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RE: BIG Dilemma, can you give me your thoughts please...! - 10/13/2009 5:17:05 PM
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Krislynx
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My SIL held down a job as a social worker for years as an alcoholic. She worked around people all the time and drank on the job and still got away with it.
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RE: BIG Dilemma, can you give me your thoughts please...! - 10/13/2009 5:46:01 PM
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thethinker
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All these 'Off-Liners' who manage to appear on-line! Why so shy?! Anyway, thanx 4 your personal experiences on alcoholism. Just hope God won't give me 'what- for' when I meet him (unfortunately I think it's a given!  )
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RE: BIG Dilemma, can you give me your thoughts please...! - 11/21/2009 5:54:48 PM
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thethinker
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I feel like Alcoholism is the modern day Leprosy.
People are lucky if they can have a few drinks or even get drunk but not be addicted to it.
Woe betide anyone who can't stop it though.
Christian compassion is decidedly lacking for people with this affliction/disease/inherited gene... 
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RE: BIG Dilemma, can you give me your thoughts please...! - 11/21/2009 6:18:55 PM
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thethinker
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To most people, it seems to blight the whole person's character, and people seem to be blind to the goodness within them, to write them off as no-hopers.
Many famous/talented people have been alcoholics, ie poets, etc. It seems to be an unfortunate side to their creative genius.
Why do people who profess to be Christians ignore the very people Jesus was out to help/save the most? At the Christian venues I attend the doors are locked on these people.
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RE: BIG Dilemma, can you give me your thoughts please...! - 11/21/2009 7:22:51 PM
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Here's my opinion, he might be a great guy, he might not be a great guy, he might even be a (insert profanity here) guy; I have no idea. But if you do want him in your daughters life; which is fair enough (my kids' dad was a good guy; he left me because i told him he could so he could have a career, and I am not sure whether I want him in their lives) the issue is how you will go about it. Before you approach him, I would first talk to a social worker, do you have contact centres where you live? They are places where fathers and kids can meet but will be supervised. That may be ideal. That way he can't take her away, and you can know how things are going.
You may have to prepare yourself that he might not want him in his life, or your daughter might not. And if they do, he might have a case for joint custody; I have known people who have become the weekend parent after caring full time for their child for years.
I don't know if this man is a sign or not, but the fact you are spending so much time thinking about it is a good thing. Your daughter is the centre of your world, like she should be.
My opinion on drinking: when I drink it's like I am a different person, I turn into this painfully honest, loud, promiscuous person; and I get myself into trouble. So I don't drink, haven't in many years. I believe that if people really want to stop, they can. Alcohol is so much less addictive that heroin, and people are able to give that up... just my opinion.
I am sure you are a great mother, I am a single parent too and can understant the ambivalence I feel towards their father.
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RE: BIG Dilemma, can you give me your thoughts please...! - 11/21/2009 7:24:55 PM
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silent12
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My opinions on why people who are addicted are often treated so badly (other than I think they could give up if they tried hard enough). Their not really asking for help, I think if an addict turned up at a church and said, I want to give up, that they would offer help.
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RE: BIG Dilemma, can you give me your thoughts please...! - 11/21/2009 7:54:53 PM
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silent12
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I have heard of churches which have the christian versions of aa meetings too, I met a guy who did went to a church every night and did that. He used to go to local churches and help addicts recover; he is a great man and he said that he advertises his classes but so many of the people who turn up don't want to stop, they just want people to think they do.
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