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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/10/2009 8:19:40 PM
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PrincessDonna
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I believe the piece they removed was discarded. I know it was too broken for them to save to put back in.
Mom said she is home now. 
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/10/2009 9:45:59 PM
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Ellie-Mae
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whoa! I was in the hospital a long time, and I hadn't been in an accident so the only "damage" done was by the doctors! That is amazing. I hope it isn't too quick.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/11/2009 12:22:44 AM
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Great news about Caragen and Brian being able to give up the wheelchair.
Praying for your family as they prepare to deal with your brother.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/11/2009 10:54:06 AM
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PrincessDonna
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I don't think it was too quick, Lisa. She was miserable in the hospital and really didn't seem to be in much pain when I was there. She's with her other grandma this weekend...and she is a very experienced nurse, so it's much better for her to be home.
So sad to be in the pediatric unit. The little girl in the bed next to her was hit by a car and thrown 30 feet. She has all kinds of broken things, and a trach. I'm not sure how long ago the accident was, but I'm sure she spent a good deal of time in the PICU.  Life can change soooo fast. I spent most of my time in the hospital praying silently for everyone I saw. Every time I leave there, I am exhausted. I don't think that happens to everyone, does it? It's almost as if I can feel the other families' pain while I am there! I can't imagine how people can work there. I don't even think I could work in the gift shop every day!
On a lighter note...we're going to the county fair today, thanks to a gift from a friend! I was contemplating taking the three big kids to the demo derby, but I'd have to take them alone which would mean either everyone getting up when one had to go to the bathroom (and therefore losing our seats!) or leaving at least Noah by himself. I'm not real comfortable with either of those options, so we're all going to go to the fair. There are tons of animals there, blow up rides this year, and of course...fair food! The prices are really good at this fair too. Pray that it doesn't rain and that Brian doesn't have trouble crutching his way around the fairgrounds.
Oh, and I'm putting up a new poll...what is your experience with demolition derbies?
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/13/2009 11:31:08 AM
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Oh, and I'm putting up a new poll...what is your experience with demolition derbies?
Love em!
Can't quite say I go every year. But it would be nice. I've never driven in one, but I have helped people prepare their cars for the derby. Lots of fun.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/13/2009 11:35:31 AM
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I selected "Heard of them, but never been" but I have more experience with demolition derbies than just "heard of them". I have seen a few minutes of one at a county fair or two and I've seen bit of one on tv. I don't love them... I don't hate them. I'm just not interested in them at all.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/13/2009 12:49:05 PM
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My uncle used to own a junkyard . . . oops I mean a salvage yard (more pc these days I think lol) and he and my dad would participate in the local demolition derby in GA every few months. I've never seen my dad have more fun. . . or be more sore LOL!
Great news about Caragen; I am so glad she is home and healing. Praise the Lord!
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/13/2009 3:28:33 PM
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I was in a hobby store today and they had the cutest fabric for your girls Donna. It was designed to look like that patchwork patterns they make shorts out of now. It was all this pink patchwork with green john deere logos and tractors mixed in.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/13/2009 6:52:31 PM
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Cute, Zoebob! We have always loved tractor prints and stuff. Country bumpkins and all...LOL.
I'm hoping Brian and I can go to the demo derby in September. We'll see... When I was a kid, we always went and my dad usually drove a car. He won first prize once! Great memories of my twin-cousin and I running all over the small fairgrounds for days on end. Painting our names on my dad's car, cheering for anyone we knew...what fun! We don't go to every demo anymore...probably 5 or 6 in the time we've been married. It was really nice to go to the fair Saturday, even though we didn't go to the demo. Turns out it was probably better we didn't plan on it, because it POURED for two hours before the demo. We had seen everything else, so we grabbed some yummy fair food to eat in the van and left.
Went to see Ice Age 3 yesterday...in 3D! First time Brian or I had seen a movie in 3D...how cool! We brought the three big kids, and all had a great day. All our fun Saturday and Sunday was thanks to a friend who wanted us to have some fun...I am moved to tears just thinking about it.
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Doesn't seem to follow what I just said well, but I think I need to ask for prayer. I am increasingly panicky feeling this past week. I'm still taking my Zoloft, so not sure what else to do. Noah and Hannah went with my mom to VBS at her church, and shortly after I left them with her, a state trooper went flying that direction lights and sirens. I just can't even describe the feelings I get sometimes. It's awful.  I want to just trust my Daddy God, but these thoughts of something awful happening to someone I love...I just can't get rid of them!
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/13/2009 9:05:39 PM
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Sounds like you have PTSD too. :( Can you get some counseling at all?
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/13/2009 11:27:19 PM
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Talk to your Dr about increasing your Zoloft, many people, myself included, need to adjust meds as time goes by. I started at one dose and it was changed periodically during the time I was on it depending on how I was feeling.
I also agree with Kath, sounds like some PTSD that you need to think about getting some help for. Professional help.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/13/2009 11:29:25 PM
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I'd have to go through the county and it's a several month wait for adults. Plus, I would feel like I am taking the spot that someone else needs much more badly. I have good support in friends and family (y'all are included in that...thank you!).
It was worse before I started the Zoloft. I know the doctor is going to want to decrease it when I see her next month (she told me she didn't think I'd need it more than 6 months or so), but I really don't want to do that right now. Although, maybe it'll get better once the anniversary is past? It seems like it's gotten worse again the past few weeks. I definitely have "almost a year" in the forefront of my mind constantly. I think of things we were doing last year at this time, without a clue of what was coming. A year ago this week, Brian was driving a rented tractor trailer for his boss. He hadn't driven one of those in years, and he was nervous. He did great (of course!), and even came home and talked about going over the road again when the kids are grown, and me riding with him. So many plans and dreams...and now...I know God has plans for us, but I have no idea what they are. I'd like to think I know, and start planning the future, but the truth is, I really don't know. I want us to do what God has for us, but having no idea what that might be is really hard.
All of my life is now split into "before" and "after". A year is a really long time to live in this constant state of "after".
God is our Hope. We wait on Him, and we take one day at a time. When I look farther then that, that's when I get in trouble, I think.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/13/2009 11:33:55 PM
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Brandy
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Donna, you are not taking a spot someone else needs more than you do. Seriously, you have to stop that thought process. You may need some counseling in order to truly get away from these thoughts. That's what it's there for.
As for your Dr, she should be willing to listen to you and see you need it for longer and increase the dosage OR get you another med to use in conjunction with the Zoloft.
You need to take care of yourself so you can take care of the rest of your family as well.
I'm sure the anniversary is playing in your head as well, it brings it all back to the surface and you are normal for playing the "A year ago" game. It's normal. But panicky feelings that cause you problems in your day to day life are not.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/13/2009 11:35:04 PM
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Sounds like you had a great weekend. So nice to hear.
It's not surprising that you're having these feelings. The past year has been horrendous. I think when your life feels like one major crisis, your body mostly runs on adrenalin. It's like you put your motor on high. It gets you through, but eventually we have to lower the switch and that's when trouble can start. In my own life, I find I fall apart AFTER whatever has happened. I call it a delayed reaction. I think your body is just now allowing itself to "feel" all those things that you have held in check for so long. Give yourself time to let these things come because I think it's part of the healing process. Don't be hard on yourself. If you can find a counselor, that would be great. Or even just one none judgmental person who will listen. It can be hard for people to relate sometimes, because Brian has come a long way, they figure it's pretty much over (they aren't being mean, just don't understand).
Keeping you and your family in my prayers.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/13/2009 11:42:17 PM
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PrincessDonna
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It can be hard for people to relate sometimes, because Brian has come a long way, they figure it's pretty much over (they aren't being mean, just don't understand).
This is definitely true.
You know, my parents know a couple in their church whose daughter was in a very bad accident. They do lay counseling in their church, and also prison ministry...I'll maybe ask my mom about them...
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/13/2009 11:42:58 PM
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Donna, it is great to have the love and support of friends and family, but we have not studied and do not understand PTSD to the point that we could offer you any real help. You need to talk to someone who understands and knows exactly what to do. You cannot take someone else's spot if that spot is meant for you in the first place. Take your turn, Donna. Go get some help from someone who knows what you need to get past this and into a healthier place. Medication will not solve the problem, but you may no longer need the medication if you can talk to someone who can offer you tools to heal.
ETA: In fact, if this were me or any other person in this thread making such a statement as not wanting to take the place of someone else in need, you would tell us that is the wrong way to look at it and to get help.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/13/2009 11:43:32 PM
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Sounds good. Hope it proves helpful.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/14/2009 1:23:34 AM
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((((Donna)))) Some good advice up there.
Praying for you though sweetie.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/14/2009 7:30:08 AM
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(((Donna)))
Praying for all of you!
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/14/2009 9:22:03 AM
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I'd have to go through the county and it's a several month wait for adults. Plus, I would feel like I am taking the spot that someone else needs much more badly.
I work for our county's mental health board. You wouldn't be taking somebody else's spot.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/14/2009 9:30:37 AM
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((Donna)) I'm praying. The couple whose daughter was injured in an accident may be a great resource for you. Counsel by Christians who have walked some of the same paths you're traveling now may be exactly what you need.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/14/2009 2:04:13 PM
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I think your body is just now allowing itself to "feel" all those things that you have held in check for so long.
That's what I'm thinking, too.
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Donna, it is great to have the love and support of friends and family, but we have not studied and do not understand PTSD to the point that we could offer you any real help. You need to talk to someone who understands and knows exactly what to do. You cannot take someone else's spot if that spot is meant for you in the first place. Take your turn, Donna. Go get some help from someone who knows what you need to get past this and into a healthier place.
I hope you think about it.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/14/2009 2:16:19 PM
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I know it took my brother forever to even get on the waiting list for mental health, and he cannot function at all right now AND is at great risk of harming himself or someone else. He got moved up on the list only after he landed his butt in jail.
So. Today I had an appointment bright and early with SS to add the kids and I to Brian's case. On the way there, there was a HORRIBLE accident. I don't know if the person/people lived or not, but they were hit by a dump truck and there was a lot of damage to the truck when I saw it on the way back through. I heard the jaws of life being used. They had the road closed over 3 hours, and on the way back, it was still closed because there was ANOTHER darn accident up the road. Probably because they had no one sitting far enough back to warn people. That one looked to be at least 3 cars, but I can't be sure because the road was closed and they sent me on some road I've never even seen before.
Sometimes I wish I didn't have to drive ANYwhere EVER again.
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RE: PrincessDonna's encouragement thread - 7/14/2009 5:26:04 PM
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I found that first accident online. It was a 34 year old woman who pulled out in front of a dump truck. She is alive, but seriously injured. Join me in praying for her, please.
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