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Do you Yell at your Husband?
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 6/24/2009 2:40:21 PM
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W.O.F.
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ORIGINAL: Ps103
But Himself also knows that yelling isn't when I am dangerous--when I am truly angry I get really quiet. If you can't hear me--run!
ME TOO!!!!!!
I usually stay somewhere between yelling and quiet...but if I get really quiet....heaven help you (and me!)
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 6/24/2009 2:43:44 PM
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W.O.F.
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I will state for the record that I don't think yelling in and of itself is necessarily evil....as long as you get to the root of what is driving you to yell (what is the issue you are angry over) and solve it, and as long as it is NOT your first and ONLY response to a situation.
It is kind of like couples who say they NEVER argue...that's fine...as long as there are no issues to resolve.
It does not excuse yelling.....but it doesn't make yelling the issue. The issue is controlling one's self when one is angry.
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 6/24/2009 6:08:04 PM
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Covaan_Meshuga
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I know women are emotional. I would like to get an idea of how often a typical Christian woman yells at her husband. I know it's not something people want to admit but I'm hoping for a little honesty here.
God Bless.
I think people, in general, are emotional. My experience is that i am no more emotional that anyone else.
But regarding your question, it has never crossed my mind to yell at my husband. I haven't since I married him 22 years and 4 days ago. And I never yelled at my first husband either. And my husband would not think of yelling at me.
Never hit them. Never threw anything at them. Oh, except for when I get irritated at sports on TV, then I have the right to go out, buy a small bag of M&Ms, and throw the bag at them! I do that!
Never argue with him, but we definitely have discussions! I don't know. I think I would be a boring wife if it were not for other stuff I do.
But I yelled at my children, until my daughter got old enough to tell me how I hurt them. I learned to stop that.
Like PS103, I go quiet when I am hurt or angry. I make people disappear when it gets really bad.
However, when we were firwst married, we did the grocery shopping together. When he would go to another aisle for some reason, and if I was alone in my aisle, I would sing, loudly, like that Indian love call thingy, "I'm in love with yoo-oo-oo-ooooo-oo-oo-oooooooou!" Does that count?
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 6/25/2009 3:27:23 PM
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Covaan_Meshuga
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I asked my husband last night if I had ever yelled at him and just forgotten, and he said no. As we discussed this, he said that when I get angry, I "seethe." He's right.
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While in prayer or praise, I am only as devoted to G-d as I am in my most private moments.
Abiyah, if you had known them as G-d knows them, you would have answered them differently.
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 6/26/2009 5:21:03 PM
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I used to yell at him often, but quit. It only makes matters worse. I have also tried to change my attitude towards him and that helps a lot. Since I cannot recall the last time I yelled at him, I put never.
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 6/26/2009 5:48:40 PM
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Zhi
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Depends on how far away he is.
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 6/28/2009 9:23:49 PM
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AlwaysR8chel
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Depends on how far away he is.
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I didn't consider it this way!
I don't yell at my husband.... it's not nice. 
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 7/2/2009 6:00:11 PM
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I don't yell @ my fiance, I am pretty calm. He on the other hand doesn't know how to carry a conversation w/o screaming @ the top of his lungs, spit flying everywhere. Almost everything sets him off, & it hurts me deeply. Even when he messes up, misplaces an item, spills something, somehow it's always everybody elses fault. As he is screaming, I just stand there and stare @ him thinking to myself will he ever grow up, seriously. I hate it. The good thing is, that he surrendered his life to Christ 3 months ago & he does acknowledge that he has a serious anger problem, so we are praying & believing for a breakthrough. I have got to be honest & admit when you live with that almost daily, I have lost it many times and I let the devil get the best of me. Slicing & dicing him with my words right back, only mine being in self defense. Let me tell you, not a pretty sight. It made things 100% worse and left me feeling defeated, because that is not Gods plan for our lives. I often humble myself & I'm always the one to apoligize.
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 7/2/2009 6:02:06 PM
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ORIGINAL: CreatedinHisImage
I don't yell @ my fiance, I am pretty calm. He on the other hand doesn't know how to carry a conversation w/o screaming @ the top of his lungs, spit flying everywhere. Almost everything sets him off, & it hurts me deeply. Even when he messes up, misplaces an item, spills something, somehow it's always everybody elses fault. As he is screaming, I just stand there and stare @ him thinking to myself will he ever grow up, seriously. I hate it. The good thing is, that he surrendered his life to Christ 3 months ago & he does acknowledge that he has a serious anger problem, so we are praying & believing for a breakthrough. I have got to be honest & admit when you live with that almost daily, I have lost it many times and I let the devil get the best of me. Slicing & dicing him with my words right back, only mine being in self defense. Let me tell you, not a pretty sight. It made things 100% worse and left me feeling defeated, because that is not Gods plan for our lives. I often humble myself & I'm always the one to apoligize.
And you plan to marry him?
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 7/2/2009 6:06:17 PM
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Covaan_Meshuga
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ORIGINAL: CreatedinHisImage
I don't yell @ my fiance, I am pretty calm. He on the other hand doesn't know how to carry a conversation w/o screaming @ the top of his lungs, spit flying everywhere. Almost everything sets him off, & it hurts me deeply. Even when he messes up, misplaces an item, spills something, somehow it's always everybody elses fault. As he is screaming, I just stand there and stare @ him thinking to myself will he ever grow up, seriously. I hate it. The good thing is, that he surrendered his life to Christ 3 months ago & he does acknowledge that he has a serious anger problem, so we are praying & believing for a breakthrough. I have got to be honest & admit when you live with that almost daily, I have lost it many times and I let the devil get the best of me. Slicing & dicing him with my words right back, only mine being in self defense. Let me tell you, not a pretty sight. It made things 100% worse and left me feeling defeated, because that is not Gods plan for our lives. I often humble myself & I'm always the one to apoligize.
Honey, you are really scaring me.
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While in prayer or praise, I am only as devoted to G-d as I am in my most private moments.
Abiyah, if you had known them as G-d knows them, you would have answered them differently.
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 7/2/2009 6:06:22 PM
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Proverbs 14
A wise woman builds her house; a foolish woman tears hers down with her own hands.
< Message edited by LizzieJ. -- 7/2/2009 8:53:22 PM >
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 7/2/2009 6:45:38 PM
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It hasn't been the easiest time for me, thats for sure. I even felt that because of what I did to my ex-husband this was my ultimate punishment. My kids are my #1 priority, believe it or not! I have five children & a grandson. My 22 yr old just graduated his 2nd yr of Bible College & going for his third & final yr, My 23 yr old daughter has been battling w/drugs (ice) for a few yrs, therefore leaving me to raise my 3 yr old grandson since birth. I have two teenage boys 15 & 14 yrs who are starting high school next yr. and a 10 yr. old daughter. My fiance is the baby of five sisters and grew up in a christian hm. after being married 12 yrs & catching his ex in bed w/his BF, he became very bitter, angry @ the world and became a licensed bounty hunter, putting his anger to good use & made lots of $ in the process. When we got together things were good for a while, and then the anger started. At that time we were going out and drinking a lil here & there. I said to him either we get back in church or its over. So a lil over 3 mos ago we started going 2 church and he was baptized w/ the Holy Spirit about 1 1/2 mo later and things have gotten way better. When I wake up and see him on his knees praying, it is such a beautiful sight, and because of his past, no one can believe that God changed a man like him, therefore many have since given their lives to the Lord. God is using him big time, he is now using his Bounty hunting skills for the kingdom of heaven. God is moving mightily behind the scenes & doin a wk, & I see the finished product and its finer than Gold. So no we are not where we need to be, but I thank God that were not where we use to be. Were moving FORWARD...
PS our church Frontline Ministries has marriage on the Rock classes (counseling) and yes we are attending faithfully. Thank you all for your concern and especially for your prayers.....
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 7/2/2009 7:03:12 PM
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Covaan_Meshuga
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Honey, I am going to have to back out of this. I seriously do NOT understand what you are writing. I had better not say anything more at this time. I'll just pray.
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While in prayer or praise, I am only as devoted to G-d as I am in my most private moments.
Abiyah, if you had known them as G-d knows them, you would have answered them differently.
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 7/2/2009 7:17:05 PM
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I have never once yelled at my husband, and he has never once yelled at me. Not in 28 years of marriage have we raised our voices to each other.
We haven't always agreed, to be sure! We've had our share of discussions. But, we have never disrespected each other with yelling. It's unnecessary in my opinion, and does nothing but foster hostility and division.
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 7/2/2009 7:19:40 PM
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You know, when the tv is blaring loud and the children are squealing over something and John can't hear me, I have been known to shout as loudly as I can "WILL YOU TURN THAT TV DOWN??!!" I cannot handle that kind of chaos and for what? Aside from that, maybe two times a year (??) we get into a big fight and it turns to yelling. As we are married longer, I see these arguments disappearing ... we are learning how to avoid them! God has worked wonders in our short time together.
I think it is NOT healthy or normal to shout at someone ... it is a sign of not being able to communicate in more productive ways which is not something to be considered healthy or normal.
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 7/6/2009 8:07:08 PM
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One more thing ... my husband is a yeller. He yells as sort of a first line of defense. I know this about him and married him in spite of it and without regrets. BUT I found that his yelling precipitated my yelling. Now, I struggle to maintain my volume and I will say something like "first, I hope we can discuss this without shouting at eachother" or "John, you are shouting". He immediately quiets his voice ... I think the guy doesn't KNOW he is yelling! It is possible your fiance isn't aware of his volume. Reminding him in a quieter tone just might snap him out of it.
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 7/6/2009 11:22:58 PM
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When I am emotional about anything in either a good or a bad way, my voice tends to get louder and louder. It makes my husband feel "yelled at," and he points it out to me. But I often have no idea that I'm yelling or even being loud until dh says something.
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 7/7/2009 12:05:28 PM
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W.O.F.
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When I am emotional about anything in either a good or a bad way, my voice tends to get louder and louder. It makes my husband feel "yelled at," and he points it out to me. But I often have no idea that I'm yelling or even being loud until dh says something.
My husband has often complained of me "yelling" at him when I have not raised the volume of my voice, but because of the attitude and tone of my voice....
I think if we take into account the person we are talking to, we come to a bigger realization of what getting yelled at means to different people.
To some...it literally means YELLING...to others it is talking meanly or sarcastically.
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 7/7/2009 12:16:35 PM
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My kids used to accuse me of yelling at them if they didn't like the subject matter. My answer was usually "This isn't yelling but if you'd like to hear yelling I can help you out"
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RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? - 7/7/2009 3:53:17 PM
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My kids used to accuse me of yelling at them if they didn't like the subject matter. My answer was usually "This isn't yelling but if you'd like to hear yelling I can help you out"
hee hee!
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