|
|
|
|
|
Users viewing this topic:
none
|
|
Login  | |
|
Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/6/2009 6:04:53 PM
|
|
|
PinkCarnations
Posts: 10801
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: a_sparrow
We are driving to Palm Springs tomorrow to see a comedian dh has hired perform. Long drive, and I'm tired, probably because I've increased my meds to the full prescribed dosage again, but I agreed to the trip.
I don't like long trips too much anymore either.
quote:
Still overwhelmed, but I find that every time I accomplish something on the long list of things to be done, I feel slightly more in control.
I get that way too.
quote:
I hope everyone has as good a day as possible.
I just finally admitted that I am in no way, shape or form able to go to a high school football game that I've wanted to attend for a long, long, long time.
quote:
ORIGINAL: Harvie
quote:
ORIGINAL: IwillseekHim
Harvie, I think you're the poster who has spoke about your husband and him flying a plane in Florida. Does he spend alot of time away from home? Just curious. Is it something that after awhile you just get use to?
He does spend a lot of time away from home. We've been married just over 6 years and we've been through 6 deployments, so far. (He's done a stint in Bogota, Colombia as well as Iraq -- again and again and again.) Even when he's "home" (as in, not deployed overseas), he can spend a lot of time gone ... and even when he's not out of town, he often works long days with unpredictable hours and no specifically-assigned days off. Right now, we're waiting to hear when he has to report to Florida (and for how long .... it could be anywhere between 60 and 120+ days).
I haven't gotten used to it yet.
I don't know if I'd be able to get used to that.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/6/2009 6:41:18 PM
|
|
|
IwillseekHim
Posts: 1778
Joined: 5/17/2009
Status: online
|
Harvie, that's got to be tough.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/6/2009 10:15:57 PM
|
|
|
manda59
Posts: 8208
Joined: 9/22/2005
From: Hampshire, UK
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: PinkCarnations
quote:
I work part-time as an examinations invigilator at the local high school (get the exam room ready, give out papers, watch the students, collect the papers etc), which suits me as I'm only needed in November, January, March, May and June. I find it tiring but know it won't be for too long.
Did you start back this week?
Yes, I have just one morning's work this week, and three mornings' work next week.
quote:
Glad you're feeling better. What's wrong with taking a two hour nap when you need it?
I normally have a nap each day anyway. The two hours was on top of that. It's just not doable to spend 3-4 hours a day asleep. Apart from the not getting enough done/getting behind with things, it means I don't sleep well the following night. I am a night owl anyway, and am fine staying up till 1 or 2am, but sleeping extra in the day can mean I am still wide awake at 3 or 4am, and that's not on if I have to be up again just after 7am.
Right now, it's 3.20am and I am wide awake, more awake than I am in the mornings. Thankfully it's Saturday tomorrow so I can sleep in, so it's not too bad, but in the week it doesn't work well at all.
_____________________________
"Manda.....you said what I tried to say, just much better"
sharonjef, October 2009
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/6/2009 10:19:56 PM
|
|
|
MyCatSmokey2006
Posts: 3457
Joined: 11/10/2006
From: where God wants me to be
Status: offline
|
I'm doing better tonight. I'm washing my bedding because Smokey left me a little present on my bed. (hairball). 
I had to set a boundary today and I'm glad about it. Because I'd forgotten to take my bedtime meds last night, I was a little manicky this morning, so I took a PRN (as needed) Risperdal, as well as the tramadol for the pain in my mouth. Later, my elderly relative wanted me to fill up the gas cans, so he could fill up the mowers. I told him that I couldn't do it, because of the medication I took. My other relative, who's been battling severe pain, couldn't do it either. He said that he would do it himself! 
Well, I went into the house and told my relative what he told me. She suggested that since it'd been more than six hours since I'd taken either med, it would be better for me to go get the gas, rather than my elderly relative driving himself there. I told her that the medicine makes me groggy and lightheaded and I wasn't about to risk losing my driver's license for driving under the influence of prescription medications.
I went and called a friend, who always helps us out in times like this and she came right over. I gave her the money and cans and she filled them for us. I'm glad we have such good family friends, because the thought of my elderly relative driving anywhere, especially to the gas station, just gives me a creepy feeling. Unfortunately, his kids tried to take the keys from him, but that just made him more angry, so we make it a point to either drive him somewhere or get something for him. When we cannot do it, I'm thankful that we have other family or friends that are available to help.
< Message edited by MyCatSmokey2006 -- 11/6/2009 10:26:15 PM >
_____________________________
Melissa with the 
MyCatSmokey's Random Thoughts
Comment on my blog at My Cat Post
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/6/2009 10:33:00 PM
|
|
|
manda59
Posts: 8208
Joined: 9/22/2005
From: Hampshire, UK
Status: offline
|
Oh ok, thanks for telling me. I've never had a root canal done - I was offered one once, but had an extraction instead as the root canal only had a 50/50 chance of succeeding.
Hope it feels better soon.
_____________________________
"Manda.....you said what I tried to say, just much better"
sharonjef, October 2009
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/6/2009 11:13:07 PM
|
|
|
magdaleine
Posts: 4859
Joined: 4/11/2005
Status: online
|
Harvie, I can't imagine what this must be doing to your marriage. It's got to be so difficult for both of you.
Melissa-with-cat, congratulations on maintaining that boundary! Well done!
I've been fighting with trying to get my palm data transfered to Outlook so I can get it onto my new phone. I haven't found the way yet, except to enter by hand. I have close to 800 contacts, over 1000 memos and tons of other stuff. I can't do it by hand.
I was really peeved with this when dh and I went for counselling and there my anger grew greater. I think I'm caught in the place of thinking that dh has to prove himself to me before I will trust him or take down my walls. I'm not sure I want to. I've been in a foul mood all night and I'm not even sure I want to give up the anger.
_____________________________
Maggie
Civility Pledge
Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/7/2009 8:54:57 AM
|
|
|
humbleinspirit
Posts: 16732
Joined: 4/13/2005
From: Just Outside of Boston
Status: offline
|
Good Morning Everyone!
quote:
ORIGINAL: magdaleine
quote:
Hi Roberta, is there a support group in your area? I go to one now and it has been a big help for the most part. Mike, I remember when you didn't think you'd ever go to something like that. I'm glad it's been helping you.
Really Maggie, I said that? It must have been a real long while ago now.
quote:
quote:
I also find it hard to de-stress after a long day at work. It was suggested to me last week that I want to consider taking a Yoga class. Has anyone else done this at all? What do you all do to relax after being stressed also? I would advise against yoga. Part of the practice of yoga is the Eastern philosophy/religion. In any list that I've encountered about ways one might participate in the occult, yoga is included. You risk allowing demonic strongholds to built in or around you. Find something else. Get a membership to a gym or a spa. Soaking in a whirlpool would help you destress. {{{{{{Mike}}}}}}
Ok, what about a stretching class or um, a ballet class instead? Just wondering.
quote:
quote:
I like to journal. First off I usually journal about whatever I'm stressing about the most. Then I journal praises/prayer requests. Sometimes I just try to spend time alone with God and listen to what He has to say That's awesome, Roberta! Good idea! Good for you!
quote:
The night before I had my anxiety attack last week, I had gone to my support group the night before. They could all tell that I was quite tapped out!
I do go to a Bible Study too, which helps me also.
I have regular individual counseling appointments too. Wow, Mike! You've been getting really involved with things. That is so awesome! I remember when you had no contacts with anyone except here online and at work. I'm so pleased with what's happening in your life.
Thank you Maggie, it has been part me and part God, ok, it has been mostly Jesus! 
quote:
I'm not conscious of any but then as he continued to talk, I thought about the generational history of suicide and mental illness--my dad killed himself, my step-brother killed himself, my sister killed herself. I myself have been suicidal. I started crying again--I think in part because of how cared about and loved I felt. It boggles my mind that these people care. They don't know me. They know bits about me but that's it. I know I could write out a very logical explanation about why they are so loving, but I still have to say that I don't understand. Why should they care? Yet they do. How can that be? It seems unbelievable.
Thats great Maggie about people caring! Also, I have thought about generational history as well as it does run in my family too. Each of us has handled this differently.
quote:
ORIGINAL: agapetos
quote:
quote:
I also find it hard to de-stress after a long day at work. It was suggested to me last week that I want to consider taking a Yoga class. Has anyone else done this at all? What do you all do to relax after being stressed also? I would advise against yoga. Part of the practice of yoga is the Eastern philosophy/religion. In any list that I've encountered about ways one might participate in the occult, yoga is included. You risk allowing demonic strongholds to built in or around you. Find something else. Get a membership to a gym or a spa. Soaking in a whirlpool would help you destress. Mike, you need to look into the class you'd be thinking of taking. I have been to classes where elements of yoga, tai-chi and pilates are combined. There's no chanting or anything, but the exercises are very good for helping to stretch the muscles and help people relax.
Thanks Aga, it is something that I will need to look into.
quote:
ORIGINAL: manda59
quote:
ORIGINAL: agapetos
Mike, you need to look into the class you'd be thinking of taking. I have been to classes where elements of yoga, tai-chi and pilates are combined. There's no chanting or anything, but the exercises are very good for helping to stretch the muscles and help people relax.
There's also classes for callanetics, and Pilates. They are good for stretching and for general posture.
Thank you Manda, but isn't Pilates primarily catered to only women instead?
quote:
ORIGINAL: PinkCarnations
quote:
ORIGINAL: humbleinspirit
I also find it hard to de-stress after a long day at work. It was suggested to me last week that I want to consider taking a Yoga class. Has anyone else done this at all? What do you all do to relax after being stressed also?
Does your church have any type of exercise programs during the week?
Hey Roberta, they do not at all.
Elizabeth and Melissa, I have had dental surgery before, it is not fun at all! I recently had a biopsy on my tongue also. It was very hard to eat and drink the first day and it took a week before I was not feeling much pain at all when doing so.
Today I am just resting and relaxing after a very stressful week! On Monday, my boss yelled at me because of something stupid that was the clients fault for not being precise and clear on the instructions. He blamed me for the mistake though. I got fed up with him and said a thing or two that you should not say to your boss!
I later apologized and he just laughed it off instead! In hindsight, yes I probably should have read the entire set of instructions before starting the job, however it was a rush job and the already listed instructions were straight forward on page one. The stuff on page two was the after-prep, that is where to file the documents, etc. That type of thing. Little did I know that buried within those instructions that they wanted one of their documents double sided instead, which was not mentioned but should have been mentioned on page one when describing how many copies needed to be made.
Then on Wednesday we had a collating job, also with a tight deadline. It was 75 copies with 5 sections and 7 tabs. I said a prayer to Jesus and prayed "please do not let me screw this up!" I then went on my merry way collating it all together, but when I was done sections were missing! I went to try to find the missing sections but ended up only screwing it up more!
At that point the boss gets involved again and flips out again! Already being flustered, this put me into a negative spiral! My coworker looking at it starts questioning a part of the job that I knew was fine, but the boss heard him questioning it too and thought that I completely botched the whole thing! The boss wanted to see me in his office when this job was completed as he put it "I made his life miserable 2 days this week!"
I just got completely overwhelmed and could no longer concentrate on what I was doing and just ended up laying my head on some shelving saying I cannot handle this anymore! I said that several times! After about 5 minutes I regained my bearings. Very shortly after that the boss had me do hand deliveries instead.
The boss ended up not calling me into the office and just mentioned to me how I should know better and that it was unacceptable to have messed things up 2 times within a week. I was shaking for the rest of the day and the next day was hard too.
I find myself groaning much more these days when I am either thinking about stressful things in my life that I cannot control or even when I hear excessive or any type of "noise" in general.
BTW, I am actively looking for another job, I cannot wait until I get out of this one!
So, I am hear now just glad it is the weekend and mellowing instead.
< Message edited by humbleinspirit -- 11/7/2009 9:05:02 AM >
_____________________________
|
|
|
|
|
Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/7/2009 9:09:46 AM
|
|
|
PinkCarnations
Posts: 10801
Status: offline
|
Just wanted to post a quick prayer request. DD has a friend who made a suicide attempt last night. He told her in the middle of the night via text. He is 16. I'm so thankful that he did tell dd what he had done. I'm so thankful that dd came to us and told us and that she was willing to talk to the police about it. The police handled things very descretly and the young man is now getting the help he needs. Please be in prayer for this young man and his family.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/7/2009 11:44:37 AM
|
|
|
a_sparrow
Posts: 569
Joined: 6/20/2006
From: Los Angeles
Status: offline
|
quote:
I recently had a biopsy on my tongue also. It was very hard to eat and drink the first day and it took a week before I was not feeling much pain at all when doing so.
Ouch! Hope the biopsy results came back OK, Mike.
Hope your job search is successful, too. It sounds as if it would be very stressful to work for your boss.
quote:
I was really peeved with this when dh and I went for counselling and there my anger grew greater. I think I'm caught in the place of thinking that dh has to prove himself to me before I will trust him or take down my walls. I'm not sure I want to. I've been in a foul mood all night and I'm not even sure I want to give up the anger.
((Maggie))
I certainly don't have the cause for it that you have, but I can relate to not wanting to give up anger. I know I didn't respond at the time, but when I read Roberta's post about having difficulty with anger, I thought about how different we all are. Anger seems like a very "safe" emotion to me, and I am reluctant to let go of it. Perhaps because I'm worried that it is covering up an emotion that would make me feel more vulnerable. Could that be a factor for you, Maggie?
Melissa (with cat), I'm glad you were able to set that boundary. I don't know much about dealing with someone with Alzheimer's. Letting them drive certainly can't be the answer. Allowing them to set the day's agenda doesn't seem right either, but I honestly don't know how one would deal with their frustration at not getting their way. I just don't know. I hope that at some point you will be able to attend a support group for caregivers who have experience with this and who might be able to offer ideas as well as emotional support. I know you have trouble getting out of the house with all your responsibilities there. I wonder if there are online resources that might be helpful to you. And I hope you are feeling better!
I am off to Palm Springs...
_____________________________
Elizabeth
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/7/2009 3:20:30 PM
|
|
|
humbleinspirit
Posts: 16732
Joined: 4/13/2005
From: Just Outside of Boston
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: manda59
quote:
ORIGINAL: humbleinspirit
Thank you Manda, but isn't Pilates primarily catered to only women instead?
Not here in the UK, the classes are open to anyone. You could always look into it and see. Or, if you felt too self-conscious, buy a Pilates DVD and do it yourself at home. 
Okie dokie, it is something that I can check out!
quote:
ORIGINAL: a_sparrow
quote:
I recently had a biopsy on my tongue also. It was very hard to eat and drink the first day and it took a week before I was not feeling much pain at all when doing so.
Ouch! Hope the biopsy results came back OK, Mike.
Hope your job search is successful, too. It sounds as if it would be very stressful to work for your boss.
Thank you Elizabeth! The biopsy did come back negative for cancer, but was a growth that shouldn't have been there at all.
_____________________________
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/7/2009 5:08:45 PM
|
|
|
agapetos
Posts: 9752
Joined: 4/11/2005
From: This side of the lil duck pond!
Status: offline
|
quote:
buy a Pilates DVD and do it yourself at home. Or borrow one from the library to see what you think of it and so save some money.
_____________________________
Stovie, Stovie, what am I going to do with you!
Maggie
September 09
My blog
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/7/2009 6:41:21 PM
|
|
|
manda59
Posts: 8208
Joined: 9/22/2005
From: Hampshire, UK
Status: offline
|
Whoops!! I meant to put this in the Brit vs Yanks thread, sorry! lol
I'm confusing myself here (doesn't take much!)
_____________________________
"Manda.....you said what I tried to say, just much better"
sharonjef, October 2009
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/7/2009 8:10:09 PM
|
|
|
humbleinspirit
Posts: 16732
Joined: 4/13/2005
From: Just Outside of Boston
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: agapetos
quote:
buy a Pilates DVD and do it yourself at home. Or borrow one from the library to see what you think of it and so save some money.
I have seen them on sale for quite cheap here though. With my work hours it is a little hard to get to the library as well.
_____________________________
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/7/2009 8:23:36 PM
|
|
|
manda59
Posts: 8208
Joined: 9/22/2005
From: Hampshire, UK
Status: offline
|
Here, our local library opens till 7pm two days a week. Maybe it's not the same there?
_____________________________
"Manda.....you said what I tried to say, just much better"
sharonjef, October 2009
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/7/2009 8:25:27 PM
|
|
|
humbleinspirit
Posts: 16732
Joined: 4/13/2005
From: Just Outside of Boston
Status: offline
|
The closest one closes at 6PM usually. There is one in the middle of the city that is open late, but that would take some extra work to get to. I am usually too tired to go to a different location than en route to heading home.
_____________________________
|
|
|
|
|
Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/7/2009 8:28:28 PM
|
|
|
PinkCarnations
Posts: 10801
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: humbleinspirit
The closest one closes at 6PM usually. There is one in the middle of the city that is open late, but that would take some extra work to get to. I am usually too tired to go to a different location than en route to heading home.
I can understand that one, especially when you have to rely on public transportation.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/7/2009 8:30:40 PM
|
|
|
agapetos
Posts: 9752
Joined: 4/11/2005
From: This side of the lil duck pond!
Status: offline
|
Are libraries not open on a Saturday?
Mike, I'd suggest that you do some research. Find out who is doing the dvd and have a hunt for their credentials online. There are some really good dvds out there. There are also some bad ones. The problem with many exercises (not just stretching kind) is that you can do more harm than good if you're not sure what you're doing.
If you've never done this before, see if you can find one for beginners.
_____________________________
Stovie, Stovie, what am I going to do with you!
Maggie
September 09
My blog
|
|
|
|
 New Messages |
 No New Messages |
 Hot Topic w/ New Messages |
 Hot Topic w/o New Messages |
 Locked w/ New Messages |
 Locked w/o New Messages |
|
 Post New Thread
Reply to Message
Post New Poll
Submit Vote
Delete My Own Post
Delete My Own Thread
Rate Posts |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Forum Tools
Printable Version
MARRIED TO A MILITARY PILOT ~ PLEASE PRAY FOR OUR TROOPS! 
). 
