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How important are looks to you?
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| Very - He must be handsome |
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| Not so much - As long as there's some chemistry I don't mind ugly |
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How important are looks to you? - 6/18/2009 1:23:14 PM
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mahad
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Ladies, Sisters, Women of God, what would you do if a single man who was an Elder of good report, and works full time in the ministry, was interested in you and although you admit that there is some "chemistry" between the two of you, by society's standards, he is not much to look at AT ALL. Height, build, etc... are all good except for his facial attraction. It leaves MUCH to be desired.
What would you do?
How important are looks to you?
< Message edited by MAHAD -- 6/18/2009 1:29:18 PM >
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 6/18/2009 1:34:02 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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Honestly, the only thing I was really picky about were teeth  I could handle dentures, but I can't do the teeth falling out/rotted thing.
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 6/18/2009 1:38:02 PM
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Sideways
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Well, no man wants to be married to a woman who finds him ugly. It's not wrong to not be attracted to a man, but if you really don't like the look of his face, I wouldn't continue the relationship hoping that your opinion will eventually change.
But if looking his face makes you happy because you love being with him, then I wouldn't give 2 cents what the world thinks.
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 6/18/2009 3:54:14 PM
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slushie
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I know some people who think that what I'd think were the ugliest men ever are so handsome. XD
For me, I guess he should be handsome, but if he has a nice character and there is chemistry then looks don't matter.
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 6/19/2009 5:23:44 AM
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3cappuccinosmom
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
So if I actually thought a guy was ugly, it would be unfair of me to pick him. Unfair to him.
However, a guy might be "ugly" to the rest of the world, but because of a combination of his character, personality, and my perception of him, I might find him attractive. In that sense, looks don't matter to me. Sure, there might be guys out there who everybody can acknowledge as having an extra measure of physical attractiveness (and perhaps a little airbrushing helps them out some  ), but in general those are sort of a seperate category and most of us live in a reality that includes physical flaws of some sort.
For me personally, I never had a set list of physical "musts".  I always found a lot of guys attractive for a variety of reasons. Sometimes it was their character, other times the way they treated me, other times a particular "look" that i really couldn't explain if I was asked. I can think of two guys that I found truly repulsive back in my single days (oddly enough they both worked at the same place). They were both well meaning but both had "issues". What I remember about them is not their looks but their behavior and the "vibe" they gave out. <shudder>
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 6/19/2009 6:05:57 AM
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Personally, I prefer guys with character in their faces over "pretty" Tom Cruise types. Nice eyes and smile are important, but the other stuff doesn't matter so much to me.
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 6/19/2009 12:08:22 PM
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OneOfHisJewels
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If he hasn't become attractive TO YOU, then he's probably not the right one for you. Am I saying that we should all be searching for Adam Rodriguez's (Eric on CSI Miami--I just picked him because I find him quite handsome, and some of the other example some people use --such as Brad Pitt---don't appeal to me at all). But trust me, the RIGHT one will look attractive to you, even if he doesn't to anyone else.
My one possibility, doesn't look a THING like what i always pictured myself with/being attracted to, but he's still very handsome TO ME. Now, we are only in the beginning stages of a relationship, and I'm being realistic in reminding myself it could end at any time, but that was still a good sign to me.
I really think the right person will make any previous ideals fly out the window, and this guy hasn't done it for you. BTW, you don't have to tell him that's why if he pursues...just politely decline. If he pesters you for a reason, just say you don't feel God is leading you there.
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 6/19/2009 1:00:13 PM
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Auben
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I have my own unique style on looks, one in which Brad Pitt is not a very handsome fellow (to me).
I think attraction, and therefore looks, are important. I just don't think ugly is a term I would ever use. I don't ever think of people as ugly. I notice attraction. I notice special features. I just don't think beyond that.
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 6/19/2009 4:57:58 PM
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anne-girl
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When I first met DH I didn't find him tremendously handsome (shhh! don't tell!) but as I got to know him, his looks grew on me. It's not that I ever found him ugly, just that if I'd met him on the street, he wouldn't have turned my head. It took a while before we got to know each other in the big sea of single people at our church. He's fit, and has a very solidly-built figure; I thought my type was skinny-intellectual until I started dating him, so in a sense it was going against "type" for me to be attracted to him.
Now of course I think he's adorable, but even so when a friend who hadn't met him saw his picture and said "He's a cutie!" I was surprised, because while I find him very attractive, I'm still surprised when others think so. Of course, if anybody were to comment positively on his body I would not be at all shocked. 
Chemistry is a funny thing. Try to put aside thoughts about what the world thinks, and discern what you think and feel.
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 6/19/2009 11:24:25 PM
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slushie
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Sean Connery!!!
I don't think Brad Pitt is that handsome.
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 6/20/2009 9:44:10 AM
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quote:
ORIGINAL: manda59
Personally, I prefer guys with character in their faces over "pretty" Tom Cruise types. Nice eyes and smile are important, but the other stuff doesn't matter so much to me.
I feel the same way.
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 6/21/2009 10:24:32 AM
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stonek
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Chemistry is important and not being all that attracted to someone is one thing, but to date or marry someone you think is truly ugly would be difficult. Will you be interested if you get married in kissing and enjoy sex for the rest of your life with someone you really find ugly?
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 6/22/2009 12:39:21 PM
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FlamingFantods
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Guys should hold out for someone who thinks they're hot, just as a woman should find a man who thinks she's a good companion. It'll make living together so much easier. If you don't care for a man's looks, he needs to get a different beholder. 
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 6/23/2009 5:08:59 PM
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Consecrated2God
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It's not important to me, but that's easy for me to say, since my husband is sooooo good looking! 
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 6/27/2009 11:39:09 AM
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o1krisa
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I've been attracted to men that I wouldn't expect liking. I won't lie that I have particular head-turning, physical attributes I modestly glance at but truthfully, pretty boys never appealed to me. Brad Pitt isn't handsome but realistically, he has a type of charm. Tom Cruise is considered handsome to most but personally for me, he's just another dude that's blessed with a great smile. Denzel Washington isn't the prettiest guy but for me, he's somehow attractive. Gerard Butler also has a look that really makes a woman smile. Even Jet Li isn't the most attractive guy but when he fights, it's just so attractive to watch. I could go on and on and when it comes down to it, it really depends on that particular individual. Like I said, I don't like pretty boys but I do love the bad boy look. I'm just blessed enough that I've had guys I was involved in (in the past) and in spite of "the bad boy look" they were genuine and even a gentleman, just not somebody God was leading me to end up with. So to basically answer the thread question: Looks are pretty important just not really interested in the pretty boy or handsome look.
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RE: How important are looks to you? - 7/7/2009 2:21:02 AM
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Luxurious_Ivy
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I'm fine with messy hair to be honest. I really don't give too much attention to hair thats been waxed or geled up. I might get bothered if it has white spots or lice though. LOL.
Cool guys who try to be cool are attractive but then again personality matters much much more. I've had a couple of nerdy admirers and from their personality I'd say I was drawn more to them rather than to the average neat guy. Of course, I had a lot of busting to do during my High School years. Guys here in the Philippines find me a bit intimidating. LOL! My friends say I play hard to get, but I just say I'm just being myself.
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