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RE: scared about the absence of marriage in heaven - 6/16/2009 11:08:34 PM
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WhiteDove747
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Aubrey, I can tell you are madly so in love! What you feel is selfish but normal. You are in-love; you are just in the first stage of tasting the sweetness of your relationship. That's why you are afraid to lose it.
One thing you must remember, when we get to heaven it will be totally different - I mean, our state of mind. I believe over there marriage would not matter to us anymore. It's a different kind of love that we would probably feel apart from our physical bodies. Most, if not all, people who have gone through near-death experience have one testimony in common - there's complete peace and living love that surrounds them they want to stay than come back!
Meanwhile, you are here on earth so enjoy your relationship with the man you love. Aren't we told that we should live each day as if it is the last day? Just enjoy it. Whenever you feel fear is creeping in, talk to God instead, tell Him about your fears and how you feel.
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RE: scared about the absence of marriage in heaven - 6/16/2009 11:59:47 PM
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MowTin
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I remember as a teen I was afraid of dying as a virgin because I read there was no sex in heaven.
"Oh, please God don't let me die a virgin" 
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RE: scared about the absence of marriage in heaven - 7/1/2009 8:51:40 PM
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kahr
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I'm 28 years old and last year finally found the love of my life and as cheesy as it may sound I know God brought us together. We are looking at getting married in the next year and a half and it is a deep desire of my heart to do so. My mom is a passionate student of end times prophecy and her reports on how that relates to todays events combined with some recent phophetic miracle accounts a woman spoke about in church have me absolutely scared to death to be raptured soon and even in tears about it! I know this seems ridiculous and selfish but I don't know how to reconcile these feelings? I fully surrendered my life to Christ in 2005 and ever since have experienced (some times more than others) his love and grace but to be absolutely honest I don't feel happy or even okay with the idea that #1 there is no marrige in heaven and #2 my even DEEPER fear is that I will loose the intimacy I have now with my husband to be in heaven. I feel crazy saying this but it scares me and actually hurts me to think that we will all be equal to each other in heaven. I feel like God gave my boyfriend and I to each other as a gift and the closeness and trust we share is special. I'm going to lose that in heaven? I waited 27 years to find it and I feel like God is coming back any day and I'm going to #1 miss out on maybe even being married to the man I love and #2 when we get to heaven since we are going to be like brothers and sisters with everyone else so we won't share an exclusive love or closeness with each other there? I know I should love God with all my heart, mind and soul so am I failing in doing so by feeling this way about the rapture to be? How do I get a grip on this? I know that all over the world people are in misery and bondage so how could I be so selfish as to just think about what I want here on this earth?
Believe you me: when the Rapture happens (whether before I finish typing this or 100 years from now...) your boyfriend will be the least of your concerns. As to why your are having all these odd feelings, I can't explain. you are without a doubt the first person I have ever heard of that has them...and you are right: they do sound pretty selfish.
Believe you me: If you are saved you should not have any "concerns "  when the Rapture happens
You are not being selfish - I think It is AWESOME you guys love each other that much .
My wife and I were married at 18 and that was 14 years ago already !
This was something my wife struggles with also. (And me too)
I will tell you what I told her, she said it helped ?
I told her as much as I love her, God loves her WAY more and of course God wants her to be happy.
I don't think she will be unhappy in Heaven : )
I love spending time and just hanging out with her, I would love to spend forever with her.
I know the Bible says we will know who each other is.
The disciples recognized Jesus when he came back to see them and King David knew he would see his Baby in heaven,
So I cant help but think I can spend time and be with my wife in heaven, No one feels Marriage is more special then God, he made it - So be sure God knows how you feel right now and Please remember he loves you even more than you love you husband so I don't think he would bring you guys to together just to separate you in heaven !!!!
Hope this helps some
< Message edited by kahr -- 7/1/2009 9:12:41 PM >
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RE: scared about the absence of marriage in heaven - 7/2/2009 1:51:39 PM
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still4gvn
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I do believe in prophesy, but have heard a lot of nice and sincere people prophesy incorrectly. The Bible says the heart is deceitful. We can fool ourselves. Also, the Bible says that satan can appear as an angel of light. I wouldn't be surprised if a demon could appear as a hitchhiker to confuse people. Not to say that's necessarily what happened. But if God wanted to announce the end of the world, why do it to motorists along that specific highway?
Also, I suppose there won't be sex in heaven since we'll have a different kind of body. But there will be emotional intimacy. One of the great things about being married to a believer is that you won't be separated - just have a different kind of relationship.
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RE: scared about the absence of marriage in heaven - 7/5/2009 3:01:51 PM
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buckifn
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Maybe 1 reason said no marriage in heaven because He knew some ppl would wake up and think they were in hell instead? lol
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RE: scared about the absence of marriage in heaven - 7/5/2009 4:17:02 PM
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northstar
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Maybe 1 reason said no marriage in heaven because He knew some ppl would wake up and think they were in hell instead? lol
Lol!
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RE: scared about the absence of marriage in heaven - 7/7/2009 1:09:51 AM
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spiritualbutterfly
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How do you go on living your life day to day with that kind of news? I can pray about trying to remember that Heaven is a satisfying wonderful renunion with God but how do I look ahead during my time on earth now? I feel crazy! Am I soupoused to look ahead at my life and my dreams and aspirations or am I soupoused to take that woman's message and start living as if Jesus could come back any minute? (mind you I know that we should have an eternal focus and not temporal anyways.) but i feel like I was told I have a terminal illness.
As a young wife married only 11 mos., I can understand that you'd want all the time you could possibly have with the love of your life...my husband and I are still working out the kinks, and to think that Jesus might come back as soon as we finally get it right could be a bit depressing -- IF I didn't know that Heaven is my reward! You call a prophecy about Jesus's return "that kind of news" as if it's a bad thing when it's the most wonderful news we as Christians can receive. I don't get how you can ask how you look ahead...I'd say with great expectancy. All of us who are saved should have made it our goal to "start living as if Jesus could come back any minute" the moment we got saved. It sounds like you're so focused on the end of your life here on this earth that you can't get excited about the beginning of your eternity with Jesus. I'm not questioning your salvation, but I do want to mention that I used to fear death until I got saved. Now, whether I die before or am still alive when Jesus returns, I have peace. My mother recently had surgery, and she got scared when she had some complications. I know it may have sounded callous to her, but I asked her, "Are you saved?" She said, "Yes." So, I said, "Then what's the worst thing that can happen? You could die -- in which case you'd just go to sleep until Jesus comes back. That doesn't sound too bad to me." Of course I'm grateful I didn't lose my mother, but I could think of no better way to help her stop worrying than to remind her that God's got it one way or the other. I know your post is not about dying, but the point I'm trying to make is that the gifts of salvation and eternal life are supposed to bring you peace and joy, not sorrow, and you can never receive those gifts if Jesus doesn't come back. So, when that time comes, look for me in Heaven -- I'll be one of the ones with the big smile :D and part of the reason for that smile will probably be that my husband won't be stealing the covers from me that night! God bless you.
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RE: scared about the absence of marriage in heaven - 7/7/2009 6:54:56 PM
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sen10tious
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#2 when we get to heaven since we are going to be like brothers and sisters with everyone else
If you mean totally equal relationships, I don’t think that is true. I have several reasons; some are even based in scripture! If I go on too long about it some moderator would properly insist booting my reply to theology, but briefly:
Jesus did not have equal relationships with all his disciples.
Jacob’s blessing his children did not even things out among them.
Many of “the kingdom of heaven is as…” parables show different levels of relationships.
Just look around at the kind of creation the Creator made—where do you see one thing like everything else? Only in mineral structure; not in living things.
Moreover, of the hundreds of people who have had near-death experiences, the overwhelming majority “see” people who were in closest relationships on earth.
And think about any family of three or more children, the kids always pair up in some fashion, especially as adults.
But you are certainly NOT alone in thinking or feeling that way. The Mormons have built an entire doctrine of Celestial marriage to deal with such feelings. Of course, that isn’t the answer either.
I don’t think you will lose any good thing in heaven. But I do think that in a place such as heaven, marriage would be confining and restrictive. The biggies like protection and provision will be taken care. I won't need the things a husband has to offer here. I’ll have other relationships I can tap into and won’t be suffering from my husband’s weak areas. I’ll be able to have my God-given talents nurtured by others who actually enjoy them!
As for the end times coming too soon… I imagine God chuckles over that frequently. When He planned you, He knew to put you on earth soon enough to get everything that would truly be important to you accomplished in time. That is just something you’ll have to trust.
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