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peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Military wives support (8/14/2009 4:52:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Harvie

Sarah ... how long has your DH been in the military?

since 1998



Mollymouser -> RE: Military wives support (8/14/2009 7:45:11 PM)

Ahh ... 11 more years until retirement, then.

Well, my prayer is that he gets to stay in as long as he wants to stay in :)



peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Military wives support (8/14/2009 8:30:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Harvie

Ahh ... 11 more years until retirement, then.

Well, my prayer is that he gets to stay in as long as he wants to stay in :)

roflol...hardly. His NG time doesn't count towards full years when it comes to retirement.



Mollymouser -> RE: Military wives support (8/14/2009 9:01:50 PM)

Yay, same for my DH, too. He's been in the military 25 years so far, but only has 15 years in toward a traditional 20-year active duty retirement because of his "Guard years" before and during college. So Ron has 5 more years to hit the 20-year-free-to-retire mark, plus he plans to stay in 6 years past that (when he will "age" out.)



peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Military wives support (8/14/2009 9:05:00 PM)

I honestly don't see him staying til retirement...his knees can't take it. He says for sure he will not resign back up (contract is up in 2012) because of the pain he is in trying to do his job.

Oh and I asked him this morning...he hasn't gotten your package yet.



OneOfHisJewels -> RE: Military wives support (8/21/2009 12:44:44 PM)

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He was basically told that ft sill really messed him up.


What's ft?

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Does he know what direction he wants to go in as a civillian?



peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Military wives support (8/21/2009 1:25:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OneOfHisJewels

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He was basically told that ft sill really messed him up.


What's ft?

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Does he know what direction he wants to go in as a civillian?

fort....and no.



manda59 -> RE: Military wives support (11/5/2009 5:05:57 PM)

The news about Fort Hood has just shown up as the main lead story on our BBC News At Ten. Praying for all concerned. Does anyone here have friends/family there?



Mollymouser -> RE: Military wives support (11/5/2009 5:16:23 PM)

We have friends there.

PRAYING.



peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Military wives support (11/5/2009 5:23:13 PM)

I have friends there...one friend is locked down in the commissary right now and her kids are at home. Luckily she has older and younger kids, so I am sure they are well cared for. She can't get ahold of them though because of a dead cell phone. She posted on fb that she was wanting a neighbor to check in on them...and she hasn't heard from her hubby yet, though he wouldn't really have a reason to be at the in/out processing center.



Mollymouser -> RE: Military wives support (11/5/2009 5:26:37 PM)

I'm following a friend on FB ... she's home, but hasn't heard from her husband yet.



danas_mom -> RE: Military wives support (11/5/2009 5:54:44 PM)

I heard about this on the way home from the grocery store today. Praying that everyone is ok.



BlessedMamaofmany -> RE: Military wives support (11/5/2009 6:05:51 PM)

we have friends there, okay though. So sad [:o]



sharonjef2007 -> RE: Military wives support (11/11/2009 3:53:55 PM)

Ok ladies, I need some ideas. Ray is deploying to Iraq sometime this spring....probably late spring sometime but not sure yet. What are some ways for us to prepare for it? How can I help him? The last time he deployed he was single. Now he is married, we have a home and a baby. We are both having a hard time coming to terms with him leaving. How can we make it easier for everyone?



peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Military wives support (11/11/2009 6:49:44 PM)

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What are some ways for us to prepare for it? How can I help him?

Be prepared for the last month before he leaves to be hectic...you could be called on at the last minute for all sorts of paperwork and such. He could work very late hours or have a very weird schedule. Be prepared.

You personally need to get things together for your end, esp if you need his help with that...for instance:
*Are you staying there when he leaves?
*If you are, who can you call for house issues that you don't want to have to call a professional for?
*How does he feel about what roles his parents will play when he is gone? (esp since you live near them).
*Make sure you get a POA and everything else you will possibly need while he is gone


As for helping him, you can get him prepared for being downrange...possibly not being able to be around a PX. Make a list of his essentials, and start buying that now so you can send it to him once he gets there (or you can send it in his stuff, but that can be a tight fit sometimes). Get together writing stuff...papers, pens, envelopes. Figure out as many logistics as you can on the limited amount of info he has right now.

This far out, the biggest thing is to be prepared for every plan to change immediately...him to be bumped up to a new date much closer, or him to be postponed or never sent.



Mollymouser -> RE: Military wives support (11/11/2009 9:08:37 PM)

Agreed. Get a support system set up of people who can help you with practical stuff while he's gone.

Make sure you know who to contact for Pay Issues.

Make sure you know who to contact for Insurance/healthcare issues.

Make sure you know how to deal with all the household financial and paperwork issues ... insurance renewal, car registration, bill paying, etc.



peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Military wives support (11/11/2009 10:39:15 PM)

Don't forget the little stuff...like...
*can you reach light bulbs to change them? If not, how can that be remedied...ladder or person willing to do it?
*can you mow the grass (probably not with a little baby), can someone else do it for you, will you need to hire someone to do it. I know I would have REALLY preferred if my hubby had taken care of that one before he left for Korea.

Really take a good practical look at ALL he does around there and see what you will have to do and what he can do now to cover you or what he can do where he is or what you will have to get others to help with.



Mollymouser -> RE: Military wives support (11/12/2009 12:31:20 AM)

And make sure you've got someone ready, willing, and able to help out if your guestbathroom is suddenly overrun with dozens of slugs.

(Yes, this happened to me. I was not calm.)

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sharonjef2007 -> RE: Military wives support (11/19/2009 5:51:24 PM)

See, I am normally the person who does all the home stuff (including repairs and maintenance) as well as bills and business stuff. However, the yard is going to need some help next year. I plan to have someone turn part of the yard back into a lawn instead of all of it being stone and garden. Too much to deal with and the kid needs some actual grass to play on.

I know I'll have help and support from church peeps and some growing friendships here. Actually asking for the help will be a big step for me though. I do plan to spend some time back east, but not all of it. So there will be some planning in regards to that. Emotionally though, how do you prepare? Is it just like dealing with the newborn, a matter of survival and eventually adapting to it?



peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Military wives support (11/19/2009 6:01:15 PM)

I would HIGHLY suggest having him set up the lawn care before he leaves...either with someone you know or with a company.



sharonjef2007 -> RE: Military wives support (11/19/2009 6:54:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: peculiar_lady2

I would HIGHLY suggest having him set up the lawn care before he leaves...either with someone you know or with a company.


We are gonna need to do that anyhow so my yard/garden can be taken care of while I'm back east. I'll probably not bother with a veggie garden this year.

Any ideas on what to do with out cats? I'll probably go east for two month long stents and a few shorter ones too. I'll probably do boarding for the shorter trips, but I don't want to spend the money for the longer trips. I'm sure I can have someone from church keep an eye on the house.



manda59 -> RE: Military wives support (11/19/2009 7:24:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sharonjef2007
Any ideas on what to do with out cats? I'll probably go east for two month long stents and a few shorter ones too. I'll probably do boarding for the shorter trips, but I don't want to spend the money for the longer trips. I'm sure I can have someone from church keep an eye on the house.



Could that person from church not just also come in twice a day to feed the cats and change the litter?



Mollymouser -> RE: Military wives support (11/19/2009 8:10:59 PM)

When we go out of town, we pay a pet sitter to come by. You might talk to neighbors, friends (etc.) to see who wants the job.



peculiar_lady2 -> RE: Military wives support (11/19/2009 8:45:47 PM)

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Any ideas on what to do with out cats? I'll probably go east for two month long stents and a few shorter ones too. I'll probably do boarding for the shorter trips, but I don't want to spend the money for the longer trips. I'm sure I can have someone from church keep an eye on the house.

When we go visit my mom, all our animals go with us. They are as comfortable at her house as they are at mine. Of course if you are flying that makes it a bit harder...we drive so I just throw them in with us and they all travel well. We have a big fold out "pet carrier" (you can't really carry them in it, it's big enough to fit in my van doorway and take up the whole doorway...it's canvas and wire so it folds down nicely)...when we stop we put the cats in there so they won't get out of the van. Zeke just sits in the van when the door is opened, so we don't have to worry much about him...but we do hook him to a leash if necessary.

ETA...if it's just a weekend trip, like when we went to visit Erin last month, Zeke goes with us and the cats stay home...we overstock their food and water, and they know how to survive a few days on their own.



IAMJulie -> RE: Military wives support (11/20/2009 12:23:59 AM)

I feel bad that I never came back after Rob got home to report how things were. Here I am, better late than never right? Well, the first week was fun with only a few tense moments. One having to deal with sex but apparently we got that resolved since I am now 8 1/2 weeks pregnant. Ha! God must have really wanted to bless us again because looking at the calendar we shouldn't have been successful in that arena. Yet, u/s showed us a little bean and a heartbeat this morning. :)

My hubby is back at his civilian job which will have him traveling some again. He is trying to decide if he will stay in or resign from the Reserves. Big decision.



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