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RE: Relationship with pastor - 7/6/2009 7:07:38 PM
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psalm100
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I can understand the point of view of finding a female to talk to. You have to be careful not to offend the pastor's wife. That was one of my concerns as well.
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RE: Relationship with pastor - 7/7/2009 2:08:21 AM
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I think it's great to have a relationship with the pastor. It doesn't have to be a counseling session--just get to know him a bit. Having a conversation with him doesn't mean you have to bare your soul to him, especially not the first time you talk to him. Pastors want to get to know their parishioners--it's hard to know how to take care of your flock if they are strangers to you. Maybe you could invite the pastor and his family over for dinner sometime? It's a great way to have light conversation and start to develop a friendship.
Exactly. This is I had a relationship with my last Pastor.
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RE: Relationship with pastor - 7/7/2009 7:50:19 AM
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makarizo
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imo....a small church pastor should seek out a relationship with all the members.
in a large church, that is not as easy. and a pastor might need to delegate a little bit.
I just left a large church, .... i was in the choir, taught 4th grade sunday school, helped lead a small group, made myself available wherever I could. and when something happened that I needed to talk to the pastor about, I sent him an email, which he forwarded to the youth pastor, a very young man whom I see every sunday when I go to teach sunday school.... perhaps I should have just spoke with the boy,... i let jon know that I wanted to talk to jim about this matter, he understood... so I sent another email to pastor jim to let him know that i wanted to speak to him... he never read the email because as soon as I sent it, it was returned with a message informing that that I was blocked.
I sent another one... just to check, and sure enough pastor jim blocked me from his email list.
I told a friend (one of the elders) who told me that the pastor blocked people all the time... her gets 1000's of emails a week and cannot handle all of them. He said I should try to understand that it is just that way in a large church, and I can either take it, or leave it.
so I left.
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RE: Relationship with pastor - 7/7/2009 8:17:37 AM
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AlwaysR8chel
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..... I think that's the conundrum about being a pastor of a large church.
If I'm not mistaken, the last count of your church was 3,000.....
I can't even imagine being responsible for such a large group of people, although I'm sure there are better ways to handle needs....
It's too bad you let a disappointment drive you away....
My church is soooo small. The pastor makes time for anybody who needs help or attention.... funny that I'd rather not talk to him! 
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RE: Relationship with pastor - 7/7/2009 1:25:45 PM
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We are a rather small church; we will be there two years in September. I have been to almost every person’s home that attends, with just a few exceptions. We, my wife and I, are invited to all types of functions, birthdays and anniversaries to just family cookouts.
We visit the sick, sit with the family during surgeries, help people move, bury the dead, whatever we are asked and some we are not asked.
I get a call from someone almost every week for prayer or council in some way.
I can’t imagine being a Pastor and not building a relationship with the congregation.
I would hope that those in the congregation would feel comfortable approaching either myself or my wife about anything.
Perhaps the OP should approach her “new” Pastor and give him a chance; even your “old” Pastor gave you this council.
I have no idea how a “mega church” operates, I have not been called to minister at one.
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RE: Relationship with pastor - 7/8/2009 5:07:07 PM
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7wins
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Required, No. That is control that extends far beyond scripture. You should have relationships with mature believers that are working to present you complete in Christ even as you do likewise in the lives of others. A pastor is not the king of the local body. As one has already stated, the word is rightly translated shepherd.
Further, it is not possible for one man to disciple (we can define that word if needed) every member of a local body. Every member would suffer if that was the case. A pastor who expects that has too high a view of himself and too low a view of God.
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RE: Relationship with pastor - 7/16/2009 8:19:35 PM
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just4prz
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So you are there for what? Why would you be in a ministry if can't go up the pastor and at least be cordial? ( I know you have no reason not be cordial) Maybe the things you are talking to your former pastor about feel like that since you are no longer a part her ministry that you should get your advice from the one that you are now under. Why don't you have a desire to talk to your current pastor? No harm intended--but if you don't then you don't. But for me I would not be in a ministry that I have no desire to talk to the pastor. What if you can't get the former pastor? I don't think you made the wrong move, God does things for reasons we don't sometimes understand right away. In the long run you'll understand.
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