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WholeHeart -> RE: Official Head Covering Support Thread (2/27/2009 3:59:58 PM)

So, after I went out and bought all those scarves and bandannas (I actually went back and bought three more bandannas; now all I need is a yellow one to be able to match pretty much any t-shirt I have), I sort of had to wear them. I couldn't explain it, so it's probably good that no one has actually asked me to. My sister has been teasing a little bit (telling my parents on the phone, "Do you know you have a daughter who's a practicing Muslim?"), and my guy friend has been looking at me funny (It's his "Aww, isn't she precious?" face, though, so I guess that's not much of a problem [;)]). I did up one of the scarves for chapel and work today, and I think it worked all right. I couldn't quite figure out any of the directions for scarf-tying that I saw online, so I made up my own method. Since the knot and the scarf-ends really bug me if they are at the back of my neck, I tied it over one ear and put a pretty pin in it. That keeps it from coming untied, too, as well as getting the knot out of the way and giving the whole thing a neat look. It feels fairly natural, too; I always did like to wear hats, so it's not that different. I'm kind of worried about whether it would be seen as inappropriate if I wear it to church this weekend, though. Everybody's older than me, and nobody covers their hair. It seems a little rough to be 22 and alone in something like this. I'm also a bit worried that the myriad of theology majors around my school will notice and think I'm an idiot. [8|]

If the nicest cover I have is a plain black or white scarf, do you think that is all right for church? It's a pretty formal church. I guess if I had to, I could go buy a prettier one, but I've already gone a bit overboard on buying things (well, I've spent about fifteen dollars on coverings so far, and to a college student, that's kind of a lot; another scarf would bring it to twenty dollars).




3cappuccinosmom -> RE: Official Head Covering Support Thread (2/27/2009 5:18:36 PM)

{{{Whole Heart}}}

I was covering at 16 and my pastor was actively trying to discourage me from doing so. I've been there, and it's not easy. But if it's a conviction from God, it doesn't matter what anybody thinks.

I have always worn just a plain white covering for church (my current one is lace backed by plain white fabric). Honestly, it's so "different" that people won't try and categorize it as "formal" or "not formal". [8D]




bride48 -> RE: Official Head Covering Support Thread (2/27/2009 5:46:58 PM)

I started wearing hats to church just before I got married. I chose hats because I believe they're less devisive/legalistic looking (I'm the only woman in my church who covers. Most people don't know why I cover...they just think I like hats. I feel less like I'm imposing my convictions on others by wearing hats, and I enjoy them.

I only wear them to church.




Mrs.Wifey -> RE: Official Head Covering Support Thread (2/27/2009 5:56:52 PM)

See, I wouldn't think anything of a person wearing a scarf, but having a military father I would think it was downright rude if you wore a hat in a building[sm=smile-l.gif]

Interesting how we all look at it differently.




bride48 -> RE: Official Head Covering Support Thread (2/27/2009 6:07:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Mrs.Wifey

See, I wouldn't think anything of a person wearing a scarf, but having a military father I would think it was downright rude if you wore a hat in a building[sm=smile-l.gif]

Interesting how we all look at it differently.


Traditionally, it's rude for a man to wear a hat into a building. And I think that tradition goes back to the Scriptures on head covering. Until the 60s, women always wore hats to church.




WholeHeart -> RE: Official Head Covering Support Thread (3/1/2009 11:57:36 PM)

So, today I wore a scarf to church. It actually seemed to go over pretty well; the only comment I remember getting was from an assistant pastor, who said "That's so cute!" (I'd tied the white scarf with the knot over one ear and stuck a bright pin in the knot). I also noticed two ladies in my Sunday school class with hats on. Maybe they're wearing them for that reason? I have only been going to this church for about a month, but I never really noticed them. So, I wasn't the only one wearing something, but I was probably the most obvious about it (I have no nice hats handy, though; hats are out of dress code at my school, so I've got out of the habit of wearing them). I can't exactly wear a sunbonnet or baseball cap to church, anyway.

My sister's still complaining about it, though. She's always saying that I look silly (like I'm wearing a dish towel on my head) and that it's embarrassing her. I'm going to keep on covering at least until Easter, I think, though (seeing as I unintentionally started on Ash Wednesday, I can make it a Lent thing and have at least one good excuse for not quitting yet), and then see how it is.

3cappuccinosmom, why on earth did your pastor try to discourage you, especially at that age? You'd think he'd be glad you were trying to do what you thought was right.... Why did you start covering? It doesn't sound like your mom was doing it, or it would be logical to try to discourage her instead.




3cappuccinosmom -> RE: Official Head Covering Support Thread (3/2/2009 6:18:55 AM)

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3cappuccinosmom, why on earth did your pastor try to discourage you, especially at that age? You'd think he'd be glad you were trying to do what you thought was right....


lol. I think he felt judged by my conviction. It was the same with long hair, dresses-only, and then QF when dh and I married. We didn't stay in that church. The pastor was always talking againts "legalism" but just developed his own forms of legalism. [8|]

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Why did you start covering? It doesn't sound like your mom was doing it, or it would be logical to try to discourage her instead.


My mom actually covered for many years. Early on we were in a Mennonite congregation that covered. Then part of a cult that required headcoverings. Mom dropped the covering when we left the cult, but I kept it. Then started covering only for church. Then went back to full time as it developed into a personal conviction. My parents were really great about letting us follow our own convictions. I think partly because they felt guilty for all the turmoil they put us through with the cult.




WholeHeart -> RE: Official Head Covering Support Thread (3/2/2009 9:31:50 AM)

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ORIGINAL: 3cappuccinosmom

My mom actually covered for many years. Early on we were in a Mennonite congregation that covered. Then part of a cult that required headcoverings. Mom dropped the covering when we left the cult, but I kept it. Then started covering only for church. Then went back to full time as it developed into a personal conviction. My parents were really great about letting us follow our own convictions. I think partly because they felt guilty for all the turmoil they put us through with the cult.


Oh, ok. That makes sense. "Developed into a personal conviction"? Aha. So it's not unheard of for the conviction of such a practice to develop after the practice itself....




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