him goodbye, stand at the window to wave him goodbye- he actually likes that
Give him a massage when he's tensed up- he reminds me that i promised him a massage if i tend to forget
I meet him at the door and welcome him back from work with a hug and a kiss
I cook dinner every night, and we eat together, the other night he had to eat alone, he said "oh, i have to eat alone for the first time"! (we've been married for 6weeks)
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 3/24/2008 4:23:18 PM
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hrludwig
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Help! I need ideas of what to do. I'll have been married for 5 years this summer. I have a toddler and another on the way. I'm a stay at home mom and with the pregnancy I've been just exhausted. I try to keep on top of things, but 30 minutes of activity (cleaning the house, playing with my son, etc.) wipes me out for the rest of the day. Needless to say, I don't have much energy left by the time my husband gets home. He's been having to pick up a lot of the slack for me (doing the dishes and the laundry, etc.). And while he's good about it and doesn't complain I can tell it's really starting to ware on our relationship. Does anyone have any ideas of what I can do on a regular basis (not just as a one-time deal) to let him know how much he's loved and appreciated, especially during this rough patch?
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 3/25/2008 6:21:40 AM
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in a thread about what guys appreciate, it was amazing the small things that they really liked.
They said that they liked being greeted at the door. The kiss hello or good-bye. A warm cup of coffee. Small rituals of caring.
Often the woman didn't know he noticed a token of love until she quit doing it. It was a small thing after all. When he mentioned, "honey, why don't you do this anymore?" it surprised a few women how much their man enjoyed the heart warming rituals.
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 3/25/2008 12:21:26 PM
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bzirk
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quote:
ORIGINAL: car2ner
in a thread about what guys appreciate, it was amazing the small things that they really liked.
They said that they liked being greeted at the door. The kiss hello or good-bye. A warm cup of coffee. Small rituals of caring.
Often the woman didn't know he noticed a token of love until she quit doing it. It was a small thing after all. When he mentioned, "honey, why don't you do this anymore?" it surprised a few women how much their man enjoyed the heart warming rituals.
It's definitely a good lesson to learn. My husband didn't let on for years that he missed me standing at the front window when he drove off to work. When I realized this, I was so glad, and I also thought of an old song my mother used to sing (I often think of old songs she sang). It goes something like this:
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Touch my hair as you pass my chair
Little things mean a lot
Send me the warmth of a secret smile
To show me you haven't forgot
For now and forever, that's always and ever
Honey, little things mean a lot
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 3/25/2008 5:03:37 PM
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hrludwig
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Thanks for any suggestions. I finally had a chance to speak with my husband about this last night. It's such a blessing to have such a wonderful CHRISTIAN husband. He said what I was picking up on was probably due to all the stress at work. (Rumors are that his office may close soon and then we don't know what his job situation will be. That alone is stressful, but with me being a stay at home mom and us having a new little blessing on the way -- well, that's quite a burden my husband is carrying.) Anyway, he said, "You know, I really miss when we used to take time to do Bible studies together." So last night we started one and it felt so wonderful to be able to take 10 minutes to reconnect with my husband (especially on a spiritual level) and to reconnect TOGETHER with Christ. He said he felt a renewed peace about everything and so do I -- our relationship, our relationship together with Christ, and even his work situation. Plus I feel really good about our son seeing us connect in this way.
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 3/25/2008 5:34:42 PM
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collie1
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Thank you for sharing, hrludwig, that really touches me.
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 3/26/2008 5:58:50 AM
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car2ner
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He said he felt a renewed peace about everything and so do I -- our relationship, our relationship together with Christ, and even his work situation. Plus I feel really good about our son seeing us connect in this way.
Yeah! Just some no stress cuddle and share time together can work wonders....
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 3/26/2008 4:21:12 PM
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quote:
ORIGINAL: stampinlady
I acknowledge him and leave him alone when he wants to be alone. I don't nag, don't push my "do's" and let God do the changing, which is very hard. I let him be him and not nit pick and the little things.
I think that is a very big one! Most men I know, if something is bothering them they like to go into their 'cave' and figure things out. I find most of the time if I do just what you are suggesting that in time my hubby comes to me and tells me what was on his mind.
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 4/1/2008 8:34:38 AM
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This is kind of embarassing, but more than anything, my hubby appreciates it when I make love to him! I heard in a sermon once, that our husbands need this more than a nice meal. That he would rather have a PB and Jelly sandwich for dinner and be made love to than a gourmet steak dinner and no sex. Sometimes its hard to do especially when we're worn out. But I think sex is a gift God gave us to edify both us and our husbands!
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 4/1/2008 12:44:30 PM
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My husband has MS. Sometimes when he needs to stand up it is difficult and he can loose his balance. I figured out a way to help him stand up without it looking like I'm helping. I put my arm under his and he holds my hand. He can then support himself on my arm and it just lookes like we have an odd way of holding hands. The other thing is that when he needs to take off his shoes and socks he can loose his balance. So I just do it for him and rub his feet a little.
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 4/1/2008 12:58:08 PM
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In the middle of the night my hubby was up coughing with a cold--he had gone in to the bathroom so that he wouldn't wake me.
I went downstairs and made him a cup of tea, and took it to him. He appreciated this very much!
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 4/1/2008 4:51:30 PM
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NoDumbBlonde
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Listen: I think we, as women tend to talk more and listen less. My hubby likes that I'm open to what he has to say, what he thinks and how he feels.
Accept: I allow him to be himself. I don't try to manipulate or mold him into someone else. I accept him for who he is and allow him to just be himself.
Support/Encourage/Respect: I have always been very positive in how I talk to him and about him. I am his biggest cheerleader. He has told me that he is so thankful that I don't nag or put him down on anything. When I call him on something I do so with upmost respect and encouragement. I want to lift him up not drag him down.
Appreciate: I figure if I show enough love, support and appreciation that he will, in turn show it to me. (it works too!) I am so blessed to that we both have a great appreciation and thankfulness for our marriage and our relationship.
All in all its the little things that we really appreciate: a kind or encouraging word, a simple gesture, a hug and a smile.
< Message edited by NoDumbBlonde -- 4/1/2008 4:57:46 PM >
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 4/1/2008 5:48:46 PM
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Paul has told me he loves that he knows he can show up with a friend in need after work and I will welcome his friend in our home, feed them, and then leave them to be to talk and pray together.
I have *not* always been very gracious in this regards, so it means a lot to me that my husband sees a change of attitude on my part!
(And he really puts an effort in to calling me and giving me warning if he will be bringing unexpected company home!!)
He also appreciates my thriftiness and bargain shopping. He works hard to earn money for us, it is my job to stretch it as far as it will go.
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 4/1/2008 8:00:15 PM
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Brian told me last night that he appreciates how I'm kind and supportive. I don't always see myself as "kind", so it meant a lot to hear that he sees me this way. And I always want to be supportive of him. He cleans the kitchen every night after dinner, and I thank him for it nearly every time. I want him to know that even though it's a daily habit, I'm just as thankful he still does it as I was when he first started!!
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 4/2/2008 8:48:12 PM
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My husband loves to play basketball. We have had a few tough months and he suffered a knee surgery which has limited his playing time. Yesterday I asked him would he like to play basketball with me. I have not played ball with him in at least 10 years. he was smiling the whole time. Afterwards, well when I could breathe normally he said that was awesome. We have talked about it nonstop. Needless to say we will be doing that again real soon.
Enjoying God's dump truck of BLESSINGS!!!!
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 4/3/2008 8:11:49 PM
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42servehymn
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Hisdaughter I think that is just awesome!
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 4/4/2008 1:54:17 PM
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bzirk
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quote:
ORIGINAL: skyfeather
This is kind of embarassing, but more than anything, my hubby appreciates it when I make love to him! I heard in a sermon once, that our husbands need this more than a nice meal. That he would rather have a PB and Jelly sandwich for dinner and be made love to than a gourmet steak dinner and no sex. Sometimes its hard to do especially when we're worn out. But I think sex is a gift God gave us to edify both us and our husbands!
Definitely is important and please don't be embarrassed about saying it. 
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 4/10/2008 4:15:14 PM
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M'love likes it when we play together. We have our computers side by side,
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RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? - 4/10/2008 4:17:39 PM
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Hubby loves it when I make any kind of baked goods. I think I'll bake some brownies for him today.
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