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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 12:41:49 AM
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garsyt
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Brian wants me to come to bed, and then he turned on some idiotic show that he knows I can't stand. Um...grrr. Now I don't want to go to bed. The very reason we made the choice even before we got married to never have a TV in the bedroom! Just couldn't do it.
Glad you all had fun at the members picnic. Our zoo's is coming up sometime in July. Ty is working that week which for him means 4 hours of passing out drinks or helping kids in and out of those bouncey contraptions. Maybe he'll get to do a demo booth this year.
I'm contemplating getting a hold of a lady I met through the kids school - she is now homeschooling her girls for a few years - but I know her and her girls from school last year and the year before. Anyway she is a scrapbooker and I would just like someone to get together with to do some scrapbooking.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 8:15:57 AM
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Donna, John's and my tv habits vary wildly to the point that I refused to let him put a tv in our bedroom ... but then, last year, I was away for a week or two ... when I came back, there was a tv grrrrrrrrr. So then, I would leave the room if he insisted on watching something I don't like (which is pretty much everything). I wouldn't let him fall asleep with it on, either ... something he LOVES to do. We had a few hard nights but then, he turned sweet somehow and now we watch HGTV almost exclusively. I don't like to say that I got my way, but I did! TV is so BAD. Blecht.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 8:47:35 AM
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we have a tv in the bedroom...but it's not hooked up to our basic cable. We use it just for dvds...and actually, I'm the one that usually watches. The noise helps me relax at night. I also was watching Star Trek TNG every night while Justin was gone LOL. He hates ST. Makes fun of me mercilessly =P...so I only watch when he's not home.
The only other tv in the whole house is in my mom's part. She has basic cable and amanda is allowed to go up at naptime and watch a movie if she wants.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 8:57:30 AM
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He really needs a TV in our room, since the accident. Usually he watches normal things. LOL This was just one of those shows that annoys me.
But you know what? When I finally went in there, he wasn't even watching it! He was asleep. LOL
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 9:10:21 AM
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mamajennleigh
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I really hate TV, and I think I would go crazy if there was one in my bedroom. My dh has tried to talk me into one for years (going on 17 now) but I am already noise sensitive and need quiet to sleep.
Yesterday, I hurt my toe while walking. . . don't know what happened but it felt like a bee sting and my calves are also very very sore so I am contemplating skipping my walk today, even though I don't want to. I really like the momentum I have built up and I know it will be harder if I take the day off. Maybe I'll just make it a short walk today and then take it easy.
My two middle children were watching some talk show on tv yesterday (while I was busy in the kitchen tending to the other two babies) and it happened to be about parents who were refusing to attend the same-sex weddings of their children. I came out and asked them to change the channel, and they protested because they said they were feeling sorry for the people getting married and wanted to see how it ended. I asked them why they felt sorry for them, and they began telling me about how wrong the parents were and how it's not a big deal for people to get married who are the same sex, everyone has a right to be happy, and that the parents should get over it. . . the two boys are 12 and 11.
I have obviously neglected to tell them the truth. I have seriously overlooked this area of their lives, due in large part to their older brother (that's in another thread and we can't discuss it here I am sure), and maybe I have just stuck my head in the sand in order to keep from dealing with it all.
Makes me realize how much the world is influencing my children, because those ideas are not in line with what my husband and I believe. Here we were, beepopping along, whistling a happy tune, meanwhile our kids are learning how the world is viewing this issue, and it makes some kind of sense to them, so hey, there ya go.
Ugh, I feel the weight of my past so much lately when it comes to my kids. I wasn't there to teach my children the right things, and I set all the wrong kinds of examples, and sometimes I feel like I will never make it right. I was so messed up mentally, physically, emotionally, and in turn my kids are very confused, and my 12 year old thinks that we can't be sure that Jesus is really Lord because, in his words, "all religions think that they are right, so how can we be sure that they are all wrong and how can we be sure we are right?"
Anyway, I am whining, and I know it, so I'll stop it. I know that God is bigger than these problems, and that He can reach my children despite my past. I know He didn't heal me so that I could watch my mistakes grow into insurmountable problems that would cost my children their eternity, you know? I think it was just a wake-up call to let me know there's this area that needs our attention.
Thanks for letting me vent. I really need that walk now.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 9:12:37 AM
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Donna, we really should get together sometime. I was hoping to be out there for FOT this year so I could drive up and meet a bunch of you but it's not going to workout...again. Ah well. Maybe sometime this winter, my parents are about 7 hours from very North East Connecticut so maybe 8 from you?
We don't have TV in the bedroom either, but we watch on our laptops. Sometimes we watch together, and sometimes we watch different things.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 11:02:30 AM
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Donna, we really should get together sometime. I was hoping to be out there for FOT this year so I could drive up and meet a bunch of you but it's not going to workout...again. Ah well. Maybe sometime this winter, my parents are about 7 hours from very North East Connecticut so maybe 8 from you?
yeah it stinks that so many of us that want to go can't go to FOT this year...you, me, Kara. Just with me and Kara's families, that's 14 people...lol.
We don't have a tv in our bedroom. We have one in the living room...and we have cable (necessary to have the internet package we have). Mostly I watch food network, hgtv, fox news, pbs, history, discovery, tlc, etc. I rarely watch it though...other then the news, that's pretty much every day. We have a small 12" tv that we had in the office, but now it is on it's way to Korea for my hubby to have while he is there.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 12:56:34 PM
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My two middle children were watching some talk show on tv yesterday (while I was busy in the kitchen tending to the other two babies) and it happened to be about parents who were refusing to attend the same-sex weddings of their children. I came out and asked them to change the channel, and they protested because they said they were feeling sorry for the people getting married and wanted to see how it ended. I asked them why they felt sorry for them, and they began telling me about how wrong the parents were and how it's not a big deal for people to get married who are the same sex, everyone has a right to be happy, and that the parents should get over it. . . the two boys are 12 and 11.
I have obviously neglected to tell them the truth. I have seriously overlooked this area of their lives, due in large part to their older brother (that's in another thread and we can't discuss it here I am sure), and maybe I have just stuck my head in the sand in order to keep from dealing with it all.
Makes me realize how much the world is influencing my children, because those ideas are not in line with what my husband and I believe. Here we were, beepopping along, whistling a happy tune, meanwhile our kids are learning how the world is viewing this issue, and it makes some kind of sense to them, so hey, there ya go.
Well, others may feel differently to me, but if that had happened in our family, I'd have sat down and watched the rest of the programme with them, and then had a discussion about it. I'd have applauded my children for not being prejudiced against gay people, but then explained to them what the Bible teaches. As to whether or not a parent should attend the same-sex wedding of one of their children, that's probably one for the Morality & Ethics folder, but it's by no means cut and dried that a Christian should not attend, even if they are morally opposed to homosexual unions.
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I wasn't there to teach my children the right things, and I set all the wrong kinds of examples, and sometimes I feel like I will never make it right.
Well, one good thing is that they're not prejudiced, and that's a good thing. Too many people IMO make the sin of (practising) homosexuality a much bigger sin than other sins, and homosexuals to be bigger sinners than the rest of us, and I don't agree with that. So, if your children have picked up understanding and tolerance, then you *have* done something right!
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I was so messed up mentally, physically, emotionally, and in turn my kids are very confused, and my 12 year old thinks that we can't be sure that Jesus is really Lord because, in his words, "all religions think that they are right, so how can we be sure that they are all wrong and how can we be sure we are right?"
I think it's great that he's thinking about this. Btw I know plenty of children from Christian families where the parents *haven't* had the kind of issues you've had, and yet have asked the same kind of questions in their pre-teens or teens.
So will you please quit beating yourself up??!!
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 2:41:33 PM
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Brian wants me to come to bed, and then he turned on some idiotic show that he knows I can't stand. Um...grrr. Now I don't want to go to bed.
My Husband does the same thing, he will tell me come to bed with him and watch tv, but more then half the time it is stuff I don't want/care to watch! What is bad is... he had this tv and I told him you should put in the bedroom...it would be nice to have there... now I am thinking (( I made a mistake! )) I has been nice some times though... I just can't sleep with the tv anymore on...it kinda bugs me!
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 2:55:46 PM
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I kinda wish my hubby didn't view watching TV together as quality time. He sometimes gets upset when I really don't care to watch a certain movie. Though he has gotten me hooked on a TV show or two.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 3:48:08 PM
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mamajennleigh
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Manda, you should write a book  Thank you all for your kind words.
I didn't mean to come across as though I agreed with those parents or that I thought my kids' responses were wrong in some way; I just think that it occurred to me all of a sudden that we hadn't ever discussed it, especially since it is pretty out in the open here, even at the middle school level. I agree with everything you all have said, and yet I'm having a much harder time with it in practical application since this issue has visited our very own household. I know exactly why I have avoided it up until now, and so I've got to pray and then proceed with this discussion. The oldest two barely get along as it is, and I don't want to give them any ammo (the oldest hasn't told his brothers yet, although at this point I think they are the only ones who don't know).
Onto other things. . .
Donna, I should back up and say that we did have a tv in our bedroom when my husband and I first reconciled, simply because he put it there while we were separated. I groaned (inwardly that is lol) when I first saw it, but in reality, he never watched it and it just gathered dust (and lots of it!) and so we put it in the yard sale once we moved. I am sure the sigh of relief I breathed could have been heard two houses down.
I wish I could change my avatar. I tried uploading this adorable pic of Aaron, but the bug wouldn't let me, and then it somehow erased my old avatar (a pic of the Charleston bridge my hubby worked on) and now I'm stuck with stock photos! Hmmmph!
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 4:56:25 PM
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I wish I could change my avatar. I tried uploading this adorable pic of Aaron, but the bug wouldn't let me, and then it somehow erased my old avatar (a pic of the Charleston bridge my hubby worked on) and now I'm stuck with stock photos! Hmmmph!
I changed my avatar to a pic of me when I was little, and it did "take", I could see it. Then whatever happened to the system erased it and I had nothing but a broken link, so I"m stuck with stock avatars too. Drives me nuts.
I have tv in my room and love it. I tape all of my shows on it. Larry sits and watches Fox News downstairs till he dozes off. He works nights so I don't have the problem of being stuck watching something I don't want to.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 4:58:06 PM
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Our insurance claim is completely exhausted. No more wage loss available.
And my brother only got 90 days jail time. He's already served part of it, so he will probably be out in the beginning of August.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 4:59:33 PM
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Kath
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Our insurance claim is completely exhausted. No more wage loss available.
What? No more money coming in? How is that possible? What will you do?
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 5:09:37 PM
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PrincessDonna
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I don't know. Monday morning, I have to go apply for cash assistance. We don't have another option.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 5:24:33 PM
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No, they did not notify us. Just sent us a check that we thought was missing a few hundred dollars. 
We filed for SSDI back in January, but when we checked last week, it was still just "pending". They won't give any other info than that.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 5:42:31 PM
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I wish I could change my avatar. I tried uploading this adorable pic of Aaron, but the bug wouldn't let me, and then it somehow erased my old avatar (a pic of the Charleston bridge my hubby worked on) and now I'm stuck with stock photos! Hmmmph!
I changed my avatar to a pic of me when I was little, and it did "take", I could see it. Then whatever happened to the system erased it and I had nothing but a broken link, so I"m stuck with stock avatars too. Drives me nuts.
I have tv in my room and love it. I tape all of my shows on it. Larry sits and watches Fox News downstairs till he dozes off. He works nights so I don't have the problem of being stuck watching something I don't want to.
Are you guys using Firefox? I have trouble with avatars in Firefox, but if I open it up in IE I can load the avatar... try that?
Oh, Donna.... I will be praying for you guys as you figure out what to do.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 5:50:47 PM
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oh Donna. That's terrible...I'm so sorry Dear. I can't believe that they would just leave to out to dry.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 6/25/2009 7:38:16 PM
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Jennleigh, I can't upload a photo for my avatar because it says "too big" no matter the size. We're both stuck!
What is with men and television? Why are its evils so much more apparent to women? I thought my case was unique because John was raised in China, too poor really to have a tv and everything was so controlled by the state there back then. I assumed his affection was because he saw it as sort of a symbol of Americana. Whatever ... it is 95% garbage (was going to say 99% but thought that a little harsh).
Manda, you are right! Empathy is so important! Still, I would be alarmed to hear my preteens parotting back what they have surely heard in school and media. It is no small shame that there seems to be no remaining resistance to this sort of thing. Anyway, I have the ability to modify my very strong opinions based on new information ... I think a well raised child will have the same ability, no? So if these two little guys are presented with the truth, they should be able to see things from a different angle. With this issue, in particular, I think it is easy to be too harsh (as a Christian, I mean).
Anyway, it is all very easy for me to speculate with my own children barely able to walk! I sort of dread certain aspects of parenting in the future ...
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I'm only 1.5/2 hours north of Donna...but gee, don't invite me or nuthin'. Thanks. *sniff sniff* 
They didn't even have the decency to notify you guys that it ran out? 
