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RE: Who Should Make The First Move? - 7/17/2008 12:24:10 PM
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ChoirDJ
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John_O and Shema...you two knock it off now (lol).
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RE: Who Should Make The First Move? - 7/17/2008 12:27:12 PM
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shemaromans
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John_O and Shema...you two knock it off now (lol).
LOL!
That reminds me of a post from several months ago in He Says. Someone posted something very similar. 
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RE: Who Should Make The First Move? - 7/17/2008 12:28:16 PM
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mutinywxgirl
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John_O and Shema...you two knock it off now (lol).
Oh, but this is just TOO much fun!!!!!!! You have to understand about John - he said he doesn't flirt. 
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RE: Who Should Make The First Move? - 7/18/2008 10:12:39 AM
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I believe in men being the pursuers/initiators, but I also can't deny the fact that Ruth took some initiative. My dad always says she didn't, but I read and read the passage, and can only see that she did.
I also agree with that the man should take the initiative. As many have said on here, it's nice to see up front that he's willing to be the spiritual leader in all aspects. (Sometimes you need to take fear and shyness into account, though...and hope he can get past it! Prayer!!) As far as Ruth is concerned, Ruth didn't plan on entering Boaz's fields...she had no idea whose grain she was gleaning. It was her integrity and character as a foreign woman who had given herself to the one true God that got Boaz's attention. And one wonders if she would have lay at Boaz's feet if Naomi had not instructed her to do so. And this had to do more with next of kin to provide for the family rather than just marriage. Ruth, after all, was from Moab and may not have known this custom if it hadn't been for Naomi. And notice that Naomi didn't take her out to buy a wedding garment right away...she told Ruth to sit back and wait since there was a closer relative than Boaz in the picture. (As we all know, he turned down this responsibility, and Boaz became Ruth's husband.) I think Ruth did this more for Naomi than she did for herself, and she was very blessed because of her selflessness. (If any of you ladies out there want a good book to study on the book of Ruth, get Lady in Waiting: Becoming God's Best While Waiting for Mr. Right. It's not about about marriage...it's about surrendering your desire for a spouse to Him and what you can do with your time for the Lord as a single. If you're to be married, He'll bring him/her along in His time.)
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RE: Who Should Make The First Move? - 7/19/2008 2:17:55 PM
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skreyola
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It's no use talking about relationship standards if there's no relationship, and it's quite possible (for a number of very good reasons) that asking her out might not even have entered the guy's head. If a girl is interested, she needs to let him know she knows he exists. Then she can wait for him to take the lead.
Skrey,
This has really given me something to think about. Especially the part about him having a very good reason (maybe more than one) for not even thinking about asking.
~Blessings~
I'm glad to be helpful. :)
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RE: Who Should Make The First Move? - 7/19/2008 2:35:41 PM
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ChoirDJ
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Excellent post GrowinBaptist...especially the part about continuing to work on becoming our best while we (the book may be directed towards women but the principle applies to men also) wait for God's best. That pretty much sums up singlehood as many of us are being groomed for marriage by God - we just don't know it yet because there's no Mr. (or Ms.) Right in the picture just yet.
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RE: Who Should Make The First Move? - 7/20/2008 12:01:32 AM
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ChoirDJ
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Being "groomed" for marriage? No pun intended, right?
I missed that one (lol).
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RE: Who Should Make The First Move? - 7/21/2008 11:57:24 AM
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mutinywxgirl
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Anyone want to give me a pep talk? I'm feeling like hiding from the world again......
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When blood and water hit the ground.
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We were free and made alive.
The day true love died. The day true love died.
Lisa is happy THE ROWDIES ARE BACK!
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RE: Who Should Make The First Move? - 7/21/2008 12:01:34 PM
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shemaromans
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Anyone want to give me a pep talk? I'm feeling like hiding from the world again......
Give me an L!
Give me an I!
Give me an S!
Give me an A!
What's that spell?
LISA!!!
You did request a PEP talk. 
(email on the way shortly, angel)
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RE: Who Should Make The First Move? - 7/21/2008 12:21:55 PM
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ShallbeRebuilt
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Anyone want to give me a pep talk? I'm feeling like hiding from the world again......
Whooo boy...I'm needing that same thing. Well...are you talking specifically in the area of singleness and making the first move, or just in general?
besiderself
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RE: Who Should Make The First Move? - 7/21/2008 12:24:31 PM
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mutinywxgirl
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ORIGINAL: mutinywxgirl
Anyone want to give me a pep talk? I'm feeling like hiding from the world again......
Whooo boy...I'm needing that same thing. Well...are you talking specifically in the area of singleness and making the first move, or just in general?
besiderself
In general - I'm in a funk, and not sure why or how to get out of it. There are a lot of things going on in the family right now, so that is part of it - and it's keeping me from even *thinking* about making any kind of first moves. Honestly, after the past two years - I honestly doubt there is anyone for me.
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When blood and water hit the ground.
Walls we couldn't move came crashing down.
We were free and made alive.
The day true love died. The day true love died.
Lisa is happy THE ROWDIES ARE BACK!
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