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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/14/2008 8:35:58 PM
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OneOfHisJewels
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Actually you're right on topic, Ed. The risks are definitely something to keep into consideration for having biological children at a later age. Not to mention that it does get harder to adopt when you're older as well. So waiting could pose problems in the long run.
I bolded the part in my question where I said, 'why or why not?' which is what Ed responded to. That would be a definite reason why not in some opinions.
It's easier for you to say that because you have already gotten to have children. It is different for those of us who have never had any. Also, I have seen many ads for adoption agencies that put no age limit on the adoptive parents.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/14/2008 8:38:31 PM
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Is it fair to have children if you will probably reach your life expectancy by the time the children finish high school?
People are living longer and longer these days. Even if I had a baby at 40, I would still only be 58 by the time he/she graduated high school, and 58 is NOT old.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/14/2008 8:55:31 PM
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Is it fair to have children if you will probably reach your life expectancy by the time the children finish high school?
People are living longer and longer these days. Even if I had a baby at 40, I would still only be 58 by the time he/she graduated high school, and 58 is NOT old.
But I am 58 now, so I would be at least 60 when I had a kid and that would make me in the upper 70's when they finish high school.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/14/2008 8:59:28 PM
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OneOfHisJewels
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I take it the guy in the avatar isn't you then? Cause he sure don't look 58.
BTW, I'm 36, so I now see why you and I could be looking at this from a different angle.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/14/2008 9:01:29 PM
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I just did this avatar as a birthday wish to a poster.
I am getting my photo ready to put up.
And yes I think my time for fatherhood has past.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/14/2008 11:38:53 PM
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Actually you're right on topic, Ed. The risks are definitely something to keep into consideration for having biological children at a later age. Not to mention that it does get harder to adopt when you're older as well. So waiting could pose problems in the long run.
I bolded the part in my question where I said, 'why or why not?' which is what Ed responded to. That would be a definite reason why not in some opinions.
It's easier for you to say that because you have already gotten to have children. It is different for those of us who have never had any. Also, I have seen many ads for adoption agencies that put no age limit on the adoptive parents.
The fact that I have children or not does not change the risks involved with conceiving children at an older age. That is the point Ed was making when answering my 'why'.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/15/2008 3:13:47 AM
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OneOfHisJewels
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The fact that I have children or not does not change the risks involved with conceiving children at an older age.
Oh, I know that, but what I was trying to say was that it was easier for someone who already had the joy of having kids to make the cut and dry decision to not take those risks, whereas someone who has not had kids, while prayerfully and carefully would take those risks into account, still cannott deny their own longings and desires which for some reason God may not have yet taken away. In other words, someone who had kids already has already had maternal fulfillment, they've been there done that, but some people in spite of their age, who haven't had that fulfillment still long for that.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/16/2008 10:09:23 AM
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Is it fair to have children if you will probably reach your life expectancy by the time the children finish high school?
People are living longer and longer these days. Even if I had a baby at 40, I would still only be 58 by the time he/she graduated high school, and 58 is NOT old.
But I am 58 now, so I would be at least 60 when I had a kid and that would make me in the upper 70's when they finish high school.
I would just like to add......my dad is in his 70's and my little sis is 19 years old......he was married before....and has kids from that marriage......in their 50's to us....and down to 19. Yeah.....my dad didnt do things w/my little sis that he did w/us, or his older children. But....my dad is still a wonderful father!!!!! My little sis has kept my parents young, and they were able to expose her to soo much more then they did us, as they were more financially stable!!!
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No more babes for me. If I re-marry, we will definitely be on the same page there. Step children in the mix are fine, though.
