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how did you know - 10/16/2009 11:09:25 AM
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Prairiehiker
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...that you love your boyfriend/girlfriend (which are now your husband/wife)/
---how did you know you wanted to marry him/her?
...How much did your feelings play a factor in choosing this person to spend the rest of your life with?
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Lead me in the way everlasting Psalm 139:22-24
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RE: how did you know - 10/16/2009 11:20:58 AM
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Dear friends
I want to do a married for working the GOD. I need love and suport in my life. I have writing havit.
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Nur
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RE: how did you know - 10/16/2009 11:25:17 AM
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crankius
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I'm a person who puts my feelings aside until my intellect is okay with things...then I let my feelings get involved.
I had known him for probably six months before we started seeing each other. I knew he was a believer, diligent in his studies, very smart, reserved, careful, and I had observed his funny wit. I had determined that he was a quality person. As we started to meet for coffee and get to know one another, he was practicing a piano piece for a recital, a duet with his piano teacher (the piece was Rhapsody in Blue). He would practice in the piano practice rooms at the college we attended. I went with him one evening and sat on the floor listening and watching him play, and I thought to myself, "This is quite a guy." 
We dated for over 3 years. I can remember pondering a lot on whether I should marry him, whether we were a good match. I didn't have parents or other family to guide me so I prayed a lot and looked to the Lord. Nothing too romantic about my decision to marry him, sorry! 
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RE: how did you know - 10/16/2009 11:58:20 AM
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Welll I met my second husband on the internet on a Christian dating site, and as soon as I read his profile I knew that there was something very special about him. Nothing very speciific but just that sort of 'feeling' inside (could it have been The Holy Spirit?)
2 days after I e-mailed him (and he had replied and we had sent each other loads of e-mails over those 2 days),I was 90% sure he was 'The one'(yes and we hadnt even spoken on the phone by then)
2 days after I first contacted him we spoke on the phone, and that just confirmed what I already knew AND 2 DAYS AFTER THAT.we met and after that I knew 100% that he was the one God had found for me. so that is 5 days after my first contact. Quick I know but we married 9 months after that day and here we are 4 years later and so happy together.
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RE: how did you know - 10/16/2009 12:37:54 PM
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quote:
ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker
...that you love your boyfriend/girlfriend (which are now your husband/wife)/
---how did you know you wanted to marry him/her?
...How much did your feelings play a factor in choosing this person to spend the rest of your life with?
We were in college, I thought she was pretty, I approached her and we talked. We started out as "friends", I was interested in a deeper relationship, and it developed into BF/GF.
After dating for almost a year we were seeing each other exclusively, it felt right. She had good prospects for a great career in teaching, my business was growing, and it seemed we fit.
Gut feelings, a lot. I still listen to my gut feelings when making important business decisions... rarely am I wrong when I listen to the quite voices screaming from inside.
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RE: how did you know - 10/16/2009 2:53:01 PM
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My hubby ran through a 'checklist' before he considered asking me out, so he was pretty sure that in all areas he considered 'essential', that we were compatible. I didn't have a list as such, but just one or two really important points that I considered non-negotiable, and he met those criteria.
So after that, and after chatting for ages after church services, he asked me out on a date.
He said he knew I was the one on our very first date. I took a bit longer to catch up with him on that score...it took me three weeks, lol!
We were engaged five and a bit weeks after our first date, and married three and a half months after that.
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RE: how did you know - 10/19/2009 11:25:05 PM
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ORIGINAL: crankius
I'm a person who puts my feelings aside until my intellect is okay with things...then I let my feelings get involved.
This is so wise.
We know we can't marry a nonChristian... or a person of the same sex... or an Orangutan. We need to be fairly mature in our faith, trained somewhat at least and ready to marry, healthy enough to marry, and teachable. If these aren't present, no marriage.
Then if you're emotionally compatable, both can marry and want to, then I'd say that person is probably God's will for you. 
The idea is that we're free to marry, and if there isn't a good reason to say no, then say yes if you want to.
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...that you love your boyfriend/girlfriend (which are now your husband/wife)/
I cared about him and his interests. It wasn't a passionate love but caring for another person and good friend.
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---how did you know you wanted to marry him/her?
He asked me to, and I knew he was good marriage material and we got along great and I liked the idea of spending the rest of my life with him. As you can see, his proposal caught me off guard because I wasn't expecting it. But it didn't take me long to think it through.
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...How much did your feelings play a factor in choosing this person to spend the rest of your life with?
It was the last thing on the check list. If he hadn't passed the other parts of the check list, then the feelings would have meant nothing in my decision.
We've been married over two decades now, and are more in love than ever!
May it be so with you, dear Sister!
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RE: how did you know - 10/21/2009 1:01:38 AM
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...that you love your boyfriend/girlfriend (which are now your husband/wife)?
---how did you know you wanted to marry him/her?
...How much did your feelings play a factor in choosing this person to spend the rest of your life with?
1) I have to admit that I had an artificial type of love. The kind that's too prevalent in our carnal/fleshly "love" saturated world. I really think I was more infatuated than the type of love God demonstrates us to have.
2) Considering he proposed to me while I was in my chemically altered state (dopamine and norepinephren), I said yes.
3) My feelings had a huge factor in the reason we got married. Then again, I was 18 and thought I knew everything there was to know about the world and love. HA! Little did I really know...
But I am glad to report that God has really opened my eyes to see what the real definition of love and marriage is. And I am truly blessed that the Lord has given me a husband inspite of all my flaws and failures. I am definitely a work in progress.
< Message edited by Liv4Him06 -- 10/21/2009 1:54:00 AM >
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