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What's your limit?


wait for God to make it happen
  11% (5)
jump off a cliff
  2% (1)
serenade her
  8% (4)
directly tell her of your interest
  20% (9)
wait for her (if she has previously committed obligations or duties)
  17% (8)
quit at the first sign of frustration or delay
  2% (1)
part the Red Sea
  4% (2)
repeatedly tell her you're the one until she agrees
  2% (1)
be friendly and hope she says something
  22% (10)
other
  8% (4)


Total Votes : 45
(last vote on : 4/24/2008 1:52:24 PM)
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shemaromans -> What's your limit? (4/5/2008 6:13:53 PM)

My latest curiousity: How far would you go in an attempt to win the love of a woman that's caught your attention. Do you have a limit? Any guidelines that you follow? What's your course of action? Do you have contingency plans?

Multiple voting options available--feel free to add other examples.

All of this assumes that she's fruitful and the two of you appear to be compatible.



trainfan -> RE: What's your limit? (4/5/2008 7:51:59 PM)

Oh boy first post![:D]

I voted for "be friendly and hope she says something, directly tell her of interest and wait for her".

Being that I am quite shy in this type of thing. I would first be friendly and see how see responds to that. If see seemed interested I would tell directly that I was interested. If she was interested then I would wait for her.

Nobody wants to here me sing. I can't carry a tune in a bucket. [:D]

I'm too persistent to give up quickly but I also wouldn't keep trying until she agreed since that would seem like she was agreeing hoping I would eventually go away.

I may break a leg jumping off a cliff. [:D]

I am of the school of thought that waiting for God does involve some action on our part rather than sitting around waiting for something to happen.



colliefan -> RE: What's your limit? (4/5/2008 8:31:29 PM)

Given my experiences with women the more I love my dogs. It's all my fault as I tend to reach out to women that are wounded and I want to rescue them.



humbleinspirit -> RE: What's your limit? (4/5/2008 9:12:45 PM)

Hmmm, tough one, I do not have a whole lot of experience in this area, so...[;)]



willfs -> RE: What's your limit? (4/5/2008 9:34:51 PM)

Wow. I have to tell this story. I was out playing disc golf with a friend TODAY and his disc landed in a puddle. In disc golf you have to stand in the spot where your disc lies when throwing the next shot. I asked him if he wanted me to lie down in the puddle so he didn't have to stand in it. He asked me if I would do it for fifty dollars. I told him I would do it for a phone number, not his but someone else's. If it meant lying in the puddle with my friend standing on me to get her number, then yeah, I think I would.



humbleinspirit -> RE: What's your limit? (4/5/2008 9:40:39 PM)

I think that I would fight for the right woman.



John_O -> RE: What's your limit? (4/5/2008 9:52:00 PM)

I chose tell her, be friendly, wait on God and serenade her.

When I'm interested and I think she's compatible I can be very persistent. But it's normally a more relaxed sort of pursuit. I'm certainly not above sending flowers or dropping a card in the mail for special occasions (like Friday for example).

If she is seeing someone else however I will disappear. Fidelity starts in the dating process. If she's taken she's taken and I will not come between two people.



shawke -> RE: What's your limit? (4/5/2008 10:15:13 PM)

I chose Wait for God; Wait for her if she has obligations; Part the Red Sea, because that would be WAY cool! I also chose be friendly and hope she says something.

I'm been a bit gunshy lately about directly telling her because the last few times have went badly. [:D]
There should be an option for "God told me that we are to be together, so you better obey Him." I actually know a woman that a version of that line was used on, needless to say, she ran away as fast as she could.



humbleinspirit -> RE: What's your limit? (4/5/2008 10:16:11 PM)

I've heard that happen too!



colliefan -> RE: What's your limit? (4/5/2008 10:42:01 PM)

quote:

There should be an option for "God told me that we are to be together, so you better obey Him."


She should reply "We must serve different Gods."



dinomax55 -> RE: What's your limit? (4/6/2008 10:55:21 PM)

I chose 'Serenade her'. I'm a hopeless romantic, but I'm also picky; she had better be worth the trouble.



DaveW -> RE: What's your limit? (4/7/2008 7:31:34 AM)

My fight to wed my wife was not with her but with the church leadership.



shemaromans -> RE: What's your limit? (4/9/2008 12:41:51 AM)

Thank you for posting! I enjoyed reading your comments, and I tip my hat to all of you because it can't be easy stepping out of your comfort zones to approach women, possibly experiencing rejection.

Perhaps a no-brainer question, but does the amount of compatibility/chemistry/what-have-you affect the amount of effort that you'd put into pursuing a woman? Is there a correlation? In other words, have you ever found that you're (or do you imagine that you'd be) bolder if you suspect a greater potential for success?



BlackCapnHarlock -> RE: What's your limit? (4/9/2008 6:55:08 AM)

You wan't win a woman's love. That's a fallacy and it isn't true. Women either love you in the EROTIC manner or they don't. I wasted good opportunites in High school, a good one, to have a good postive relationship with a wonderful young lady, because I was too busy trying to make women "Love me." Trying to win their hearts . . DUMB!!!

Go for the women that go for you. Women if you are not into a guy, forget it, don't waste his time to pad your ego.

GUYS, learn from my HORRIBLE MISTAKE, go ONLY for the women that are IN LOVE with you without coercion or "games" coercion isn't love that is why GOD wants us to LOVE him without coercion without force.

Love and desire are most be genuine . . . . .

Also, GOD isn't Cupid by the way. Big mistakes I have made in thinking that he was . ... BIG MISTAKE.



realist_man -> RE: What's your limit? (4/9/2008 5:56:53 PM)

I'd ask once. If the answer is no, that's it.



shemaromans -> RE: What's your limit? (4/9/2008 9:45:30 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BlackCapnHarlock

You wan't win a woman's love. That's a fallacy and it isn't true. Women either love you in the EROTIC manner or they don't. I wasted good opportunites in High school, a good one, to have a good postive relationship with a wonderful young lady, because I was too busy trying to make women "Love me." Trying to win their hearts . . DUMB!!!

I used a figure of speech that I knew we'd all understand. Almost all of us realize that women are not the prizes on the walls of fairground aracades and that Hollywood doesn't present a realistic picture of love. Most of us women *do* like to know that I man considers them worthy of their effort, though. It shows that the man will fight for us, protect us, comfort us, love us sacrificially...all of the qualities that the bible delineates.

I don't know you, but I suggest that you not allow high school experiences to blur or mar your outlook on relationships in adulthood.


quote:

Go for the women that go for you. Women if you are not into a guy, forget it, don't waste his time to pad your ego.

This thread isn't about abusive, egotistical, selfish, or dishonest women.


quote:

GUYS, learn from my HORRIBLE MISTAKE, go ONLY for the women that are IN LOVE with you without coercion or "games" coercion isn't love that is why GOD wants us to LOVE him without coercion without force.

I don't see where any of the previous posters or myself posted anything about game playing, coercion, or force. I began this thread as a way to try to understand men a little better and to gain some insight into the challenges that they face when they meet someone of interest.



makarizo -> RE: What's your limit? (4/10/2008 7:29:09 AM)

I checked 'directly tell her' but sometimes even the direct approach can make a situation awkward.



notmycity -> RE: What's your limit? (4/10/2008 2:47:25 PM)

I let my wife know I was interested, then I wooed her, set the trap, and married her. :o)



John_O -> RE: What's your limit? (4/11/2008 4:48:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: shemaromans
Perhaps a no-brainer question, but does the amount of compatibility/chemistry/what-have-you affect the amount of effort that you'd put into pursuing a woman? Is there a correlation? In other words, have you ever found that you're (or do you imagine that you'd be) bolder if you suspect a greater potential for success?


The better she looks to me (in all ways not just physical) will certainly increase the amount of effort I'll put into pursuit. And any hint of recipricated feelings from her will also increase my effort.



shemaromans -> RE: What's your limit? (4/11/2008 7:52:21 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: John_O

quote:

ORIGINAL: shemaromans
Perhaps a no-brainer question, but does the amount of compatibility/chemistry/what-have-you affect the amount of effort that you'd put into pursuing a woman? Is there a correlation? In other words, have you ever found that you're (or do you imagine that you'd be) bolder if you suspect a greater potential for success?


The better she looks to me (in all ways not just physical) will certainly increase the amount of effort I'll put into pursuit. And any hint of recipricated feelings from her will also increase my effort.

Thanks for responding, John. That makes sense, and I always appreciate your insight. Referring back to your previous post, I think I'd seriously swoon if a man I was dating serenaded me. [sm=smile-l.gif] [sm=icon_smile_faint.gif]
(Of course, the timing and setting would have to be right.)


Note to self: remember to reciprocate feelings



John_O -> RE: What's your limit? (4/11/2008 9:24:49 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: shemaromans

quote:

ORIGINAL: John_O

quote:

ORIGINAL: shemaromans
Perhaps a no-brainer question, but does the amount of compatibility/chemistry/what-have-you affect the amount of effort that you'd put into pursuing a woman? Is there a correlation? In other words, have you ever found that you're (or do you imagine that you'd be) bolder if you suspect a greater potential for success?


The better she looks to me (in all ways not just physical) will certainly increase the amount of effort I'll put into pursuit. And any hint of recipricated feelings from her will also increase my effort.

Thanks for responding, John. That makes sense, and I always appreciate your insight. Referring back to your previous post, I think I'd seriously swoon if a man I was dating serenaded me. [sm=smile-l.gif] [sm=icon_smile_faint.gif]
(Of course, the timing and setting would have to be right.)


Note to self: remember to reciprocate feelings


(note to self: If ever pursuing shemaromans, remember to sing)



shemaromans -> RE: What's your limit? (4/11/2008 10:01:03 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: John_O

quote:

ORIGINAL: shemaromans

quote:

ORIGINAL: John_O

quote:

ORIGINAL: shemaromans
Perhaps a no-brainer question, but does the amount of compatibility/chemistry/what-have-you affect the amount of effort that you'd put into pursuing a woman? Is there a correlation? In other words, have you ever found that you're (or do you imagine that you'd be) bolder if you suspect a greater potential for success?


The better she looks to me (in all ways not just physical) will certainly increase the amount of effort I'll put into pursuit. And any hint of recipricated feelings from her will also increase my effort.

Thanks for responding, John. That makes sense, and I always appreciate your insight. Referring back to your previous post, I think I'd seriously swoon if a man I was dating serenaded me. [sm=smile-l.gif] [sm=icon_smile_faint.gif]
(Of course, the timing and setting would have to be right.)


Note to self: remember to reciprocate feelings


(note to self: If ever pursuing shemaromans, remember to sing)


(note to John: your "Happy Birthday" rendition, from what I hear, probably wouldn't be the best choice of song [:D])



colliefan -> RE: What's your limit? (4/11/2008 10:55:05 PM)

If I tried to seranade someone, she would probably call the cops. I would make an alley cat sound like Placido Domingo.



shemaromans -> RE: What's your limit? (4/11/2008 11:07:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: colliefan

If I tried to seranade someone, she would probably call the cops. I would make an alley cat sound like Placido Domingo.

LOL! Not if your heart was in tune. :)



DaveW -> RE: What's your limit? (4/12/2008 9:38:05 PM)

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Note to self: remember to reciprocate feelings
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note to self: If ever pursuing shemaromans, remember to sing
OK - knock it off in there!



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