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Baby Chat....take 2

16lb (7.25 kg) at 1mo

0% (0)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 2mo

17% (3)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 3mo

11% (2)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 4mo

11% (2)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 5mo

11% (2)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 6mo

11% (2)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 7mo

5% (1)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 8mo

0% (0)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 9mo

0% (0)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 10mo

0% (0)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 11mo

5% (1)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 12mo

0% (0)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 15mo

0% (0)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 18mo

0% (0)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 21mo

0% (0)

16lb (7.25 kg) at 24mo

0% (0)

My baby hasn't hit that weight yet.

23% (4)

Total Votes : 17

(last vote on : 4/28/2008 4:19:51 AM)
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peculiar_lady2 -> Baby Chat....take 2 (2/29/2008 10:24:49 PM)
The purpose of this thread is to discuss baby related things that you do not feel need their own thread or that do not already have their own thread. We already have a few ongoing good threads on some baby topics (such as bfing, circumcision, etc) so please keep those issues in those threads. This one is to discuss growing and changing and how to deal with certain issues as we grow and change with our babies through the first few years of life (I am not putting a real time limit on it, but most consider through 2yo to still be babies...though several of us have 3yo's that we talk about often in here). This thread is intended to run kind of like any other chat thread in that it will go back and forth on subjects, maybe even for a few pages at a time...so don't feel bad if your subject is kind of long or if it's something new that no one is talking about right then. If you feel your discussion needs it's own thread though feel free to start that...but we can easily go with the flow here of what everyone wants to talk about So chat away!!!!

peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (2/29/2008 10:31:54 PM)
POLL QUESTION..... Did you feel prepared before the baby came? Did your experience after the baby came line up with that? Yes, I felt prepared No, I did not feel prepared Yes, my experience lined up with that expectation No, my experience did not line up with that expectation Another discussion question.... How old was your baby when you finally felt 'in the groove' of your new life? (thanks to Jennie-fair for her poll suggestion!!)

lexie -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (2/29/2008 10:38:29 PM)
Ok so I felt prepared, but I think it's because I personally didn't really prepare. I mean by that, everything was ready for her when she got here, but I was fully prepared to just take things as they came and learn with Akeelah as she grew up. And I was blessed with a baby with great sleep patterns!!! I finally felt in the groove of things when the summer came, which was when Akeelah was about 6 months old. Until then I couldn't go out with her a lot because the winter was so cold, but with the warm weather we got ourselves into a beautiful schedule, we spent a lot of time outdoors (not only did I have a new baby but I was discovering a new neighbourhood) and Akeelah was sleeping well at night. My groove really had to do with her sleeping at night. I've been discussing this with my sister. Once Akeelah started sleeping through the night(which was very early) I was able to get enough sleep at night that I didn't feel tired or stressed or pressured the next day. Then I was able to fully give myself and everything I have and am to my daughter and it showed in the both of us. Maggie - that's funny about the Asian thing. Early on Akeelah looked Asian as well (which is the one race Dh doesn't have mixed into him!). Just a month ago someone asked me if we speak English or Chinese at home with her!!!

Jenny-Fair -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (2/29/2008 10:42:10 PM)
I did not feel prepared with DS1. First off, I was 17 and had very little experience with babies (lots with older kids, just not babies). Secondly, I ended up on bedrest about halfway through, and then had a preemie and a BOY. I can remember saying, "Lord, it's bad enough you gave me this thing...couldn't you give me one with parts I know what to do with?!" LOL I am not sure if I had any expectation other than foolish 'happily ever after'ness...which it was most certainly not. And I did not realize how much work mothering is. And I did not do a good job of it the first couple of years, either!

Mrs.Wifey -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (2/29/2008 10:48:17 PM)
I felt prepared, but having nannied and being the oldest of 6 there wasn't much I hadn't seen or heard, lol. For the most part I was prepared but her FTT diagnoses and breastfeeding really threw me for a loop. I think we probably found our groove around 2-3 months and really cemented it at 4 months when we switched to formula and I stopped being so stressed.

peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (2/29/2008 10:50:54 PM)
quote: "Lord, it's bad enough you gave me this thing...couldn't you give me one with parts I know what to do with?!" LOL ROFLOL!!!!! with my first I didn't have "high expectations", so they weren't really dashed when he came along. I had been around a lot of babies (helped raise my "nephew" that lived with us when I was a teenager) so I knew the day in and day out things already. It didn't take long to get into the groove with him. With my second I had extremely bad PPD, so olots of things didn't "click" with me during the first six months or so...I was on some heavy meds that make it hazy to remember the day in and day out. She was a very easy baby though...didn't do much and didn't cry unless she was hungry. She mostly slept. Exactly what I needed. #3 was our "challenge child"....her personality is such that she is like a 30yo in a little body...always has been. She doesn't really like kids/babies, and has never liked when her body or abilities limit what she is trying to do. She finally grew out of that more and more as she has gotten older...kind of had to grow into herself. As a baby though, it was probably a good six months before I felt "in the groove" with her. #4 didn't change life much at all...he was much like our second and was a very good baby. Life was chaotic though when he was born...hubby was deployed...so until he was three months old and hubby got home and we were able to go home (from staying with my mom) things just weren't right. Within a few weeks of us all being home though we were in the right groove.

Mrs.X -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 1:21:28 AM)
I did not feel prepared, but my expectations lined up with how it went. I didn't feel prepared because I wasn't married! I didn't even really like Robert that much and was planning on breaking up with him when the lease was up. But, we got married because I got pregnant, and I'm glad we did. We didn't make very good money, so that was another factor in not being ready, I knew we couldn't live on just his salary, so I was sad that I would have to go to work after Timmy was born. I read a lot about babies during my pregnancy because I had almost no experience with babies. I changed my cousin's diaper like twice and gave him a bath a few times, but he was 3 years old. I read Your Baby & Child by Penolope someone and What To Expect. I also subscribed to American Baby weekly e-newsletters and got their magazine and Parents magazine. I felt good about everything I learned. I didn't read much on breastfeeding though, so I had this unrealistic expectation of "you put your baby on the breast and live happily ever after". I didn't have everything all ready for him at the house either. I owned everything we needed for him, but didn't set it all up. My whole pregnancy I was kind of in denial. It was such an easy pregnancy that I didn't really feel like I was pregnant. I just couldn't tie my shoes, and that was my only setback. I didn't lose my plug or get BH contractions or anything, so I just felt like I would stay pregnant forever. Luckily my friend went to our apartment when I went into labor and set up the bed and put away all the clothes and set up the changing table and everything. When Timmy was born, I knew what to do (except the breastfeeding part). I read all about him when I was pregnant, so I felt confident. He was a very much "by the book" kind of baby in terms of eating and sleeping and setting his own schedule. He was a pretty high needs baby, but I didn't like cleaning anyway, so I didn't mind holding him all the time. Things went pretty much how I expected them to except the breastfeeding and PPD (almost to the point of post pardum psychosis [wanted to hurt my hubby]). I got into the groove, when he was about 6 months old. I was still depressed until Jimmy was born though. Jimmy is not a by-the-book kind of baby, but he's pretty easy now. Likes to play on the floor and in his walker, etc. I got into the groove when he was about 6 months too.

3cappuccinosmom -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 5:25:43 AM)
With my first, I felt prepared, and expectations didn't quite meet reality. He was a colicky miserable wretch. [&:] Now that I'm on baby number three, I do feel like I've got the baby part figured out pretty well (though I didn't realize that having a third baby would make running errands take about 10 times as long!) But now that I'm in the groove with the baby thing, I have a precocious 5 yo that I really don't know what to do with. Asrat has become "Food Police" around here--that will make you fat, that will rot your teeth, that's not good for you... <sigh> What's pathetic is, he's right. [8D]

paulsbride -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 7:26:16 AM)
I felt prepared, but I am pretty laid back about "prepared." We'd just moved and his nursery was stuffed full of unpacked boxes - that didn't bother me since he'd be sleeping in our room for awhile. We didn't have a crib or crib mattress at that point, but it didn't bother me. We went out and bought his car seat while he was in the NICU. I guess I just thought "All the baby needs in his first couple days of birth is ME" - so I didn't stress. (But, in my defense, he was 5 weeks early and I'd moved between Cleveland, Toronto and Georgia the 6 weeks prior to that... I wouldn't of been at 40 weeks with no car seat [;)]) I was not prepared for him being in the NICU, and yet now, in an odd way, I look back at it as a blessing. Or I should say, in trying to find the good in the situation, I only dwell on the blessings of it. It was hard having my baby in the NICU - especially with only one car. I would spend 8 - 14 hour days at the hospital while Paul was at work. Then Paul would come over for a bit, we'd go back to our apartment, and we'd get a full nights sleep! I didn't feel like his mum while he was in the NICU. It's hard to with all those wires, beepers, lights and nurses! And because he was a preemie and it was flu season we were instructed to not take him out. So we were slightly isolated, but I think once he came home with me we fell into our groove pretty quickly - as unnatural as it was at first with the milk intake scales and all that.

Georgia-Peach -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 10:50:36 AM)
I felt somewhat prepared before Hunter arrived or so I thought. The nursery was ready, my bags were packed, we had registered early at the hospital, etc. But, I had no clue how unprepared I truly was for this little boy. My experience the first 6-8 weeks did not match up to what I was expecting. Hunter was not a good sleeper and we had issues with him latching that was making me question why I ever wanted to breastfeed. Once we got nursing down that helped out a lot, but the sleep issues have just now gone away since he turned a year old. I think I had way to high of expectations and so when those were not being met it was hard emotionally. Not to mention everyone else around me had what I thought were perfect babies who slept all night and their mommies looked like they were perfect too. I learned real fast though you never know what goes on behind closed doors [;)] I would have to say somewhere between 3-4 months I felt like I was finding a groove with this new life. But, it wasn't until around 6 months that I really felt like we were in a groove together. I started feeling more confident as a mommy, started listening to my own instincts and not everyone else's, and just started relaxing a little more.

PrincessDonna -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 3:57:45 PM)
quote: Did you feel prepared before the baby came? Did your experience after the baby came line up with that? First baby...I felt prepared, and was not at all.[>:] (stepson in here...no, I was not prepared for him[&:]) Third baby...I felt prepared (we tried over 2 years for this one), and was wonderful Fourth baby...I felt unprepared (had a needy 2 year old then), but it went better than I anticipated Fifth baby...I feel pretty prepared. I think. quote: Another discussion question.... How old was your baby when you finally felt 'in the groove' of your new life? First...um...3 years? Stepson...we're still not in the groove with this one[:(] Third...a couple weeks Fourth...a couple months Fifth...???

paulsbride -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 5:09:18 PM)
How far ahead do you buy clothes - or really any 'kid stuff' - for your baby's? Like if your baby is 6 months clothes, what is the largest size you'll buy right now anticipating the baby to grow into?

manda59 -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 5:13:32 PM)
I bought all of my baby clothes from second-hand shops so really just bought whenever I saw anything I liked - probably the further ahead that I bought was about 3 years.

PrincessDonna -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 5:27:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: paulsbride How far ahead do you buy clothes - or really any 'kid stuff' - for your baby's? Like if your baby is 6 months clothes, what is the largest size you'll buy right now anticipating the baby to grow into? At that age, I wouldn't buy ahead more than the next size or two. I'll buy stuff for my older kids a year ahead, or more. But then, we only have two seasons here...snow and no snow.

EmilyAnn -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 5:31:44 PM)
I like to think I am prepared. I have a lot of experience working with very young children (newborn to age 3.) I also have a lot of people IRL and online that I know I can turn to for support and advice. I know how to take care of a baby, and I am sure I will learn quickly how to take care of my baby. My biggest concerns are probably breastfeeding and taking care of little boy parts. I haven't done either of those things before, so other than research and talking to women with experience, I can't prepare. I guess we will see in a few months how prepared I am. [:D]

nicole6598 -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 5:35:34 PM)
Emily I am sure you will do a GREAT job :) Clothes- if they are clothes that you know will be in style still in a year or so I buy ahead. I have things for Nath for when he is 2, t shirts and shorts because they are classic types that won't go out of style.

Mrs.Wifey -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 5:37:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: paulsbride How far ahead do you buy clothes - or really any 'kid stuff' - for your baby's? Like if your baby is 6 months clothes, what is the largest size you'll buy right now anticipating the baby to grow into? I have bought PJ's for this coming winter, I found "flame retardant free" ones at Wally for $1.50 a set so I bought 5-6 sets in 18-24 months. I haven't bought anything for this coming summer but I plan on doing that this week at one of the big swap meets.

lexie -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 5:40:53 PM)
I've learned the hard way not to buy ahead for Akeelah. I did that at first, buying clothes out of season when they were on sale, at the size I figured she would be. Then we got to the season and they fit her for only a few wears. She grew a lot between 6 months and a year, and now she has evened out a bit. Also with the differences in sizes of makes and brands I don't take the chance with this one!

paulsbride -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 5:42:32 PM)
[8D] At the yard sales today they had great prices are nearly brand new Gap hoodies and a jacket ... in size 5. [&o] They were 75. cents each, so I bought 6. Another place had them gently used for 25. cents and I bought 6 pieces between 24 months and 3T. I figure I can always sell them for more than I paid for them if I want to get rid of them.

EmilyAnn -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 6:23:48 PM)
People are having yard sales there already? That's not fair!! I want to go to a yard sale!! LOL I have some clothes up to 12 month size for the baby. They were so cute and on sale, so I went ahead and bought them.

Georgia-Peach -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 8:01:04 PM)
I have never been that great at buying a season ahead when the stuff goes on sale for dirt cheap. I have seen some really great deals, but Hunter has never followed clothing sizes according to his age. He can still fit into some 6-9 month shirts he has and 12 month pants still are slightly big in the waist, but do fit good length wise. They had some really cute 2T winter clothes for great deals, but I don't know if he will even be wearing that size come winter. I buy all of his clothes at Target, Walmart, Old Navy, Kohl's, or sales racks at the more expensive stores (children's place, babygap, gymboree) so I don't really pay a whole lot for his clothes to begin with. I love putting him in polo shirts and Old Navy had some marked down to 2.99 though they were picked over I was able to find a couple...I love deals like that.

manda59 -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 8:26:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lexie I've learned the hard way not to buy ahead for Akeelah. I did that at first, buying clothes out of season when they were on sale, at the size I figured she would be. Then we got to the season and they fit her for only a few wears. It's probaby not so much of a big deal for us here in the UK, as our seasons don't actually vary that much overall, certainly not as much as they do across the pond.

Brandy -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 8:52:57 PM)
ebay question when looking at bidding on "lots" of clothes, what is fair shipping? I'm seeing 100pc lots w $24 for shipping, that seems like a lot to me!!!

Mrs.Wifey -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 9:03:32 PM)
I buy cute stuff on clearance, if Gabby doesn't fit into it then I can always sell it on Ebay. Brandy, 100pieces for $24 isn't bad, clothes weigh alot! My mom sent me a box of bumper pads and fabric and priority shipping was $27.

Brandy -> RE: Baby Chat....take 2 (3/1/2008 9:04:47 PM)
thank Ryanne, I was thinking about the weight after I posted. There is a TON of stuff out there.. I also need to check out our thrift stores and consignments around here too.

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