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ORIGINAL: herestoresmysoul

I do think that God recognises divorce and marriage as being just that. HOWEVER, we do reap what we sow, and they have sown pain, betrayal and breaking their previous marriage covenants. They both did this knowing full well that they were disobeying God.I seem to remember you saying that she knew it was wrong but that once she was remarried she would say sorry to God and He would forgive her.THAT is NOT true repentance in my opinion.They may be in a marriage covenant but that does not mean that God will bless them.God does not bless anyone purely becuase they are married. God besses us when we live life His way.

A marriage started in adultery, isnt starting on a good basis and they will need to totally and absolutely repent of all that they did, and that will include repenting to you and to his ex wife and to all of the children involved.

I find it hard to believe that so many Christians (and even pastors)are telling her this knowing the circumstances, I think she is grossly exaggerating, and why is she telling you this anyway?Its a very mean thing to do.Try not to talk to her about any of this.No pastor who I know would say anythng of the sort.
Stay away from her as much as possible, and dont talk about any of ths with her.I think she is trying to make herself feel less guilty by saying this to you, and its trying to make herself think that what she did is Ok when she knows that it isnt.

I thnk it is unlikely that this marriage will last, but as for you, you do need, for your own sake, to forgive them.One thing that has helped me and others who I have told it to is this. When we forgive, we are not letting them off the hook, we are taking them off our hook and putting them onto Gods hook for Him to deal with.
It may take time, forgiveness is a process, but it will only harm you if you dont, and will prevent God from working in them.

There almost certainly will be repurcussions as marriages started in this way with adultery and betrayal have a very very high failure rate, but dont pray for that to happen.
Just concentrate on your part. God Bless

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ORIGINAL: SurpassingPeace

My personal story is that I was married when I was either backslidden or had not truly given myself to Christ. (I believed but would not turn my life over.) We were divorced. Years later I married my husband and we both dedicated our lives to Christ. Our marriage has been greatly blessed. Now, there are many things I still have to deal with because of my past sin. Not just a first marriage but many other things I had done dishonoring God. But through true and deep repentence God has enabled us to deal with these things and we are growing in Him each day. He has bless our family. We now have two little ones.

So, will God bless you ex's marriage? I don't know. He has blessed mine. Thankfully, He has mercy on me that I did not deserve.

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ORIGINAL: Harvie

dksitecivil ... I am far more concerned about when and how God will be blessing YOU -- and that's the focus of my prayers.

You've been betrayed.
You've been hurt.
You need healing and grace and the Lord's peace that passes all understanding.

May God richly bless YOU.

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ORIGINAL: herestoresmysoul

I do think that God recognises divorce and marriage as being just that. HOWEVER, we do reap what we sow, and they have sown pain, betrayal and breaking their previous marriage covenants. They both did this knowing full well that they were disobeying God.I seem to remember you saying that she knew it was wrong but that once she was remarried she would say sorry to God and He would forgive her.THAT is NOT true repentance in my opinion.

A marriage started in adultery, isnt starting on a good basis and they will need to totally and absolutely repent of all that they did., and that will include repenting to you and to his ex wife and to all of the children involved.

I find it hard to believe that so many Christians are telling her this knowing the circumstances, I think she is grossly exaggerating, and why is she telling you this anyway?Its a very mean thing to do.Try not to talk to her about any of this.
Stay away from her as umuch as possible.
I thnk it is unlikely that this marriage will last but as for you, you do need, for your own sake, to forgive them.One thing that has helped me and others who I have told it to is this. When we forgive, we are not letting them off the hook, we are taking them off our hook and putting them onto Gods hook for Him to deal with.
It may take time, forgiveness is a process, but it wil only harm you if you dont, and will prevent God from working in them.

There almost certainly will be repurcussions as marriages started in this way with adultery and betrayal have a very very high failure rate, but dont pray for that to happen.
Just concentrate on your part. God Bless

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ORIGINAL: herestoresmysoul

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ORIGINAL: SurpassingPeace

My personal story is that I was married when I was either backslidden or had not truly given myself to Christ. (I believed but would not turn my life over.) We were divorced. Years later I married my husband and we both dedicated our lives to Christ. Our marriage has been greatly blessed. Now, there are many things I still have to deal with because of my past sin. Not just a first marriage but many other things I had done dishonoring God. But through true and deep repentence God has enabled us to deal with these things and we are growing in Him each day. He has bless our family. We now have two little ones.

So, will God bless you ex's marriage? I don't know. He has blessed mine. Thankfully, He has mercy on me that I did not deserve.

Lovely story surpassing peace. Its so good what God can do isnt it. I love stories of healing and hope. I have a great one of my own.

DK's story is different though in that his wife is a committed christian who knew full well that she was wrong and was seriously sinning but did it anyway. She also divorced her husband to marry another which is forbidden in the Bible. I believe that she can be forgiven after true repentance, but repentance isnt doing something, and telling your soon to be ex that it is OK becuase when they are divorced and she is remarried she will just ask God to forgive her and everything will be fine.God isnt stupid.

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ORIGINAL: dksitecivil

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ORIGINAL: herestoresmysoul

I do think that God recognises divorce and marriage as being just that. HOWEVER, we do reap what we sow, and they have sown pain, betrayal and breaking their previous marriage covenants. They both did this knowing full well that they were disobeying God.I seem to remember you saying that she knew it was wrong but that once she was remarried she would say sorry to God and He would forgive her.THAT is NOT true repentance in my opinion.

A marriage started in adultery, isnt starting on a good basis and they will need to totally and absolutely repent of all that they did., and that will include repenting to you and to his ex wife and to all of the children involved.

I find it hard to believe that so many Christians are telling her this knowing the circumstances, I think she is grossly exaggerating, and why is she telling you this anyway?Its a very mean thing to do.Try not to talk to her about any of this.
Stay away from her as umuch as possible.
I thnk it is unlikely that this marriage will last but as for you, you do need, for your own sake, to forgive them.One thing that has helped me and others who I have told it to is this. When we forgive, we are not letting them off the hook, we are taking them off our hook and putting them onto Gods hook for Him to deal with.
It may take time, forgiveness is a process, but it wil only harm you if you dont, and will prevent God from working in them.

There almost certainly will be repurcussions as marriages started in this way with adultery and betrayal have a very very high failure rate, but dont pray for that to happen.
Just concentrate on your part. God Bless

You have a good memory! Yes she now believes that all is good now that they have divorced their spouses and married each other (ie; no longer living in sin). I am trying to do my part and praise God even in the storm, and pray to forgive them both. Thank you and God Bless!

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ORIGINAL: herestoresmysoul

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ORIGINAL: dksitecivil

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ORIGINAL: herestoresmysoul

I do think that God recognises divorce and marriage as being just that. HOWEVER, we do reap what we sow, and they have sown pain, betrayal and breaking their previous marriage covenants. They both did this knowing full well that they were disobeying God.I seem to remember you saying that she knew it was wrong but that once she was remarried she would say sorry to God and He would forgive her.THAT is NOT true repentance in my opinion.

A marriage started in adultery, isnt starting on a good basis and they will need to totally and absolutely repent of all that they did., and that will include repenting to you and to his ex wife and to all of the children involved.

I find it hard to believe that so many Christians are telling her this knowing the circumstances, I think she is grossly exaggerating, and why is she telling you this anyway?Its a very mean thing to do.Try not to talk to her about any of this.
Stay away from her as umuch as possible.
I thnk it is unlikely that this marriage will last but as for you, you do need, for your own sake, to forgive them.One thing that has helped me and others who I have told it to is this. When we forgive, we are not letting them off the hook, we are taking them off our hook and putting them onto Gods hook for Him to deal with.
It may take time, forgiveness is a process, but it wil only harm you if you dont, and will prevent God from working in them.

There almost certainly will be repurcussions as marriages started in this way with adultery and betrayal have a very very high failure rate, but dont pray for that to happen.
Just concentrate on your part. God Bless

You have a good memory! Yes she now believes that all is good now that they have divorced their spouses and married each other (ie; no longer living in sin). I am trying to do my part and praise God even in the storm, and pray to forgive them both. Thank you and God Bless!

You have had 2 massive losses this year, so be knd to yourself. I pray that a job will come along very soon for you, as that will help both financially and in that you will be busy and out meeting people etc.
Are your church family helping you?
Leave them to God He has his ways of getting peoples attention. We arent able to forgive on our own, we do need Him to help us.
I once heard a women whose husband had left her say that the first step towards forgiving this man, was when she said to God that she was willing to be willing to forgive. Maybe that is the first step for you that you tell God that you are willing to be willing to forgive.He understands what such a betrayal is like and He feels your pain with you. He is FOR you and He will get you through this to a better and brighter future. That may not be much help right now, but you will come out into a brighter place and I for one think you are doing really well.

God Bless.