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gaylel1 -> RE: eHarmony advice: How to navigate the one night stand (4/19/2008 12:25:48 PM)
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[:@]I've used e-harmony, and have met some good, Bible-believing young women through it. I am aware of at 3 marriages from it, and that's only within my own circle of Christian acquaintances. Does the fact that it has non-believers on the service 'taint' the service, or its effectiveness? No! Does the fact that there are articles about one-night stands limit the service's effectiveness for Christians? No! What has any of that got to do with you? Is any of that stuff really influencing you? At all? Why is this so shocking? If you don't want to deal with people who have a lack of morals, simply put that in your profile.. Some of you come off as really judgmental, like by merely joining a dating site you are being force to commit fornication or something. C'mon! We're all adults here (I hope) and we should be able to make sound choices regarding the way we seek out companionship. "If anyone lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives freely..".. There is going to be work involved, and yes, you will have to separate the wheat from the chaff.
I'ts not about being "judgemental" as you accuse some to be, but when people place articles about "one night stands" and encouraging fornication it sends the wrong message to single christians everywhere. This is another example of the world getting to the church, even with single christians these days because they are vunable of every opinion instead of what God says about it.
No, I don't think it is so shocking because nothing is shocking these days because we live in a world which is broken, yet ungodly these days because we let those who influence our thinking and the thinking is unwise because of the "world." And this includes someone like Warren.
When Warren opened up the floodgates for those who are not in the faith, something might has been up. And when e-harmony advertised in secular media, it was no longer a dating service for Christians, but he let the world and world influences get on board, and yes, I'm concerned about it.
Unfortnaly there are people outhere who don't know how to make sound choices (and I'm not talking about those on here, hopefully you will make a sound choice and not because he or she is a "Christian in name only) and end up with someone who compomise their beliefs. There are people who are on these Christian and non-christian dating services who come out as "Christians," but they do have entirely different belief system and unfortunatly especially our Christian sisters do get ripped off because they have been lied to, even decived. I was one of those people who thought everyone is a Christian, but you see, people like people in drug treatment centers, people who are practicing homosexuality and in other religious sects do frequent these sites, even e-harmony and you don't know if these people are following the lord, or are dishonest.
And I don't date these type of people because to me as a Christian woman, I want someone who can be a leader in the home, and not compomising what the world has to say. You don't know if these people who are a member of a fellowship and under a spiritual covering just because they are a Christian. That is very, very important, in my opinion.
Now people will tell you that there are people who are IRL will do the same thing, but on the net, people can play a game, thinking you are interested and yet that person is not the person who is on that profile.
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