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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/21/2008 9:40:10 PM
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WhiteRoseBlessings
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I'm not confusing the two; I certainly know the difference.
I most definitely have known people whose focus was to get married explicitly for the sake of being married.
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/21/2008 9:45:42 PM
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Just one thing that I would want to add here, the danger of getting married just of the sake of marriage, while not necessarily a bad thing wanting a mate is settling for second best, and thus ended up in a marriage that is less than fulfilling. I cannot think of anything worse than being married and still feeling alone! 
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/21/2008 9:48:43 PM
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Mike, don't let anyone ever tell you that you are not wise. 
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/21/2008 10:07:33 PM
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Thank you Sharon-Marie! You have a lot of wisdom yourself! 
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/21/2008 10:24:02 PM
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Mike, don't let anyone ever tell you that you are not wise.
We always knew that Mike was a wise guy.
Hey Shar-Mar. So good to see you.
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/21/2008 10:26:37 PM
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Thanks John! You are very wise guy too! *ynuk, ynuk, ynuk!" 
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/22/2008 2:31:00 PM
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WhiteRoseBlessings
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Mike, don't let anyone ever tell you that you are not wise.
We always knew that Mike was a wise guy.
Hey Shar-Mar. So good to see you.
Thanks, John!
It's good to see you as well.
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/22/2008 2:35:54 PM
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I am single and not really looking for a relationship right now. I am almost 39, no kids, and never been married. My question is does this raise a red flag with women?
In a word...nope.
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/22/2008 3:55:01 PM
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I'm not confusing the two; I certainly know the difference.
Just putting it out there because many do
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/23/2008 5:02:23 AM
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I didn't have an incredible desire for marriage until the right person came along. So, I guess it's bad to have more of a desire for marriage than for the right person?
I don't quite understand. If you have a desire to get married then shouldn't you equally desire to find the right person? Not unless a person (like Shar Mar said) truly desires just the idea of getting married. Some people do. Some people just want to be married just to be married. It's not "bad" but for me personally, if it's not the right person, then no marriage for me.
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/23/2008 9:33:13 AM
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truly desires just the idea of getting married. Some people do. Some people just want to be married just to be married.
Yeah that's what I was trying to say; not to marry just to say your married. I think are intentions should show our action or our actions should show our intentions. For what ever reason you start out to to something you should have the puriest intentions. I desire to be married but not at the risk of vanity. And humbleinspirit, I truley did not mean to offend you if I did.
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/23/2008 1:35:20 PM
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Reasons why people are married just to be married. Interesting to ponder. Way back in days of old the reason was, "Because you just do and need to procreate and your family arranges it for you." Things were so much more simple back then. lol
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/23/2008 2:02:27 PM
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Reasons why people are married just to be married. Interesting to ponder.
wanting to fill a hole/void in their life. doesn't necessarily have to be after a divorce or breakup. yes some people do enter rebound relationships and even marry that person. it could be a way to numb the pain. people could marry to have emotional needs met such as domestic support, financial, sexual fulfilment, recreational companionship. many of the same reasons anyone would want to get married, i just think the desire to have those needs met drives the person.
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/23/2008 2:18:03 PM
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/25/2008 8:06:38 AM
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Why does it seem everyone considers you a freak or gay if you don't want to date or be married right away? As I seek the Lord, I find that I am actually content with being single. Why can't everyone else see that???
I think that in general, people think others should be as they are. For a lot of people, they want to date and be married from a very early age and it preoccupies a lot of their time. So, because they've never experienced contentment as a single, they don't understand it and can only think about under what conditions they would behave similarly. It is good to be content with being single. Some are permanently content. Others vacillate between content and discontent. It is blessing to be where you are right now. Enjoy this time.
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/25/2008 8:26:21 PM
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Yes, and I think our society emphasizes sex and romance so much that people have come to believe an adult cannot be happy without having a romantic relationship in his/her life. So, when they see someone who is single and unattached ... but not actively looking ... they assume this person cannot be a normal heterosexual adult.
Also, contentment in singleness comes when we know and walk with the Lord. We DO have a close relationship in our lives. But if others don't have that, they don't understand.
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RE: Single And Not Looking - 4/26/2008 12:57:02 AM
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I am single and not really looking for a relationship right now. I am almost 39, no kids, and never been married. My question is does this raise a red flag with women?
In a word...nope.
Thanks Christi!
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