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Difficult issue (movie related) - 7/19/2009 6:20:37 PM
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stateofgrace
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This is a very difficult issue, one that I ran into this weekend. I'm wondering what other people think.
My younger daughter and I were in a theater watching a popular new release movie. And even though it was an early matinee, the theater was almost full.
The movie gets to a quiet point, and we hear someone yelling in the theater. A few minutes later, the same thing happens.
This happens off and on through the entire movie.
After it happens a few times, I figure out that this person likely has Tourette's.
I never considered this before, but what is the balance between the rights of a person with uncontrolled Tourette's Syndrome to enjoy a movie like everyone else, and the rights of the other moviegoers to enjoy the movie without that distraction?
My older daughter thought I was pretty heartless to suggest that it wasn't fair to the other moviegoers.
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RE: Difficult issue (movie related) - 7/20/2009 12:19:18 AM
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I would agree with Stellaluna as well, although add that the person probably went to the early showing believing that they wouldn't distract as many people as an evening showing.
I get really heated myself when people are stupidly noisy and disruptive, but if there is a medical reason I try and be understanding. If it gets to be more disruptive as the movie goes along, I would simply leave, talk to the manager, get either my money back or a voucher, and return another time.
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RE: Difficult issue (movie related) - 7/21/2009 11:55:28 AM
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stateofgrace
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I was thinking about this some more last night (and BTW, thanks everyone for being civil in this conversation - I don't know the "right" answer myself - I don't know if there is a "right" answer that ends up being fair to everyone). So here's a couple of other things to throw out.
If a parent has a young child who has difficulty controlling themselves vocally (such as a baby or young toddler), don't people tend to expect that the parent will remove the child if they become overly vocal?
If a person with Tourette's has other physical challenges, it may be even more distracting for a companion to assist them in leaving than it is for the person to stay.
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RE: Difficult issue (movie related) - 7/21/2009 12:07:12 PM
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Have you seen the HBO documentary on children with Tourette's? They are constantly made fun of, and asked the imbecilic question..."Can't you just stop?"
I think there is a right answer. And that answer is to deal with it. I don't mean that to sound harsh, but if it was your child...would you want to deprive them of the joys of childhood because you're afraid of interrupting someone else's movie? You would want to give them the most normal life they could have. And that includes seeing movies in a theater like other children. It does seem a bit selfish and graceless to expect children or adults who possibly have Tourette's not to interrupt your movie. They have a hard enough life as it is. Taking away simple pleasures like this so you won't be bothered is a bit ridiculous. It's just two hours of your life. It's everyday for them.
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RE: Difficult issue (movie related) - 7/21/2009 7:49:40 PM
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My son has Asperger's syndrome, bipolar disorder, reactive attachment disorder, and mild MR. He is quite often a very annoying individual, but we do take him to movies at times. He doesn't talk throughout the whole movie like he would at home, but he sometimes cannot help making comments. We try to keep him as quiet as possible, and I don't think he annoys others very much. If we didn't go with him, we wouldn't be able to go at all, as there is absolutely no one who will watch him for us.
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RE: Difficult issue (movie related) - 7/22/2009 5:19:11 AM
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stateofgrace
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Everythingat,
Yes, I did see that documentary. It was very good. Knowing about Tourette's meant that I understood what might be going on with that person. It didn't stop their actions from being a distraction, even though it was unintentional on their part.
I can't say how I'd totally feel as the parent of a Tourette's kid. I suspect I'd feel many things. As a young, less experienced parent, I'd likely feel like other people might be judging me when my kid displayed "inappropriate" behavior (just as I did when my daughter with Bipolar melted down in public as a child).I think I would also be sensitive to situations where my child would be highly distracting to other people. I'd be my child's strongest advocate (just as I was with my child) but I'd try and balance out being my child's advocate and being considerate of others. So, and others may well disagree, but I think I would make the hard call to not bring a child with severe Tourette's to the movies.
I'm sure that it stinks to be a person with Tourette's and know that people don't understand why you are behaving as you do. I'm sure it stinks as a parent to feel like you have to tell your child "no" or deprive them of something due to their special circumstances. Been there, done that, although not in this context.
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RE: Difficult issue (movie related) - 7/29/2009 1:07:57 AM
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I think parents should wait for the dvd rather than disrupt everyone else's
movie and if they really want their child not to miss those early years of going with mom and dad to see a movie, than they should seek out a movie and a time that would be more appropriate like when only a few people would be there say like early afternoon mid week. I have been to several movies at that time and the theaters are usually very empty and besides their are a lot of other things do do besides see movies.
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