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Judah1966 -> What would u do if you found out your child... (5/9/2008 7:29:40 AM)

had a friend that has told other friends who have told others that this friend has slept with several guys,her Mom put her on birth control when she was thirteen,and she has an std and has had another one in the past?Now the girl is trying to make it look like my daughter has said the bad stuff "her activities she calls it". The other Mothers still allow this girl to hang out with their children and I dont know if they know everything.I dont want to cause problems I want whats best for everyone especially my daughter.



Kat_D -> RE: What would u do if you found out your child... (5/9/2008 8:57:04 AM)

I don't quite understand what you're really asking here, but it sounds like a lot of gossip went on and someone got hurt which is what usually happens when people engage in gossip.



Judah1966 -> RE: What would u do if you found out your child... (5/9/2008 9:25:33 AM)

Alot of children have been hurt and continue to be I know for a fact that this girls Mother put her on birth control are you going to tell me how you would personally handle this situation if it were your childs friend?



Judah1966 -> RE: What would u do if you found out your child... (5/9/2008 9:36:11 AM)

I would perfer to go to her Mother personally however her Mom let the girls boyfriend sleep over there so I know we would not see eye to eye. I just would like other parents suggestions.I understand about gossip I hate it but this is gone too far and I think some steps need to be taken or maybe not thats another reason Im asking the quesion.



Szaftoo -> RE: What would u do if you found out your child... (5/9/2008 9:40:42 AM)

Unless what someone else does is illegal or harmful to herself or others, I would tell my daughter it's none of her business. She can pray for the other girl and distance herself, but not get involved.



Tinkerbell_ -> RE: What would u do if you found out your child... (5/9/2008 9:42:04 AM)

I'm not so sure I understand either, but from what I gather did your daughter tell people about her friend, or did her friend tell people about herself and then blame your daughter?

If you daughter told anyone anything then she is in the wrong regardless if her friend told her or not.

If her friend is telling people about herself and then blaming it on your daughter, there is really nothing you can do except teach you daughter the wisdom of chosing friends and ask her if she was a true friend (the friend, not your daughter) would she be saying this?

As for as the moral issues, if the mother is giving the daughter birth control pills and allowing the boyfriend to sleep over, then I'm not so sure what exactly you would say to her.



Judah1966 -> RE: What would u do if you found out your child... (5/9/2008 9:57:59 AM)

Her friend that I try to tell her is not because theyre value system is not the same and because everytime she gets around my daughter she dont treat her right.But this girl tells the other girls what she does with these boys to differing degrees.When she would say something it would always be to one of her other friends that would tell her, so and so took my boyfriend something along the lines of I told you not to trust her.My daughter she needs to learn that lesson also.I really dont want my daughter around her anymore hearing all these things.The girl is mad at my daughter because she doesnt agree with her eithics.There are parties that my daughter wont be able to go to cause its a group but she does like some girls in this group.Would you tell her she cant hang around her?I dont understand why some think that cant do this especially in this world today I know good charactor can be corrupted but I want to handle this right.



Judah1966 -> RE: What would u do if you found out your child... (5/9/2008 10:04:26 AM)

The girl told all her friends but shes just listens to what the other girls 3 are saying that my dd said bad stuff about her because they did and they dont want more people to know what goes on in that group NOT GOOD. They are just bad news Im sorry I love them but everytime we try to work this out whats going on just gets worse and worse Ive gotton to the point where I tell my daughter I dont want to hear but then again I do to be there for her. Oh raising my sons was soooooo much easier than this!



Kat_D -> RE: What would u do if you found out your child... (5/9/2008 10:13:04 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Szaftoo

Unless what someone else does is illegal or harmful to herself or others, I would tell my daughter it's none of her business. She can pray for the other girl and distance herself, but not get involved.


I agree. If you don't like the morals of this girl, just tell your daughter to stay away from her.

P.S. Just a helpful hint, Judah. It is extremely difficult to read/understand your posts, and as some wise person once said, "Paragraphs are your friends!"[;)]



buckifn -> RE: What would u do if you found out your child... (5/9/2008 10:57:15 AM)

what is your question? It sounds like you are asking 2 things...1. What to do about your daughter's gossiping and 2. Whether or not to tell the other girls mother this girl is not a good choice for a friend.

Is either of those what you are asking?



preserved -> RE: What would u do if you found out your child... (5/9/2008 1:47:48 PM)

judah...

I tried to follow your posting...Very confusing??? From what I can gather your daughter perhaps needs to find other friends to hang with and leave this person alone...I also would advised your daughter to stop talking and listening to what others are saying...simply walk away from the conversations to avoid being accused as the gossiper..

If the girl mother chose to put her child on Birth control...that is between her mother and daughter....obviously there is a reason why...



jaimestarcross -> RE: What would u do if you found out your child... (5/10/2008 1:47:33 AM)

Tell her to stay away from the "friend" - and not to get involved
with friends who spread malicious gossip



brothertodd -> RE: What would u do if you found out your child... (5/10/2008 4:18:45 AM)

Go to a book store and order a book called Youth Counseling by Josh McDowell, Itis for parents Teachers, youth pastors, etc. It will give you the tools to not only help with your daughter but her friends. It was abig help for me at my former job as a residential counselor at a girls treatment center, and some with problems like your daughters friends.
My prayers are with you.



pbaribeault -> RE: What would u do if you found out your child... (5/10/2008 3:26:36 PM)

Bad company corrupts good morals...

Some of your daughter's friends are malicious gossips, and at least one of them is promiscuous. If you don't want to deal with a promiscuous gossip in your own home, it would be best if your own daughter spent less time with these girls.

However, the best plan to accomplish that is NOT to forbid her to see them etc. but rather to get her involved and interested in something else that involves other people. Summer is coming, so you might put some thought into activities that will pique her interest and eat up her time.

You also might consider limiting her telephone use, especially if she has a cell.



Pauley464 -> RE: What would u do if you found out your child... (5/11/2008 7:26:29 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kat_D

quote:

ORIGINAL: Szaftoo

Unless what someone else does is illegal or harmful to herself or others, I would tell my daughter it's none of her business. She can pray for the other girl and distance herself, but not get involved.


I agree. If you don't like the morals of this girl, just tell your daughter to stay away from her.

P.S. Just a helpful hint, Judah. It is extremely difficult to read/understand your posts, and as some wise person once said, "Paragraphs are your friends!"[;)]



Punctuation is a nice thing too.



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