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Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 12:40:09 AM
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IamLibertarian
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Okay, now this post may seem really shallow, but it's really not meant to be....and sorry if you think it is.
Being a 20 yr old male, who is a "reborn" Christian, I am finding it very difficult to find an attractive female who is also a Christian (that also has a good personality, obv.) that I would enjoy being with.
This question goes out to both men and women...How do you and where do you find Christian singles who are both attractive to you and have a good personality? Church is an obvious one (which unfortunately I cannot seem to get myself to go to....but that's another topic). Every Christian female I meet has not been attractive to me. Most of them could care less about how they look (which is great for them, but I enjoy beauty). I meet plenty of good looking non-Christian women, but not being Christians, their personalities just are not compatible with mine anymore.
Has anyone else ran into this problem?
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 12:52:25 AM
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I find MANY attractive Christian women....in church, lol.
But I am also one of those guys that, while yes, I have requirements, I think that the majority of women have some type of beauty in them, you just need to see it.
I was extremely unattractive when I was younger ( I hope I am not still considered that way), so I try to get to know women before I completely drop them...not that I am actively looking for a relationship right now anyways.
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 12:59:41 AM
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My "problem" is, is that in high school I was a narcissistic tool. I have tried to shed much of that, but I still feel it lingering over me when I look for a good girl to date. I put way too much emphasis on looks, and I realize that, but it is a hard thing to overcome.
Another thing i've realized, is that most of the attractive Christians I have met are already in serious relationships...And I dont want to break up a good Christian relationship just for my pleasure, so im pretty much stuck right now.
It seems as though I need to go to Church...lol.
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 3:03:58 AM
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I'm sorry tuck. I was trying to just be funny. But my post has too much of a smart aleck tone. I am deleting it.
< Message edited by willfs -- 6/29/2009 9:59:50 AM >
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 8:09:04 AM
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IamLibertarian
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Is that supposed to have some kind of hidden meaning? Are you assuming I sit at home all day 'hoping' for a beautiful Christian woman to walk into my home? Not quite understanding the intent of your post Willfs
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 10:34:17 AM
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I go to a seeker sensitive church where there's a lot of attractive people who claims they're Christians...however, the ones I've met have no problem sleeping around. So, while it's possible that they are genuine Christians, the maturity level in their walk with Christ makes them incompatible with me at this time.
I believe that you should be with someone whom you find attractive in every aspect of their being. My question always for myself is would someone's attractiveness prevent me from really seeing what's inside just as someone's unattractiveness would?
It takes maturity to know.
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 11:46:01 AM
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They exist. Perhaps you're not looking in enough random places, or you're not working hard enough on yourself, or God has some other reason for you to be single. It'd be interesting if there were "Christian bars" where they serve one drink per hour to each person, or soda, and you had to recite the Apostle's Creed or something to walk in the door... but then we might spend all our time there and never want to meet and minister to people out in the world who need our influence. Us single people have our work cut out for us, in ourselves and in the world.
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Regardless of mate potentials you should go to church...for your own benefit. Go there with your focus on God and you'll get so much out of it..but that's another topic altogether.
A man serving the Lord, is attractive.
Good luck, sir. 
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 1:52:05 PM
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FlamingFantods, your idea made me laugh, but only because it's true and we probably would spend all our time there.
PrarieHiker, I agree a person should be with another whom they find attractive in every sense of their being.
I guess I just need to go to church, and as Rebekahblam said, finding a 'mate' shouldnt be my only reason for going, but I think having the motivation to go for any reason is beneficial. Heck, once I'm there I might find I actually enjoy going every week.
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 2:05:10 PM
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FlamingFantods, your idea made me laugh, but only because it's true and we probably would spend all our time there.
PrarieHiker, I agree a person should be with another whom they find attractive in every sense of their being.
I guess I just need to go to church, and as Rebekahblam said, finding a 'mate' shouldnt be my only reason for going, but I think having the motivation to go for any reason is beneficial. Heck, once I'm there I might find I actually enjoy going every week.
Forgive me my boldness, but the bolded statement was cute! 
I always find that if the mountain won't come to Mohammed (or in my case, Tink) then Tink goes to the mountain...basically meaning if I want to meet a great Christian guy then I go to where I assume they're hanging out.
And for the record, all of us here go to church and while we aren't all beauty queens I don't think we're trolls so you may have some luck finding someone. 
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 4:05:35 PM
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FlamingFantods, your idea made me laugh, but only because it's true and we probably would spend all our time there.
PrarieHiker, I agree a person should be with another whom they find attractive in every sense of their being.
I guess I just need to go to church, and as Rebekahblam said, finding a 'mate' shouldnt be my only reason for going, but I think having the motivation to go for any reason is beneficial. Heck, once I'm there I might find I actually enjoy going every week.
Tuck, you are right, you need to go to church. But if you go, you go to seek a closer walk with God. Not to find a future wife. You may find that once you start going, you may very well find the future Mrs. Tuckonline. You know what I mean?
If you go to church, don't do it for any reason that walking closer with God.
There are other places you could meet Christian women, prairiehiker brought up Christian bookstores. But the main place to meet an eligible good God fearing young woman is at church.
Besides, most women I know will want a man who goes to church.
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 4:16:23 PM
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Besides, most women I know will want a man who goes to church.
Amen.
And for the reason you stated... because he wants to be there.... wants to assemble with his fellow believers.... wants to seek God corporately as well as privately... wants to be a better student of the Word....
because he wants to glorify God, to love Him and enjoy Him forever.
not merely in order to get a wife.
and not merely because it's what we're "supposed to do."
not out of duty. (although sometimes that's got to be the motivator to pry us up out from under the comforter and sheets on a Sunday morning... and when we obey God, He changes our feelings and attitudes. it's something like "act your way into feeling the right feelings about something.)
Make sense?
I agree with you completely.
My Pastor talked about this yesterday. There were a couple of guys who started coming to church just to find a wife. He talked to both of them and challenged them to change their motives. I don't know what happened, but it is safe to say that they don't attend our church anymore.
We are told to seek God first. Everything else will fall into place if we do.
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"Fear not for I am with you,
Do not be dismayed for I am your God,
I will strengthen you and help you,
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand"
http://followtheleader-mat1624.blogspot.com/
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 4:17:42 PM
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Amen.
And for the reason you stated... because he wants to be there.... wants to assemble with his fellow believers.... wants to seek God corporately as well as privately... wants to be a better student of the Word....
because he wants to glorify God, to love Him and enjoy Him forever.
not merely in order to get a wife.
and not merely because it's what we're "supposed to do."
not out of duty. (although sometimes that's got to be the motivator to pry us up out from under the comforter and sheets on a Sunday morning... and when we obey God, He changes our feelings and attitudes. it's something like "act your way into feeling the right feelings about something.)
Make sense?
I am a single guy - and let me tell ya, while there are many attractive Christian women at my church, the ones REALLY getting into the service, the ones you can SEE communing with God, those are the ones who's beauty sticks out in my memory the most
(Very good post Elena!)
I agree JHerr. A woman is so much more attractive when her love for the Lord is evident for all to see.
I suppose it is the same for women looking at men.
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Isaiah 41:10
"Fear not for I am with you,
Do not be dismayed for I am your God,
I will strengthen you and help you,
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand"
http://followtheleader-mat1624.blogspot.com/
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 4:19:28 PM
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Amen.
And for the reason you stated... because he wants to be there.... wants to assemble with his fellow believers.... wants to seek God corporately as well as privately... wants to be a better student of the Word....
because he wants to glorify God, to love Him and enjoy Him forever.
not merely in order to get a wife.
and not merely because it's what we're "supposed to do."
not out of duty. (although sometimes that's got to be the motivator to pry us up out from under the comforter and sheets on a Sunday morning... and when we obey God, He changes our feelings and attitudes. it's something like "act your way into feeling the right feelings about something.)
Make sense?
I am a single guy - and let me tell ya, while there are many attractive Christian women at my church, the ones REALLY getting into the service, the ones you can SEE communing with God, those are the ones who's beauty sticks out in my memory the most
(Very good post Elena!)
Thanks!
And yours reminds me that sometimes it's challenging not to think about someone's seeing you as you worship and about how the person might perceive you. It's a wondrous thing when God helps you get your mind totally off of yourself. I think it must be a discipline thing. Yes?
So... getting back to how this relates to the OP: you are pointing out what really makes us Christians attractive to one another, JHerr. And that's doing a good service unto your brethren and sistren here.
And probably launches another thread topic: the ways people radiate Christ during worship, fellowship, serving, helping, praying, etc.
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 4:23:02 PM
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Thanks!
And yours reminds me that sometimes it's challenging not to think about someone's seeing you as you worship and about how the person might perceive you. It's a wondrous thing when God helps you get your mind totally off of yourself. I think it must be a discipline thing. Yes?
So... getting back to how this relates to the OP: you are pointing out what really makes us Christians attractive to one another, JHerr. And that's doing a good service unto your brethren and sistren here.
And probably launches another thread topic: the ways people radiate Christ during worship, fellowship, serving, helping, praying, etc.
(Addressing the bold) the only time I worry what people might think, is when my sister's fiance is sitting next to me, he is EXTREMELY distracting, lol. I've been sitting on the other side of the room as of late. Different view, different perspective. And ya know what? I think I may just start that thread up!
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 4:35:30 PM
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appearances, no matter what they are, are only a sliver of a person's character and why it's so important to get to know someone before getting too deep.
Excellent point, Tink!
I hope that's what my post above conveyed.
The observation of a person is far more than how he or she participates in the worship service.
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 4:38:41 PM
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I guess I'm a little skeptical when it comes to evaluating someone's faith by the way they "serve in church, worship in church". I found that too many of the volunteers in our church are there for social activities and not primarily to devote that special time worshipping the Lord. Granted that our whole life, and what we do with it should serve as our worship but there are really a lot in our church who has no clue who Jesus is, but can serve people very well. Again, I say it's just in my church. I even met a girl who came there the first time being on fire for God, and met with the admin within a week because she wanted to serve in the church. But when I found out about her lifestyle, it seemed she wanted to serve in the church during Sunday, but had no desire to serve God during the rest of the week.
So, that's just me, and I'm using the examples of what I've observed in my church, which is seeker sensitive, or friendly.
What I find attractive in a man is someone who really really studies his bible and listens to a lot of preaching from respected preachers, as well as read a lot of books to study about his faith. That would make my heart melt. He doesn't even need to go to church regularly, but as long as he ministers to people in some way, and his life serves as a witness for Christ, he would make definitely catch my attention.
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Search me, Oh God, and know my heart
Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me, and
Lead me in the way everlasting Psalm 139:22-24
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RE: Good Looking Christian Women/Men - 6/29/2009 9:01:16 PM
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Posting blind here ......
Sometimes a woman does not want to attract a man because of her looks. If he can't appreciate who she is as a person, she doesn't want to be bothered with him if it's the looks he's after. If a man is attracted to her, who she really is without all the bling (whether it be dressing a certain way, wearing her hair a certain way ... whatever), why would she want him? If he's interested in her for who she is, chances are she will shine for him.
I may be alone in my opinion, someone else may have addressed this, don't know, but I can't be bothered with a man whose primary interest is physical looks. It seems pretty shallow to me.
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