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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/6/2009 9:45:27 PM
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mamajennleigh
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Maggie, I am praying for you! I know this must be so difficult. My hubby was never in the military but worked out of state for most of the first several years we were married. What BlessedMama said, about getting the routine finally and then doing it all over again is right on.
I pray for a speedy resolution to the business at hand and therefore, a speedy reunion!
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/8/2009 1:50:37 AM
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Hi everyone,
Went away for a few days so back now :)
Happy Belated Birthday Ruth!!
(((Maggie)))) I had no idea about Josiah going til today. Wow, its going to be a journey, but one I know you are strong enough to get through :) I will be praying for you all.
Donna- wonderful news about the money.
Its our 6th wedding anniversary on Sunday, not doing anything really as have church. We'll just hire a movie Saturday and make sure the kids are in bed early.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/8/2009 6:13:16 AM
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Happy Anniversary, Nicole. We're still slogging through year four ... Hope you have fun!
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/8/2009 11:37:50 AM
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mamajennleigh
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Happy anniversary, Nicole! Praise the Lord, my hubby and I will be married 17 years in September. If not for Him, it would have ended at 14. Yet, here we are.
My son is in Jersey working with my sis and her husband (they own carnival games and food stands) for the summer, and he's been calling me nonstop trying to come home. I know he's homesick, but I'm making him stick it out til the end of the summer. This is kind of a tough love thing on our parts, and although it breaks my heart, I'm sticking to my guns!
I hope everyone is having a good day so far. I woke up tired, so I'm doing my duties lol, then I'm relaxing. . . which of course won't happen until bedtime tonight, but it's what I'm telling myself to get through the day!
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/8/2009 1:08:15 PM
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Jennleigh, how wonderful to have been married for so long! That is a real accomplishment. John and I met only five years ago but we were "not getting any younger" so moved very quickly ... not specifically so, but the end result of various decisions is we are living in the suburbs with three children ... we grew up so fast! 
I just whipped out a to-do list to prepare for my baby coming that has been dancing into and out of my head for a few weeks ... I usually prepare a mental list, but transferring it to paper can be disastrous as I panic and forget most of the items. This time it was a smooth flow of thoughts and I *think I captured it all. I am going to call a friend to see if she can come tomorrow or maybe on Friday to get me through it ... physically, it will be too much to do alone, I think.
I was up for an hour in the middle of the night last night, itching like crazy from mosquito bites. While there haven't been so many mosquitos this year, but the few have been SUPER aggressive! As in, one can "start bite" five or six times while being wildly pursued by slapping before flying off. I find the start bites don't swell as much or last as long as a full bite, but they really get me itching! Mosquitos are on my short list of despised things ...
- mosquitos
- my FIL (I know, but I'm being honest ... he makes the list!)
- chewing with mouth open
- super loud tv commercials, blaring tv of any variety
- really cheap actions ... John tried feeding the girls free pinapple salsa from the salsa bar at a restaurant last night. It was humiliating and I sort of sat in misery through the whole meal thinking about it. We are transitioning to the point of needing to order them their own food ... we eat out once or twice a week so this is a bit of a financial impact for us, probably more mental than anything. STILL. I was horrified.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/8/2009 5:16:46 PM
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mamajennleigh
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- mosquitos
- my FIL (I know, but I'm being honest ... he makes the list!)
- chewing with mouth open
- super loud tv commercials, blaring tv of any variety
Every single one of the above makes my list, adding in loud music to the loud tv though. I'm noise sensitive and rarely have music or tv above what it takes to listen to it in an empty room LOL! Drives my family nuts, though because they are all music/tv/movie lovers. I always think it's wayyy too loud at the movie theater :)
Being cheap doesn't bother me that much, depending on your definition of cheap. I have one income to work with and 4 boys that eat like horses, though, so maybe that's why. I tend to take advantage of every sale and/or clearance that I can find. We love yard sales and thrift stores to the point that I'm not sure we really shop for basics anywhere else. When we see something we like, we always wonder if we can find it cheaper or free. (We adore freecycle and craigslist!)
Our whole family loves it, though, so I don't think it bothers anyone here. We won't do things that are humiliating, dangerous, illegal, or that are unethical though. We just look at it in a way that making sure we really need something before buying it, and then seeing if we can make do or obtain it free or cheaper through another source, and then only buying it on sale if we have to allows us to stretch our money further and it allows us to be better stewards of what we have been given and of course, it allows us to go more places and have more fun, which always wins the boys over! Of course, I don't have girls and the boys are not into fashion (or hair cuts for that matter lol) in the least, so that helps LOL!
Edited to say: I forgot to say that the pineapple salsa incident would have made me feel humiliated, also. I feed the baby off our plates, but he is only one, and sometimes I feel bad about that.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/9/2009 1:54:41 PM
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So, I saw a counselor today concerning some of my recent troubles. We talked about coping mechanisms, potential triggers, setting goals for myself and making the best use of the support network I already have in place. She offered a consult to discuss medications, but I told her I'd prefer to try non-medication approaches first and only use medication if "natural" methods do not work.
I liked her well enough, though I was rather bemused by a prominent picture of Hillary Clinton in her office. Being me, I would've found a picture of Dr. Laura to be just as amusing.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/9/2009 3:39:04 PM
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mamajennleigh
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So, I saw a counselor today concerning some of my recent troubles. We talked about coping mechanisms, potential triggers, setting goals for myself and making the best use of the support network I already have in place. She offered a consult to discuss medications, but I told her I'd prefer to try non-medication approaches first and only use medication if "natural" methods do not work.
Sometimes you will find natural approaches to be more beneficial than medication, simply because there are no side effects. I personally found the side effects to almost always feel worse than the problems I was taking the medication for. I took a medication once that made everything I ate or drank taste like metal. It was awful.
Looking back (because hind sight being what it is lol), I think that my bipolar illness was made much worse by the fact that I had TERRIBLE coping skills. When I woke up depressed (and that is exactly how it would happen, I would just wake up with it!), I didn't have decent enough coping skills to learn how to overcome how I was "feeling" in order to function. Of course, that's so easy for me to say today from where I am sitting, but I really do think that I would have fared better had I learned some good coping strategies. *shrug* I just did what I watched my mom do when she went through it... I slept and withdrew from others to the point where I was not functional at all.
Kudos to you for going to see a counselor. Sometimes it really makes a world of difference.
Isn't Dr. Laura the "Divorce Buster" lady?
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/9/2009 3:42:28 PM
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PrincessDonna
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I'm glad you saw someone, Ruth. How often do you go back?
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/9/2009 3:55:14 PM
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Sideways
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Dr. Laura is a conservative lady who does a popular radio show and she's the author of "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands".
Donna, I'm going back in a few weeks, and in the meantime she gave me some things she'd like me to work on, like regular exercise. I wanted to go back to her, because it kinda forces me to be accountable. I think I can manage it, especially since Greg and my mom are really supportive.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/9/2009 4:03:27 PM
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mamajennleigh
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Ruth, I think I am thinking of someone else, maybe. I think her last name is Schlessinger or something close to that. I've seen her book the "Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" at the library - they are always spotlighting it for some reason, and I've been curious about it, but not enough yet to read it. Have you read it?
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/9/2009 5:10:31 PM
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nicole6598
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MamaJen 17 years, that's great, I am glad that you were able to keep at it :)
((((Ruth))) I am praying for you that you are able to put these things in place that you need to. I am glad that you looked for some help xx
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/9/2009 10:07:03 PM
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mamajennleigh
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Thank you, Nicole, but it wasn't any of our doing - God gets all the glory here! If He hadn't healed me and restored my marriage, who knows where I'd be? It has been a looong rough road, but obviously God has plans for us
Hazel2, good job getting your list together. Putting one foot in front of the other is how things get done, and it sounds like you are well on your way. It's so much easier than waiting until you are desperate for the help, you know?
God bless you ladies. I'm off to bed after a somewhat rough day. I tried to cut Aaron's hair and he was not having any of it, but I had already messed up beyond repair from his wiggling around, so he ended up getting it all buzzed. I'm sad. This is my last baby (unless God sees fit otherwise, that is  ) and I had really wanted his first haircut to go well. Seeing him run around after his bath with his little almost - bald head made me want to cry! Oh well, it's just hair, and I should be grateful I didn't pay to have it done. There's no way he was going to stand for getting his hair cut, and at least it didn't cost me money lol!
Good night, ya'll.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/9/2009 10:08:09 PM
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nicole6598
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Hazel are there any support groups for PPD or anything like that that is free instead of paying to see someone who you may get the same sort of assistance from?
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/9/2009 10:11:41 PM
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Oh, Jennleigh, I am sorry about little Aaron's hair! There are those odd tear jerking moments in motherhood that are so heartbreaking. I took Ava to my OB appt and left Claire behind yesterday ... to make her feel better, I gave her a "special snack" which was a cookie bar in a ziplock bag. I can still see her waving goodbye, holding that little bag ... I get a little teary thinking of it. It is something about compassion or something ...!
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/9/2009 11:06:42 PM
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Ruth, I think I am thinking of someone else, maybe. I think her last name is Schlessinger or something close to that. I've seen her book the "Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" at the library - they are always spotlighting it for some reason, and I've been curious about it, but not enough yet to read it. Have you read it?
You would probably like her book. DH and I don't have a particularly bad marriage or even rocky one but I found the book to be good at reminding me of some things that I often forget. It also showed me some things from a different perspective but it's VERY anti-feminism so I don't suggest reading it if you consider yourself even remotely feminist.
Ruth, if you are willing to try something homeopathic then I would recommend "Rescue Remedy" spray or even the drops. I know you aren't always a huge fan of them but it might be worth a try...
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/9/2009 11:19:17 PM
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I would describe myself as suspicious of homeopathy, but of late I'm finding I'm at least willing to have an open mind. dH is staunchly opposed to any homeopathy being used on the children, and since he's a parent too, he gets veto power on that one.
But on my own body? That's different. I would be at least willing to consider it. Thank you for the suggestion.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/9/2009 11:29:50 PM
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Not a problem. Someone yesterday told me that she "could tell I was a great mom because I was so mellow". I was sort of surprised, I guess I am pretty mellow on the outside, most of my anxiety is internalized. Although my anxieties are more related to germs and barfing, lol.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/9/2009 11:40:27 PM
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Ruth, I'm glad you are out there getting help :)
I don't usually disagree with Ryanne, it feels weird.
But if you look into Rescue Remedy and it's something Greg is ok with, seriously look at the ingredients.. There is ALOT of alcohol, which is is most herbal tinctures, but for me, it's ALOT. They do have an alcohol free one. I had an owner complain once that the kids version wasn't as effective.. I looked at the difference between kids and pets in the store and the amount of alcohol shocked me. I have stopped recommending it.
St. Johns Wart can be very effective with depression symptoms and even my VERY anti-homeopathic husband is ok with it, since it's an herbal supplement that has scientific research showing it works.
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/10/2009 12:14:40 AM
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Be careful with St. John's Wart and birth control though.
Is it bad that the alcohol content in something to mellow you made me giggle? 
People tell me I am mellow/relaxed/calm all the time. I am so not. I must hide what goes on inside this head of mine well.  
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RE: SAHM/W Encouragement thread! (6) - 7/10/2009 6:24:49 AM
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Ruth, if you are willing to try something homeopathic then I would recommend "Rescue Remedy" spray or even the drops. I know you aren't always a huge fan of them but it might be worth a try...
Rescue Remedy stuff isn't strictly homeopathic, not as I understand homeopathy. They "work" in a different way.
And the origins of the Bach Rescue Remedies is, if what I've read is correct, that Edward Bach decided which flowers would help which mental symptoms by imagining himself to be in a negative mental state and then holding his hand over a flower to see how that changed the way he felt.
I also read once that all the flowers etc are only harvested during a certain phase of the moon.
I don't use them at all - it just all seems a bit too kooky to me. But if others want to use them, that's their choice.
The other thing is, as Brandy said, that the remedies standardly contain 27% Grape Brandy (from their FAQ page). The brandy is intended as a preservative for the flowers etc.
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