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genla -> What do you think? (4/29/2008 12:31:44 AM)

I like a guy who does not love God. He likes material things, like partying, cussing, sports, telling stories, ext. He is at the same time though, sweet, gentle with children, and loyal to his family. I don't know if he would go anywhere with guidance. I wonder if he is just a lost cause and if I should forget about him and look for someone who is more in touch with God - or if he is a diamond in the rough and if I should try and influence him for the better. If you want to know more, go ahead and ask. Advice would be appreciated.



StephenJ -> RE: What do you think? (4/29/2008 1:30:27 AM)

Alot of people seem to believe that they can change their signifigant other, missionary dating some people call it. I'd advise against it.



deermousie -> RE: What do you think? (4/29/2008 1:00:35 PM)

You sound like you may be trying to talk yourself into a romantic relationship being OK, Genla. Forgive me if that's not what you meant. God says don't be unequally yoked, for what fellowship does light have with darkness and righteousness with lawlessness? (2 Cor. 6:14) It's not OK in God's eyes.

Personally, I learned the hard way to not make serious relationships with new Christians, as they've had years of training for sin and very little for God. If this guy became a Christian today, I'd still wait 3-5 years to see how and if he matures. Some fall away after a short time, and I wouldn't want to be yoked with them.

Of course, share your faith and live in in front of him, but to me he'd be totally off-limits as anything more than an acquaintance. God bless you, dear one, and save this young man!



starvin.artist.gurl -> RE: What do you think? (4/29/2008 2:37:51 PM)

Don't do it. Maybe he will come to God someday, but until that happens you shouldn't even think about considering a romantic relationship with him. It's not God's best, and most relationships of this type end in tears.

A love for God should be the very most important condition for qualifying a guy to be "dateable". A man who doesn't love God, won't be able to love you the way you deserve.



NoDumbBlonde -> RE: What do you think? (4/29/2008 3:53:35 PM)

RUN!

We often have that sense of right and wrong until emotions get involved. If you "missionary date" him you open the door of your emotions and can fall into a trap. You may end up compromsing you faith, your values and ideals for what you preceive as love.

Some of the best advice my mom gave me was "Never date a guy you wouldn't marry" If they aren't good enough to marry then they aren't good enough to date. While this guy may be a great guy you can't expect to change him. It's also unfair to try. Pray FOR him but leave it at that.



agapetos -> RE: What do you think? (4/29/2008 7:04:45 PM)

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RUN!
'Nuff said!



itsnotwhatuthink -> RE: What do you think? (4/30/2008 2:54:01 PM)

Since you asked, I think you know better. I wish people would stop analyzing everything and just say the truth. geeez.



makarizo -> RE: What do you think? (5/1/2008 7:07:45 AM)

there is a chance that he might learn the proper responses, the right comments. right gestures to string you along believing that he is making an effort to be something that he really isn't interested in becoming. (it is called manipulation)
or he might convince you to find 'the middle ground" and compromise.

the end result might be heartbreaking.

guard your heart.



1love1God1way -> RE: What do you think? (5/1/2008 9:40:36 AM)

Missionary dating tends to work in reverse.



Cloak -> RE: What do you think? (5/1/2008 10:00:06 AM)

I've been dating guys and boyfriends who were not believers.

What I found out is that changing people is Tough task that would only drain us of our energy and health and is actually a waste of time.

Wait for the right person whom God would bring into your life at the right time! It is wroth it. Otherwise you would be destined to a life of misery and regret if you decide to tie the knot with an unbeliever.



Konstantinos -> RE: What do you think? (5/1/2008 10:19:48 AM)

get higher standards.



MsSara -> RE: What do you think? (5/2/2008 3:08:34 PM)

As a Christian, how do you expect to have anything in common with this person who obviously isn't a Christian? The Bible says don't aline yourself with the world, honey, that would be aligning yourself with the world. There are some really good people out there who aren't Christians, and that situation would be tough, but a drinking partier that likes to cuss? Your words. I think you would end up getting hurt and letting him drag you down instead of the other way around. Find a good man who shares the same love for God that you do. There is too much at stake when it comes to relationships and families.



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