Do you Yell at your Husband? (Full Version)

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Do you Yell at your Husband?


Often
  1% (1)
Sometimes
  17% (9)
Rarely
  37% (19)
Never
  43% (22)


Total Votes : 51
(last vote on : 9/7/2009 10:24:38 AM)
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MowTin -> Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 1:37:19 AM)

I know women are emotional. I would like to get an idea of how often a typical Christian woman yells at her husband. I know it's not something people want to admit but I'm hoping for a little honesty here.

God Bless.



hnt -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 1:39:19 AM)

[:D] I'm sure I have yelled within the last 20 years! I'm not known for it, but I'm sure it has happened.



3cappuccinosmom -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 4:05:55 AM)

Rarely. And it's neither healthy nor Godly. So I admit it as a fault of mine, not something that should be normal.



BlessedMamaofmany -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 6:28:12 AM)

Not anymore...btdt.

We used to have a really unhealthy marriage, but it's much better now. I don't yell at him anymore. That doesn't mean I'm not snarky or snappy [:(] [&:]...but I don't yell at him anymore.



Sideways -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 8:19:11 AM)

I'm sure I have in the past, but it's a pretty rare event.



42servehymn -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 10:08:55 AM)

I wish I could say never but honestly maybe 2 or 3 times a year in the heat of an argument.



Auben -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 10:45:34 AM)

Hmmm....in the heat of a discussion I think both of us have slowly gotten louder (I would consider that yelling at its endpoint but not 'yelling at' him since we were both frustrated and not intentionally attacking the other...usually we realize we've gotten too loud and try to calm down a bit) but I don't think either of us has yelled at the other out of the blue unless it was down the stairs/across the yard/that kind of thing.



laura... -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 11:08:57 AM)

I put never. I have a bigger problem watching my tone of voice rather than volume.



artemis -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 11:11:50 AM)

No, but I don't yell at anyone unless it's to be heard over some kind of noise.



bolt. -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 11:12:20 AM)

It kind of depends whether "yell at" means (1) 'raise my voice in frustration during an argument/disagreement' or (2) 'use my words as a direct personal attack in a harsh critical blaming way (which may or may not actually get loud)'.

I do find myself caught up in (1) style 'yelling' from time to time, maybe 2 or 3 times every 2nd month... about the same time of month... hmmm. This is when I'm just so desperately frustrated that I want to be heard RIGHT NOW, so I get wound up and end up shouting, then crying, then feeling like a childish idiot, but still being frustrated over the original issue, but feeling like I've lost any credibility to address it.

Thank God for gracious husbands.

As for style (2) of 'yelling at' -- I'm sure it has happened, but it's maybe yearly, if that, and it is genuine attempt to hurt-back when I have been hurt or humiliated. This attempt to wound is never appropriate, and I do not tolerate it in myself.



PrincessDonna -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 11:12:22 AM)

Rarely, but I also have more trouble with my tone than with the volume.



W.O.F. -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 1:04:28 PM)

Define yelling....lol

You can YELL without being loud (tone) and you can be LOUD without YELLING.

I put sometimes....it is not often..and I wish it was never.

I probably yell at him 3 to 5 times a year....but to me...that qualifies as sometimes.

Rarely, for me, would be 1 to 2 times a year.

I wish it was never.


But I don't start out yelling at him...it is a progression to that point....and I am working on NOT doing it at all. You CAN be angry and not yell...and express yourself...so that is my goal.



a_sparrow -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 9:18:18 PM)

I am ashamed to admit that I raise my voice often when I am angry, or when I have been interrupted and am frustrated and want to continue speaking anyway. I realize it's not excusable and that it needs to stop. There have to be other ways to deal with marital conflict.



stellaluna -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 9:20:21 PM)

I never yell at my husband. I'm also rarely, if ever, emotional.



Mollymouser -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 9:33:53 PM)

He doesn't yell at me.
I don't yell at him.



dboe -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/23/2009 10:00:09 PM)

If I get really, really upset I may cry. I don't yell at him. I do yell at inanimate objects on occasions, especially plastic containers because I have alot of trouble opening them and this is frustrating to me (I think I have weak fine motor system or something)



Ps103 -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/24/2009 10:58:27 AM)

I don't like to yell--it hurts my throat. But I am also menopausal, so sometimes hormones overrule that[&:]

But Himself also knows that yelling isn't when I am dangerous--when I am truly angry I get really quiet. If you can't hear me--run!

(I do not think I have ever gotten so angry at him that he couldn't hear me, though. Although he has seen me that angry--it wasn't directed at him.)



crankius -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/24/2009 11:11:54 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Ps103
But Himself also knows that yelling isn't when I am dangerous--when I am truly angry I get really quiet. If you can't hear me--run!


Oh, me too! [sm=icon_smile_blush.gif]



Qtman -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/24/2009 11:13:28 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Ps103

I don't like to yell--it hurts my throat. But I am also menopausal, so sometimes hormones overrule that[&:]

But Himself also knows that yelling isn't when I am dangerous--when I am truly angry I get really quiet. If you can't hear me--run!

(I do not think I have ever gotten so angry at him that he couldn't hear me, though. Although he has seen me that angry--it wasn't directed at him.)


Maybe we are twins and got separated at birth. You just described how I am when I get mad. Not angry but mad.

BTW my wife does not post on here so I will answer for her. SHe nevers yells at me. We both refrain from raising our voices even in an argument. If one of us slips the other will let it be known.

Actually I agree with the one that said tone is worse than volume.

ETA Something I learned a long time ago. If you want someone to listen to what you have to say don't shout. Whisper. Try it it works.



crankius -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/24/2009 12:29:10 PM)

Qtman,

I want your happyplate at Lobster Hut.



Qtman -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/24/2009 12:31:01 PM)

You can have the plate. I'm through with it.[:D]



crankius -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/24/2009 12:33:55 PM)

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Homegrownkids -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/24/2009 12:34:56 PM)

I seldom yell at my husband, although I know I have a couple times in our almst 16 yrs of marriage because we have had a couple of doozy fights. I do, however, get a "tone" in my voice and this irritates me...I wish I didn't. It is the same tone that sometimes my child will use with me. I don't like it when they do it to me, so I usually feel "icky" if I use a "tone" with my Dh. It is usually more of a "I don't want to be bothered tone, leave me alone, can't you figure this out yourself, irritated, type of tone."



car2ner -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/24/2009 1:42:27 PM)

I don't yell "at" m'love although I have yelled "to" him. That is to be heard from a distance, not in anger. And sometimes I just speak louder than I should after so many many years of teaching and out door theater. [8D]

If I do get cranky, it is generally because I have too much going on to handle at once, atleast not well, so I use the stern tone of voice. That translates to , "if you think a playful tease is the way to make me smile right now, think again".



Hislittleone -> RE: Do you Yell at your Husband? (6/24/2009 1:53:06 PM)

I just asked my husband and he said I yell at him maybe every 3 months on average. He doesn't really remember though. How's that for "love keeps no record of wrongs"? [;)]

I checked "sometimes" on the poll. It's hard to say exactly but I'd guess it's every two to three months. I'll have to pay more attention. There's always room for improvement in this area since yelling in anger isn't ever a good idea. [sm=icon_smile_blush.gif]



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