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RE: My space Vs My Life - 7/25/2008 4:54:40 PM
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buckifn
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If a child is 15 years old it is the adult's responsibility to provide for their safety. Not having a safe environment yourself at that age does not make it ok to not provide it for the child now imo.
I'm not saying facebook or the internet is all evil, in and of itself, but I am saying as adult's we have a responsibility to not just throw our kids to the sharks online with no boundaries, guidelines, or any steps to protect them.
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RE: My space Vs My Life - 7/25/2008 10:59:31 PM
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zamdad
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EXCEPT... MySpace makes our kids vulnerable to a lot of adult predators who would not have access to them otherwise.
No. Don't fool yourself into believing this. OUr kids are exposed to adult and juvenile predators in real life and online. Once again, if we're going to protect our kids, we have to know our kids and know them well.
I have worked extensively with convicted sex offenders. What I've learned is that most sexual abouse of children occurs right under the noses of parents and that the perpetrator is usually someone trusted by the family.
Bottom line. If oyu have internet access in your home, learn what your kids are up to. While they may say they want us out of thier business, deep down they want us involved.
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RE: My space Vs My Life - 7/26/2008 10:58:53 AM
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Once again, if we're going to protect our kids, we have to know our kids and know them well. And to do that you must be up in their business, whether IRL or online!
It is far better to live with a whining complaining teenager who says you don't trust them than to go to the hospital bedside, police station or morgue to comfort/identify your running wild teen.
A child left to do as he/she pleases is a child who has no parent that cares enough to say "NO!" and live with the unpopularity/resentment for a season so that his/her teen might live long enough to find wisdom.
If being liked by your teen is more important to the parent than the teen's safety and well-being, your teen is in for a bad time of it in life!
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RE: My space Vs My Life - 7/26/2008 11:56:44 AM
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IonMoon
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No. Don't fool yourself into believing this. OUr kids are exposed to adult and juvenile predators in real life and online. Once again, if we're going to protect our kids, we have to know our kids and know them well.
That is not what I am saying at all.
What being on the net does, is expose our kids to MORE people to whom they would not otherwise be exposed.
So... not being online my child is exposed to X number of dangerous people; being online, my child is exposed to those same X number PLUS all the creeps on the net.
I acknowledged in my post that there are child predators in my community (In my family, too, if you want to know). There are steps I can take to protect my children from them.
However, when on MySpace, my child is exposed to a huge number of people who are scouring the internet to find kids. I can, of course, still take steps to protect my children, however the risk becomes much greater, in a large part because of the anonymity.
My child can tell the difference between another child and a grown adult at the playground; my child cannot tell the difference between a child and a grown adult on the internet.
My children do use the internet, BTW. And mostly unsupervised now that they are older (19 & 16), but I would be foolish in denying the dangers.
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RE: My space Vs My Life - 7/26/2008 2:10:59 PM
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zamdad
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What being on the net does, is expose our kids to MORE people to whom they would not otherwise be exposed.
So... not being online my child is exposed to X number of dangerous people; being online, my child is exposed to those same X number PLUS all the creeps on the net.
I acknowledged in my post that there are child predators in my community (In my family, too, if you want to know). There are steps I can take to protect my children from them.
I agree, yet that's the reality of modern life and parenting today. Before the internet, our kids could only be exposed to the community we live in and the places we take our kids. Now, the world can virtually come into your home and destroy our families. Thus, the point I have been trying to make. If we are going to protect our kids, we have to know our kids.
My profession has given me a perspective on people that is different from most. I spent nine years of my corrections career as a probation officer; five of those years supervising sex offenders. I currently work as a police officer. I have learned that all too often families who think they really know their kids, know nothing about one another. Everyone is off doing their own thing, too busy to invest the time into other members of the family.
Recently I had to interview a teenage girl about a crime. After speaking with the girl, I felt I could learn more if I could find online postings by her. I went to Myspace and found her within minutes. Her profile and her writings painted a picture of a hurting young lady escaping through sex and drugs. I printed off the page and then asked her mother if she was aware of her daughters Myspace page. The mom knew that her daughter had an account, but had no idea what was on it. After talking with the mother for a bit, I showed her the printed page. The mother was blown away. She had no idea her daughter was into the things she was.
I talk to kids all the time who tell me that they have online accounts and post things that their parents have no clue about. They have drugs, weapons, porn, and all kinds of other things their parents would not approve of in their homes, hidden right under the noses of their parents and know that the parents will never find the stuff because the parents will never look.
While working as a probation officer I would have adult clients tell me all the time how they were making changes in their life to stay out of trouble. Then I would find a Myspace page and view the public contents only to find writings/pictures posted that contradict the good things they tell me. I was able to use some of these things in court during violation hearings.
Bottom line is we have to parent our kids. If we parent them now, we can be friends with them foreever. Also, we need to prepare our kids for the road, not prepare the road for our kids.
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