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firefighter38310 -> another day in a marriage? (10/13/2008 10:30:34 PM)
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Another day in our lives.
I thought it would be just one of those days. Our marriage was ending and I just needed to pick the day. It was this last Sunday and our typical conversation that morning was becoming quite familiar to the both of us.
Angie, “If you aren’t going to church; then I am not either”
Dave, “I am tired; I get very few Sundays off and why can’t we rest”
“We do the landscaping and our son does the power-point; surely God can give us a free pass”
“Anyway, we would have to take two vehicles since you have to go pick up your 22 year old daughter who can’t even get in her car and drive”
Angie, “Seems like the only time I get with my adult kids is when you are at work”
Dave, “well I am only home 1.5 days a week; seems like the only time I have with you and they are even in the picture then”.
Anyway that was pretty close to our morning. We missed church and we decided to at least spend the day together. We head to Tupelo and I am trying to read her mind. Does she really know it’s over? How much longer can we last? I continue to think to myself as I am driving; it really is her fault. She has depression she will not deal with. Her kids need to get a life. I work all the time and she doesn’t even care .I am a fireman, first responder and rescue and a full time nurse. She needs to let me have my time.
Angie wants to look at what movies are playing In Corinth and we drive through and look at the posters on the theatre wall. I don’t recognize anyone nor does any look like anything remotely that I would enjoy watching on a great Sunday afternoon. There is a golf course nearby and why lock me up in a movie theater for several hours.
We head on to Tupelo and figure this movie she wanted to view was on the screen in that city. What ever it takes to make her happy; At least the movie has something to do with firefighters. We visit the Barnes and Noble bookstore in the area and then we find out the movie she wants to see isn’t playing in that town so we return to Corinth. It is playing at 4:10 and we have barely enough time to get there. Those firefighter tags on the truck don’t guarantee a free pass for this kind of speeding.
We arrive at the theatre and the parking lot has several church buses plus lots of couples seem to be attending. I knew it right then. This is going to be a Christian Thing. I was mad to say the least. It isn’t going to work. My marriage is crashing and she wants to watch a film about firefighters. It seems Brother G whom I consider my best friend had told Angie all about the film during the week.
While getting tickets a man must have recognized me. He walked up to me and made a friendly gesture about my last name and then I got married. I smiled and I guess it was a joke but I let it go. He looked familiar but I couldn’t place him.
We took our seats and the movie started. I went through many emotions during the movie. I bit my finger twice to get from displaying emotions. I even went though a brief period of anger at my wife for getting me in here and then to be honest I figured God made me come watch this movie and used her.
When the movie was over I left with tears in my eyes. I had cried during some moments and I really needed some alone time with my wife.
The gentleman who had talked to me earlier walked by and told me, “Wow was this movie ever needed for you to watch”. I still have no clue the name of this guy.
The movie is familiar to some: Fireproof
I am not necessarily endorsing the movie however for me the movie was a vehicle of transport for Gods Message. Not everyone will watch the movie and get the same feelings.
I left the theater exhausted and in need of some revival. My marriage problems weren’t just about my marriage. This was also first about my relationship with God.
Those thoughts I shared about Angie; does it really matter who is right or wrong in our marriage or your marriage? I love her and want her as my wife forever.
It’s been 48 hours since I walked out the theatre and all our problems aren’t resolved and probably never will be but I love my wife. I meant those vows I said in front of the congregation on the day of our marriage and God reminded me of them Sunday
If you’re reading this and thinking how trivial my story is compared to your problems or maybe mine are awful compared to yours. Don’t look around; look upward
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