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Social Sites

MySpace

36% (7)

Facebook

42% (8)

Other

21% (4)

Total Votes : 19

(last vote on : 4/26/2008 5:46:07 PM)
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John_O -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 1:04:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AlwaysR8chel . . . . ........ good rant, John_O.... I expected it from someone. Yes... we are all called to encourage each other and hold each other accountable.... I embrace that aspect of Christian friendships. But this is real life... a real community.... and some people have such a closed mind.... and place their expectations on others. (I'm guilty of this as well.) After experiencing incredible betrayal beyond belief from 'Christians' here on this site.... I have to say, John_O..... that we Christians can be so cruel to each other.... [:o] Everyone can be cruel. Normally though the things that hurt the most are the things that strike us closest to home. quote: I am not lying when I post here... but I am also not able to post freely about my life. [:o] This is the part that leaves me totally in the dark. If you have something that's worth telling lost people why are Christians unworthy to be told it also? If it's something you've repented of, teh it's cool all the way around. If it's something you need to repent of then do so and get it over with. If it's something you're struggling with then where better to find help than with your brothers and sisters. And if it's something that is biblically defensible (that is the bible doesn't disallow it) then if someone rides you fro it it's there problem not yours. Of course there are times when interpretations differ, then you just agree to disagree and go on. I can't imagine a single thing I'd tell the world that I would keep hidden from the church. I've got bunches of things I'd tell the church that I hide from the world however. I guess it may be where you place your trust quote: I am very picky and choosy about what I post.... I know many more who also feel this way... And that's very wise. If you're not at ease in telling it, don't tell it. But if you are at ease in telling it to anyone, I would think you'd feel more at ease telling it to the church. quote: and I know many who've left because they were tired of being 'trodden down'... Again I'm at a loss. If they ar ebiblically correct then I repent and correct my behavior. If they are boiblically wrong I correct their interpretation or agree to disagree. There's no trodding involved. quote: Thanks for making my post a 'perfect' example of your pet peeve. You're welcome. We needed some good spirited discussion to enliven things.

John_O -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 1:08:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Single4Life Ah yes! This is one reason I got tired of CW and pulled back long ago. Unfortunately, many Christians are quick to judge for the sake of "accountability", yet do so with no love in their words. They even KNOW they are being harsh, but they go ahead and post their words anyway. The Bible is not a baseball bat. Now this is an excellent point!! We need to be gentle in our corrections of each other, just as the bible directs. I have to run and may be off all weekend. But I'll revisit this later.

iwillfearnoevil -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 1:22:19 PM)
argh, having to retype my post as CW ate it and it's a lot less eloquent this time around ... i had a pastor tell me a few months ago that Christians are known for eating their own. sure the world has less moral standards than "Christians" and is more accepting. however often it's more accepting/forgiving then Christians partly from this same basis. it's not perfect or how it should be, but it is reality. i'm surprised you've never run across a Christian who expresses shock in a condescending way either privately or gossipy over a believer's sin or perceived sin. i don't feel rachel was implying she leads a double life. it's a fact that how we talk to people or what we say (whether in the world or in the church) depends on lots of things from their level of spirtual growth & maturity, to gender & age, relationship role (mentor, friend, teacher), etc. situations and conversations are handled differently.

JustJeannie -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 1:29:32 PM)
That was interesting, IWFNE. I am still a fairly "new" Christian, and I am SOOO worried that people view me in light of past sins. The fact that I am still an "infant" in Christ means nothing to some. I tend to censor what I say so people will not "judge" me. I know I should be able to bring ALL my problems and questions to other Christians, but it tends to get aggravating when they assume I should know better because I am a Christian. Just my 2 cents worth...

trainfan -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 1:29:48 PM)
Although I have neither a Facebook or a Myspace account I can see both points of view here. Lets face it while we are all Christians here we each have different points of view on things due to our backgrounds. These things do not make us less of a Christian than other poeple but some people think they that these things do. Lets use the way people dress for church as an example. Some Christians think that you are less of a Christian or not one at all if you don't wear a suit and tie for men or a dress for women to church. Other Christians don't care what you wear to church as long as it's not immodest. If I posted I wore jeans to church on Sunday someone who thinks real Christians wear suits may jump all over me for the way I was dressed. The people who dress casually could jump all over the people who dress up for being too uptight etc. On a side note I know people who think that you must be dressed up for church and one person who was almost in tears when there was a picture in the church newsletter of the janitor cleaning the sanctuary in jeans[sm=icon_smile_yikes.gif] "the nerve of some people dressed like that in church!" Other Christians might never eat out on Sunday while others go every week with their pastor. Either group could jump all over the other one for something that doesn't make a hill of beans bit of difference to anything. IWFNE posted something on another thread about playing capture the flag with his youth group. Another youth group leader may have a canary about that after all isn't capture the flag kind of like a war game? His youth group doesn't play games only does Bible study "youth group meetings aren't for playing games. " Things like that may be why people don't feel they can post what they want b/c who really wants to get in a debate or run the risk of getting in a debate about such petty issues.

iwillfearnoevil -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 1:38:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: soccermom_4_life I know I should be able to bring ALL my problems and questions to other Christians, but it tends to get aggravating when they assume I should know better because I am a Christian. Just my 2 cents worth... good post. that is what i mean, you should know better than even to ask, you should have known not to do xyz. i think that is why finding a safe person or two can be helpful. when we ask for forgiveness, that's it, God forgives us. aftermath may still be there but in our eyes we shouldn't be condemning ourselves. sometimes there's such an emphasis on hitting the mark, that when the dart flies off the board it is amplified by others.

JustJeannie -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 1:52:02 PM)
Thank you, IWFNE. It is such a struggle for me when my teenage daughter has been a Christian longer than I have and seems to know more about the Bible than I do. I do know that SHE has been a huge influence on ME as well as other teens. I feel stupid sometimes when I can't answer their questions. I mean, I'M THE MOM. But yeah, I have one woman in the church who has become a mentor to me. It is nice to have someone I can go to and know that I won't be judged but gently admonished and then prayed for...

mutinywxgirl -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 1:56:31 PM)
Okay folks, lets get this back on topic!

JustJeannie -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 2:10:10 PM)
OOPS! Sorry about that.

mutinywxgirl -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 2:17:53 PM)
Not directed at any one person - but everyone - we need to stay on topic. If we want to discuss this other stuff - make a new thread.

Single4Life -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 2:19:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mutinywxgirl Not directed at any one person - but everyone - we need to stay on topic. If we want to discuss this other stuff - make a new thread. Muchas gracias! I thought I was just posting a light-hearted thread, too! [sm=angelhalo.gif]

Single4Life -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 2:22:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: iwillfearnoevil i'll also let the internet geek in me put forward that CW is not really a social site as although it allows us to meet strangers there is not really a way for us to define our personal social network and trace it to other people. it only meets 1 part of a 3 part definition i just searched. CW is an awesome community site though. Well, I knew CW was not the same thing as MS or FB, but I didn't want people to think I was steering people away from or "dissing" CW. Are there other social sites to be part of out there? I'm sure there have got to be more, but they don't make the headlines like MS or FB. Didn't some make some kind of Christian version of MS?

JustJeannie -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 2:22:10 PM)
Well, back on topic... My daughter and son each have a MySpace page and my daughter is wanting a FB page now. I'm thinking what does a 13 y.o. have to say to friends that she doesn't already see daily. I actually have a MS page, I just haven't done anything with it. I may have to let my son "design" it for me.......LOL

broyce1981 -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 2:25:59 PM)
I have both, but prefer Facebook by far. I seem to get lots of unwelcome friend requests on Myspace from women with inappropriate pictures. That doesn't happen over on Facebook. Sure the application requests are annoying, but it beats being bombarded by inappropriate content!

Tinkerbell_ -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 2:28:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: broyce1981 I have both, but prefer Facebook by far. I seem to get lots of unwelcome friend requests on Myspace from women with inappropriate pictures. That doesn't happen over on Facebook. Sure the application requests are annoying, but it beats being bombarded by inappropriate content! I've noticed that the traffic of unsolicited 'friends' on Facebook isn't as rampant as MySpace. I didn't even notice it until I got my first one...took me forever to figure out where I knew this person and then I realised I didn't. grin I prefer the lack of stuff like that on Facebook, but MySpace is so much more personal IMO. You can design it the way you want it. I like that.

JustJeannie -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 2:28:59 PM)
Interesting... I never tho't about that. Of course, my kids' settings are private, so only friends already on their list can interact with them.

broyce1981 -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 2:31:51 PM)
If I get a friend request from someone I don't recognize I check for mutual friends and sometimes that'll help jog my memory as to whether I know someone or not.

iwillfearnoevil -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 2:39:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Single4Life Well, I knew CW was not the same thing as MS or FB, but I didn't want people to think I was steering people away from or "dissing" CW. Are there other social sites to be part of out there? I'm sure there have got to be more, but they don't make the headlines like MS or FB. Didn't some make some kind of Christian version of MS? i know single4life, i wanted to differentiate as i don't think everyone knows. here are some recent stats and as you can see, it's pretty much myspace and facebook dominating. facebook usage was restricted at first to school then companies before fully public and that has probably effected the numbers some. also looking at growth, myspace has possibly peaked but facebook and some newer players have gained a lot of growth. [image]http://home.compete.com.edgesuite.net/site_media/upl/img/top-social-networks-feb.png[/image] edit: it's annoying how the image shows in the preview but not in the post ...

.Pammy -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 2:44:38 PM)
I remember hearing somewhere about a place called "Shoutlife"? Anyone hear of it?

iwillfearnoevil -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 2:50:48 PM)
i might still have a shoutlife but it was very much filled with spam - not dating site ads - but tons of music groups and authors send you friend requests and i found very little people in my area used shoutlife when doing searches. also it was buggy and errorprone. if you turn your myspace friend request settings to make people use a "captcha" - random string of letters and numbers - it will greatly reduce your spam requests and very possibly eliminated. i used to get a maybe a spam request every day previously and now i might get one every 3 months or so.

Resonance -> RE: Social Sites (4/25/2008 3:01:48 PM)
I have a Facebook and a Myspace, but I usually ignore the latter - I mostly have it to keep contact with a friend or two that doesn't show up on MSN and/or AIM anymore, and doesn't have Facebook. As for Facebook, I certainly do get a little frustrated with the constant application requests, especially daily repeats of them. Ignoring a request that you've repeatedly ignored day after day gets annoying. Maybe I should draw the attention of certain people to that slight displeasure and ask that they cease and desist. [8\|] On the other hand, it's been a rather handy site to use to keep in contact with a lot of people (my 'friends' list is nearing 400 - and I do in fact know most of them from one point or another in my life.). It's the only way I can keep contact with my irksome brother, since he never calls, and has for whatever reason, blocked me on MSN. shrugs And really, I just think Facebook has a cleaner look overall.[:)]

ShallbeRebuilt -> RE: Social Sites (4/26/2008 8:01:17 AM)
I voted last night before the eruption of topic ~teehee~ and wanted to say: I have both but I'm embarrassed to say I'm on MySpace...the disgusting ads make me ill. Is there a way to get OFF? Also, MySpace requires some knowledge of html...I used to know a lot, but have forgotten it and don't have time to mess with it. I like Facebook much better...but I don't hang out there a lot. My kids are on there (except the youngest) and we play games together on facebook, and because I go to college I have a communication network on FB that I don't have access to elsewhere with the students that I know on campus. I find that most of the applications are fairly lame...sometimes I do them, sometimes I don't. Some get nasty; the minute they do they are removed. I like to be able to post pictures there. I don't like that there are not some other options for backgrounds and stuff, but at least I don't have to think about html. And now, I'm going to go over to John's thread and post some thoughts over there...ya'll come on over. I'll fix you a glass of iced tea while we hash this out... besiderself

stellaluna -> RE: Social Sites (4/26/2008 9:26:48 AM)
I have both Myspace and Facebook. I don't consider CW in the same vein at all, since social networking sites and message boards are two completely different things that serve completely different purposes. I do have half a dozen friends on Myspace that I have met online, but the rest of the 250 are people I know in real life. We use it to connect about things that are happening in real life. It's much easier to put out an event notice or bulletin than to call a couple hundred people. I have more family members on Facebook; everyone on my Facebook list is someone I know IRL.

CoeurdeLeon -> RE: Social Sites (4/26/2008 3:22:32 PM)
Nuh uh.[;)]

AlwaysR8chel -> RE: Social Sites (4/26/2008 3:36:34 PM)
. . . . ........ someone pointed me to a cool alternative to MS the other day.... mychurch.org I thought it looked interesting... but I haven't created an account there....

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