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rebelyell -> RE: Do kids do chores these days? (4/13/2008 2:56:03 AM)

I am a fifteen year old homeschooled boy. It is absolutely reasonable to have your kids do chores - without any allowance. I get to live in my parent's house, eat their food, and accept their generous gifts. In return, I work for them in the form of chores. By "chores" I don't mean making my bed and taking out the trash, I mean real labor. When my dad cuts down trees, remodels the house, and just does generally backbreaking labor, I am there helping him. What do I get paid? Food, a place to stay, and occasionally a treat like some soda or some similar thing. He might take me on a hunting trip if he was really pleased. Sometimes, yes, he does give me money, but it is a gift, not a wage for a job that I did. That has already been paid in full by him taking care of my needs. This summer, after school is done, I plan on getting a job to get money for some various projects. Even here, I plan on giving ten percent to my family to help some of the financial troubles that I have caused, simply because I have eaten my dad's food and used his electricity. So, if I tithe ten percent and give ten percent to my family, I still walk away with eighty percent. That's pretty decent. Even as much as I'm doing, I am not even close to paying back my parents for all they have done for me. Chores are definitely a reasonable thing to demand.

In our Lord Jesus Christ,
Rebel.
For the South!



bzirk -> RE: Do kids do chores these days? (4/14/2008 7:17:59 PM)

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I would like to prove to my 13 yr DD that kids do in fact have chores these days and that she is not the only one[;)]

Could you please list the ages of your children and what they are expected to do.


8, 15, 17, 19 (my 19 year old still lives with us, and goes to college; she's expected to do her part in the household -- same as if she lived by herself or with a roommate. In fact, it's probably easier than if she lived on her own)

They are all expected to keep their rooms clean although I'm not as much of a hard nose about that as I am the "public areas" of the household. Other than that, we rotate responsibilities for the rest of the house on a monthly basis. Those responsibilities include keeping the kitchen clean, keeping the living areas clean, keeping the bathrooms clean, and doing the laundry. The three older kids also cook some of the meals. All of the household areas are picked up daily (at least that's usually what happens), and at least one load is done every day. Once a week we do a deeper cleaning, e.g., mopping floors, cleaning windows, door facings, cleaning the toilets and bathtubs/showers, changing the sheets. My youngest child usually does all of the dusting and vacuuming. She also helps put up clean dishes and clean laundry, and any other thing that is appropriate for her to do.

Oh, and when it's wintertime, they all shovel snow. In the summer, they mow. [8D]

They do not get an allowance.



tse -> RE: Do kids do chores these days? (4/21/2008 12:32:27 PM)

My two daughters used to groan at the thought of chores and I have to admit that I did to. The problem was they didn't understand that as a member of the family they had to participate at all levels. On my part, I had to allow them to participate financially - this meant a realistic allowance. As the allowance increased so did their ability to complete their chores without the drama.

Teach Your Kids To Earn Their Own Money



Hephzibah610 -> RE: Do kids do chores these days? (4/29/2008 8:59:30 AM)

This is a "touchy" subject for me. I wholeheartedly agree that children should help with chores as part of the family, and, as stated in an earlier post, to help them learn how to get along once they move out of our homes. The problem is trying to get on the same page with my husband. He feels that the academics is more important than doing chores. I feel that the chores are part of living in this world and most everyone will have to contend with them some time in life (unless they are extremely rich and can pay people to do them!) How do you get the vision across to everyone in the family? I think that because I am the one at home, the others think that it is only "my" job to do cleaning and maintenance.

P.S. Princess Donna has a great "signature": Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the desert these forty years,
to humble you and to test you in order to know what was in your heart,
whether or not you would keep his commands. Deut 8:2

Yes, I feel as though I am living this part right now [&:]



child4ever -> RE: Do kids do chores these days? (4/29/2008 1:24:22 PM)

We are a family that has been accused of doing way too many academics and not enough"electives". As a home schooler I want to make sure that my kids get everything they need to get into whatever career they desire to do when they are grown. So I may go overboard. But they are not complaining and they are testing out incredibly well. But in order for me to do the job, teaching them well, I need their help in getting the chores done or I get crabby. The old saying "when mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" is pretty much true for our home. I do a much better job teaching and they do a much better job learning when the chores are kept up and completed. It provides a peaceful and more productive atmosphere when the house is clean and organized. I cannot do it by myself. I do not want to do it by myself. Does anyone?! I also know that it isn't right for any family to expect mom to do it all. If that were all we had to do, but chores are only one of a huge variety of things we as moms have to do. It is a valuable thing to teach families to share the load. It has everything to do with respecting one another. I feel respected when everyone pitches in and shares the load. That is just what families do. And someday when they grow up, they will know that it is OK to expect that of their families. And that is a good thing.
Hope that helps.
[;)]



judii1 -> RE: Do kids do chores these days? (4/29/2008 6:30:32 PM)

Ds does chores now. All I had to do was ground him from the library.[sm=icon_smile_yikes.gif][sm=icon_smile_yikes.gif] (AKA the only place that he can get on the internet[:D]) D]



castacy -> RE: Do kids do chores these days? (5/9/2008 2:35:40 PM)

Yes my kids do chores... except we don't use the word "chore". We like to use the word "responsibility" for helping around the house.
My kidz' responsibilities are:
Before breakfast:
10 y/o son: gets dressed; makes bed, making sure there are no clothes on the floor; cleans bathroom
8 y/o son: gets dressed; makes bed, same as above; cleans living room (sweeping, vacuuming)
6 y/o daughter: gets dressed; makes bed, same as above; plays with little sister and brother
After each meal:
Each takes weekly turn to Clean/clear table; Loads/unloads dishwasher; Sweeps kitchen floor

They each take turns (with my help usually) doing laundry. And each help to watch the 3 y/o and 19 mos toddlers.
My 3 y/o boy likes to help his siblings every once in awhile.[:)]
I don't give them allowance, but the do get rewarded when they're not expecting it!
Hope this is helpful to you!



bzirk -> RE: Do kids do chores these days? (5/12/2008 3:12:24 PM)

We also don't use the chore either. We've pretty much called it responsibility. I never really thought about it until now, but I like the word choice of responsibility more than chore because chore has the connotation of something that is compartmentalized, and responsibility has the connotation of being part of the family and carrying your weight in the family. Maybe I'm nitpicking, but that's one reason I probably never use the word 'chore" with my kids.



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