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collie1 -> What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/22/2008 6:46:03 PM)

I am so enjoying the thread about what has your husband done lately that makes you melt?
I was widowed almost ten years ago and that thread has brought back some pleasant memories.

One of the things that he always liked was the fact that I dropped everthing when he walked in the door and greeted him with a hug and a kiss. I never knew how important it was to him until I didn't do it one day. He let me know he was disappointed, so ladies besides the obvious[:)], what do you do to make your hubby's day?



42servehymn -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/22/2008 9:30:53 PM)

Your story brought back a fun memory for me. Our dog who died last July was totally in love with my husband. I always said she lived so long (almost 16 years) because she was trying to outlive me so she could have my husband to herself. She always wanted to be first to get to him when he came in the door. Just to tease her I would try to get there first. She hated that and would push her way in. It was quite a challenge to get there first. I should probably go back to that habit even though she is gone. I try to make sure that the house is picked up and his comfortable clothes are laid out on the bed for him to change into. We also text each other throughout the day.



deermousie -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/22/2008 11:47:06 PM)

I asked hubby this, and here's what he said:

"You encourage me. You feed me and wash my clothes and wash the dishes."

I'll take that! [:D]

I taught our daughter that two of the most important things she can do for Dad when he staggers in the door every night is to meet him with a happy hello and a hug, and have a cold glass of water ready for him on the table.



jaimestarcross -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/23/2008 12:24:32 AM)

Get off the computer when he comes home...
we know many spouses who won't do that for their mates.



3cappuccinosmom -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/23/2008 6:55:35 AM)

I get up with him early every morning to pack his lunch and kiss him goodbye. I know he appreciates that. I also try to clear the driveway of ice and snow if I can, before he gets home. His back is not great and I know that shoveling really does him in.



karlie -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/23/2008 1:38:55 PM)

He likes it when I come out to greet him when he comes home. I usually stand out there chatting with him while he unloads his truck. I make sure I am home(if my school schedule allows) when he gets there, and I drop whatever I am doing and go out and greet him. Then we sit at the kitchen table for a few minutes and talk about our days before he goes in to shower. It's our time to reconnect. We've done this for years and he still tells me how much he enjoys that time.



bzirk -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/23/2008 1:47:44 PM)

The first few years we were married I would stand at the window or door and wave goodbye when he went to work. Then I stopped doing that, and one day several years later he said, "Remember when you used to do that?" I took that as my cue to start again. Been waving ever since. [:D]



car2ner -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/23/2008 8:09:19 PM)

M'love likes it when we play together. We have our computers side by side, we go hiking together, even fish on rare occassions.. (o.k. I soak a worm but you know what I mean).
And if we are lazy we find something on the television to zone out with... something interesting on the geeky channels usually.



Liveloved -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/23/2008 10:42:02 PM)

What a sweet subject! Thanks for prompting such wonderful thoughts.[:)]

I plan on 'asking my husband' like deermousie did once I'm off the computer. It will be fun to hear his response.

But I think it is the time I spend making sure we have good food/great meals that he most appreciates. He usually takes leftovers with him to work the next day so he appreciates me twice.[:D]

We are on a gluten free diet so I bake all our bread and have to be very careful regarding any purchased items and I know that he also really appreciates my being his food police since any gluten makes him quite ill.[:'(]

I appreciated your dog stories as well. We used to have a Welsh corgi and my husband always commented on the dog's greeting him (IF the dog was not with him already). So I learned that I, too, needed to be better at greeting him than our dog.

Thanks for the good thoughts. LL



cinderella092003 -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/23/2008 11:14:31 PM)

Hubby loves it when I give him massages. He exerts himself day in and day out and I usually try to give him a full body massage once a week. It relaxes him and then he drifts of to sleep and sleeps better that night of the week than any other.

He also likes when he is sick, when I make him soup and feed it to him. I like doing it too. [:D] He is so self sufficient most all the time, except for when he is sick. Then, he is rather helpless. I don't like him being sick, but I like waiting on him and helping to make him feel better.



42servehymn -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/26/2008 12:50:47 PM)

Like Car2ner my hubby enjoys playing together. We bike together whenever the weather permits, we have gone snowshoeing together and he enjoys gardening. He has a beautiful garden and pond in the backyard and he enjoys it when I just sit back there while he tinkers in the garden. For Christmas Ds2 got a basketball game thing to be played indoors. My first thought was we don't need one more thing in this house and certainly nothing that big but we have a great time playing it. He always wins but it is fun anyway. We may have to give me a handicap to even the playing field.



elastic -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/26/2008 1:14:21 PM)

well, this will sound cheesy but.....

in new york, you have to walk pretty much everywhere, so we naturally walk a lot. When you come to a crosswalk, there is a red hand that will flash for "don't walk", and you have to wait until the green walking man appears so you can walk again. Well, when we first got married, he commented once that the red hand meant "stop walking and kiss me". so everytime we came to an intersection, if the red hand flashed, we would stop and kiss each other.

after about 6 months of doing this, he stopped doing it. i think he thought that I thought it was cheesy...so one day we came to an intersection and the red hand flashed...i said "stop walking and kiss me"....and he beamed so brightly.

we do it pretty often now. not every single time, but that red flashing hand is a reminder to both of us to stop our busy-ness and just focus on each other for a few seconds in the middle of all the hectic things around us. He appreciates so much that i do this and other little things for him that aren't necessities.

it's beyond cooking for him or cleaning up after him, it's actively participating in his life and making time for him when he least expects it, that he appreciates so much.



karlie -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/26/2008 1:48:51 PM)

awwwww, that's not cheesy at all, elastic...it's very sweet [:)]

quote:

stop our busy-ness and just focus on each other for a few seconds in the middle of all the hectic things around us.

It's amazing how taking just a few seconds to do that can make such a huge difference in our marriages. I think we often think we have to do something huge and monumental to turn things around or reconnect, but it's just the smallest of gestures, done on a daily basis that bonds you.



BrowneyedAL -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/26/2008 7:44:58 PM)

I try to do as many things as possible that my hubby likes...my favorite thing to do is to make him smile...
here's a short list...

~I run to the bakery down the street and get him a treat for breakfast (then stop back by on my way to work to drop it off in his car with a sweet sentiment written on the bag)
~Give him a pedicure (minus the polish of course!)
~leave a greeting card in his car while he's at work
~pick up a special treat for him while I'm at the grocery store
~use a lipstick to write a message on the bathroom mirror
~make a list of reasons I love him (I've put them together as a book, made a web page out of the list, emailed them...lots of things)
~Make a special dinner for him
~put coffee on the timer to brew when he's going to be getting up
~send e-cards
~put messages in his PDA as future appointments..so they pop up at unexpected times
~change the banner on his cell phone to say loving messages
~leave a love note on his pillow
~pack surprises in his luggage when he travels alone

I do lot's of other little things...but these are just the ones that came to mind immediately.



shelaughed -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/27/2008 11:55:47 AM)

One thing I do in particular is this: When he calls me during the day and says "what are you doing" I say: Thinking about you.

I do all kinds of other daily stuff too, but I can tell that he perks up and that hearing that means alot to him.



BrowneyedAL -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/27/2008 2:08:48 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: shelaughed

One thing I do in particular is this: When he calls me during the day and says "what are you doing" I say: Thinking about you.

I do all kinds of other daily stuff too, but I can tell that he perks up and that hearing that means alot to him.


I do that all the time myself.



3tulips -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/27/2008 4:13:00 PM)

I do ALL of the shopping. Very rarely does he have to go to a store for anything. He hates stores, crowds, or standing in line (all my presents come from catalog or internet shopping). I don't mind it.



elastic -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/27/2008 4:48:07 PM)

quote:

It's amazing how taking just a few seconds to do that can make such a huge difference in our marriages. I think we often think we have to do something huge and monumental to turn things around or reconnect, but it's just the smallest of gestures, done on a daily basis that bonds you


yes, that is so very true.



dance4joy -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/27/2008 4:55:17 PM)

Well here's a quick list. I'm sure the list of things he does for me would be about twice as long though, especially lately since I'm pregnant and he's been really pitching in and helping me a lot.

I fix his breakfast in the morning so it's waiting on the table when he gets out of the shower
I cook dinner every night
I clean his glasses for him
I take his shoes and socks off for him when he's really tired
I do the grocery shopping
I bag up the trash and set it by the front door so it's easier for him to take out
I always tie his ties for him (he never quite got the hang of it)
I cut his hair



collie1 -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/27/2008 8:06:07 PM)

Thanks everyone, you all are the greatest. I loved the stop light thing, very original!!
Keep em coming!



Artsie -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (2/29/2008 12:51:24 AM)

Thank you for the lovely question.

A call during the day to say I love you, you are on my mind. Invitations to lunch where I pick him up from his work, breakfast, so simple yet it seems to speak volumes to him. What they say about the way to a man's heart is through his stomach is sooo true!

Oh, Danceforjoy, God bless your beautiful wee babe on the way!



Annie64 -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (3/15/2008 6:27:34 AM)

I just found this thread and it's too good a thread to just go away! I was trying to think of what I do that my husband appreciates--it doesn't seem to me that I do that much for him. It's easier for me to think of things he does for me. I was thinking I'd ask him, like a couple others did, but I'm at work right now, and he's at home in bed, so I can't ask him. I'm pretty sure he'd say making dinner, though I don't do that every night anymore with my strange work schedule. I still do it most nights, and have assigned my teenagers to do it on the days when I'm sleeping because I'm working nights. He cooks on the weekend, though.

The biggest thing I thought about that I have done over the course of our marriage that he appreciates started when we were dating, and I found out how much he needed it during the worst time of our marriage, and he thought it was gone. One of the biggest things that attracted me to him when I met him was how smart he is. He was only 18 when we met--his freshman year in college, my sophomore year, but he seemed so much older. The first thing I heard about him, before meeting him, was when a friend of mine pointed him out to me and said that he was there on a full scholorship because of his grades. At that time, and over the years since, I have made a big deal about how impressed I was with his intelligence. I bragged about how he was validictorian of his high school, even though I didn't know him when he was in high school, and altogether let it be known that I considered myself stupendously blessed by having snagged a guy with this many brains!

About 14 years ago, some things started happening in our marriage that wasn't good--nothing major, but enough that there were some real problems. And sadly, it was mostly my fault.[&o] And when he told me how he felt, he told me that the biggest thing he felt he was losing was my admiration.

I don't think I've done as well as I could have, but I have never forgotten that, and I have always wanted him to know ever since then that I really do still admire him!



collie1 -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (3/15/2008 12:21:50 PM)

That's great, Annie!
Really good marital advice too. Never stop admiring him.



Annie64 -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (3/16/2008 2:04:39 AM)

I asked him this morning. He said "that you don't ask questions like that." [8D]

Then he took it seriously and said, "that you work hard to take care of the family, that you always try to do the right thing, and you aren't a spendthrift." I really liked hearing that!



collie1 -> RE: What do you do that your hubby appreciates? (3/16/2008 9:56:28 PM)

Gotta love a guy with a great sense of humor!



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