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RE: How many friends do you have? - 6/25/2009 10:17:01 AM
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MamaAng
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I have 2 girlfriends that I can call on and tell them anything. I have a couple handfuls of other friends that I meet for lunch and rely on but not as heavily. My mom has become a close friend over the years.
For me, I need the face to face contact with girl friends at least twice a week. I meet the socialization need by going to lunch, going to a women's bible study, book group monthly and walks at lunch.
I wish we had another couple to hang out with, but we haven't been successful yet.
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 6/30/2009 11:23:21 PM
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I'm 22 and I basically gave up all my "friends" and by friends I mean people I hung out with but weren't really true friends. Anyway, I gave them up because our beliefs, morals, interests weren't the same at all. Since then, I haven't really had any friends until I went to a volunteer training course in April. I met someone there who's really an awesome person and practicing Christian as well. She's 35, which is fine with me, except we don't hang out because she's a wife and mother of 5. I would call her a good friend though because we talk a lot and I know if I needed her, she'd be there the best she could and the same goes for her. It's hard to find good friends out there at my age especially. Everyone is still in their party phase and I was never into that. Those friends I've found are only there if you're having a good time and then when you're not, they drop you. But overall, one good friend is good with me. I'd rather have one true friend than a million "friends" when they want to be.
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 7/2/2009 2:43:50 PM
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I used to have 3 really close friends. But, as I read the bible more--we grew apart. (Cuz they liked to party.) I miss them, but I don't miss the drama they brought into my life.
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 7/3/2009 6:16:20 PM
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Two. Used to be more but life changed.
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 7/6/2009 6:56:59 AM
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I really only have one super close friend. We've been together since 7th grade. I pray our friendship never ends. The longer that we are the friends the clearer it becomes God put us together for a reason. It's eerie that we often find ourselves in the same season or same circumstance and can offer support to each other.
There might be one other person I'd consider a 'call anytime' sort of friend but it's not like I couldn't live without her.
I consider very few to be close friends but I have several acquaintances. I think rgod explained it best elsewhere on the forums that we have a wide group of acquaintances similar to how Jesus had the 70, and then we have a smaller group who we are closer with similar to how Jesus had the 12, and then we have an even smaller group of maybe 1-3 who are really a core for us similar to Jesus had the favorite apostle.
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 7/6/2009 8:16:11 PM
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Mine moved....one just ditched me pretty hard, but I'll have a few new ones before long. Mom and I are very close and there's a few internet friends, maybe 3 that communicate regularly. One person, 30 yrs my senior, that I can talk with about anything. One other that I am tring to convince to move here!
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 7/6/2009 10:06:02 PM
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Luxurious_Ivy
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When it comes to friends who are like in the deepest level of friendship, I'd have to say 2. The rest, I wouldn't bother hanging around with them but it's only two people who I really put my entire trust in.
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 7/7/2009 5:32:32 PM
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rgod
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Hmmm .... I have two family members that are really close to me. I can talk to them about anything. I had a friend whom I considered to be close, but that person turned out to be not so good for me, so that person is now more of a regular friend. Like, I'd invite her to my wedding and I'd let her know about major life events, but not the day to day stuff. I miss having someone like that in my life. I don't have anyone that is very close to to me right now other than family - but I'm blessed to have a close family.
I have some friendships - people that I can go to the movies with, hang out and eat, have over to the house. I moved a couple of years ago, so I'm starting over. Now I have about 8 people that I can think of off the top of my head that I can do these kinds of things with. That's a blessing. I can now have dinner parties or small intimate type gatherings and actually have people who will show up :) Having had times in my life when I had no friends and only acquaintances, this is a huge blessing to me. Now, I'm in the process of making more of these types of friends and cultivating all of these different relationships. I've always had a fair number of aquaintances - many of whom I don't keep in touch with much. I'm always trying something new so I tend to know a lot of people. But, I'd like to keep up with the aquaintances too, even if only through facebook or via email - and maybe a Christmas card or something like that.
Mostly though, I want to build close relationships and would love to have a best friend that is outside of the family. I'd love to have a husband with whom I can share many things and who will share many things with me.
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 7/15/2009 3:17:24 PM
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None after 27 yr in one place had several co workers ,daughter friends moms that were closr two or three that I could share and talk with but as we moved and when to Back to college at 45 then move again across the country, t 3 yr to a place for a church job, I found I have no close friends! Some timne we reach out but people are busy and we are in a area were they all grew up together or live here for several years and the the click. I no longer work out of the house so I have limited contact with people So I have turn to Here and of face book recontected with HS ladies but none I call close friends to share .I have alway be a good friend depenanble, honset, but feel life has moved on with out me! My only person I could call a friend is my adult daughter ,I nanie the grand kids so that why i am not out in the work force in a few years that will change, as for my church every one has their own click, I reached out to two or 3 but never a retrun so here I sit on the PC!! Even my daughter are suprised Many times I go to Wal mart just to have some to talk to as I shop etc!! ( course this does not count my husband has alway been my best friend)
We just talked last week we use to be in the Lodge we may now check back in to it now that we are in a place to saty ! See if re can connect with peole that way again!
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 7/31/2009 1:30:07 PM
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I used to have quite a few good friends- people I could stop in and chat with when we all lived on campus, people I could call to talk about anything at all, people I could instant message whenever I had a problem. Sadly, everyone's drifted away or stopped caring, for the most part- most of my college friends dropped out and disappeared, and my friends from high school developed newer circles of friends and stopped calling, and with the internet, a lot of people just simply disappear.
What I wouldn't give to have some good girl friends who I could go to for anything, and were Christians as well... 
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 8/4/2009 10:15:56 AM
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Hazel2
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WOF, I spent many many years trying very hard to make friends. My targets always seemed to resist somehow ... my dream of having a "group" of girlfriend eluded me until we bought our current house. Before that, I had no friends ... zero.
Now I have lots of friends who I see every week for playgroup, playdates and girls' nights out. But really only three or four friends I can call when I am in need of spur of the moment companionship. These three or four are cherished! I should also add my sister and husband to that list as they are steadfast in their love for me. I also have many many online friendships that I count as "real" and I also have lots of solid aquaintances on whom I also occasionally depend. I am blessed.
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 8/4/2009 3:15:26 PM
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hjemerson
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SO SAD so many Christian women are in seach of good Godly friends I know I am !
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 8/6/2009 1:36:52 PM
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beebee047
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It is sad. Hopefully I will be able to make some more Godly friends now that I have started attending church regularly again.
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 8/7/2009 10:50:05 AM
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Hazel2
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My only Christian girlfriend (the kind I could call in the middle of the night) is my sister. I've never really had a good Christian friend! It is something that is sort of on my "to do before I die" list.
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 8/8/2009 12:38:42 AM
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I used to have a circle of people I was in a political organization with. There were strong bonds of sisterhood, and I often wonder how these women are, but the relationships were really task and group and ideology specific.
Since I moved, I really haven't done a great job of reaching out to others, or doing the follow-up work necessary to maintain long-distance relationships. I know I need to do better, but unfortunately, knowledge isn't effort.
I can always call my mom if I need to, but it's generally not a good idea to get her involved in my life issues. When I've done so, I've realized it's unfair to her, at her age, and there are always negative consequences. I am close to her though, and I am close to dh. I talk to dh about some stuff. He certainly knows my big problems.
Oh, I have a friend in NY I can call and chat about light stuff with. Not someone I could go to with a problem. He's a guy, so some distance has to be maintained.
I, too, need to work at building friendships with other Christians. Again, it requires work and risk, and it can lead to rejection, and I guess I must want to avoid all that.
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How many friends do you have? - 8/17/2009 10:20:00 PM
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1 friend - but lots of acquaintances.
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 9/23/2009 9:54:16 PM
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I, too, need to work at building friendships with other Christians.
Me too.
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 9/24/2009 11:44:49 AM
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I have about 5 really close friends. Only one lives close to me. I see her about 1 time every two months. We live really close but we are so busy. My other friends live about 30 miles away, and I see them more often. 1-2 times a month. Most of these friends I had when I was 13 &14 years old and we went to church together for years.
Then I have a group of about 5-10 people that we do things together. Camp, Kareoke, movies, but we usually go in a group.
I am having a really hard time at my new chruch though. I have been there 3 years and i could come or not come and no one would care. It is a great church, but people have gone there for years and they have their own friends, and there is no opportunity to meet people outside of the church setting. And when they do do something, I have something super important come up and I can't go. So I am starting to think that is the season right now. Most of my friends live pretty far away, and I don't have friends at church. I am praying for things to chang though.
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 9/28/2009 9:47:13 PM
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rgod
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I don't have a lot of friends, but am looking to make more. It is a bit difficult as I am in transition in the way I see myself, the qualities of relationships that I choose, and the way I see God. I had a lot of poor quality friendships in the past, because I didn't want to be alone and because I did not value myself. But now, things are very different - and I'm willing to wait and patiently seek out good, nurturing relationships.
I have one friend who has opened her home to me in my time of need. I appreciate her a lot and want to make the friendship deeper.
I have one friend who also offered her home to me, and who is constantly checking on me and wanting to spend time with me. I'm developing the relationship. She may one day be a good friend.
I have one friend who seeks me out a lot, but who is very draining. I'm thinking that she might end up being more of an acquaintance.
I had a friend who was close to me for a long time, but who was bad for me. As my outlook on myself, God, and other people changed, and as I learned to be alone, I spent less and less time with her. A few months ago, she said some very hurtful things to me that let me know that she had spent the entire relationship looking down on me because she and her family "prayed me into the kingdom" so to speak. I'd always suspected that, but when she said it, it really crystallized it for me. Once that was out in the open, I broke off the friendship entirely - clean break. I never really enjoyed the friendship much because she was so critical and controlling; so this was the impetus to end that relationship entirely. I have boundaries and limits now and will not allow someone like that in my life again.
I have a friend who moved away and who is not a very close friend, but is someone that I can talk to time to time.
I have my sister, who is my friend, and with whom I can talk to about anything.
I have my mother, who is my closest friend and knows me the best, but with whom I can't talk to about some things.
I have my aunts and cousin, with whom I can have pleasant conversations and talk to about a few little things.
I have lots and lots of acquaintances. I tend to meet people pretty easily - but find friends hard to come by. I am interested in a lot of things, do a lot, and in the process get to know people.
I want to join a church where I can have some closer friendships. I'd like to have some high-quality, good friendships. I would love a spouse with whom I can build intimacy and share.
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RE: How many friends do you have? - 9/29/2009 10:58:59 PM
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I have one friend like that, plus my mom. But they both live 2 hours away. I've lived in this same area for 2 and a half years now and have only made a few acquantances...
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