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ruthyrich -> RE: Welcome to the YouthWorker Forum! (5/15/2008 7:44:15 PM)
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Here is one, maybe you can help. I am not a "regular or ordained" youth worker. I do however spend plenty of time and money helping out a few "at risk youth" that the Lord has put into my life. My husband and I have left our doors open for them when they need a place to get away from their life stresses. We take them to church every Sunday and youth services every Monday night. After church, as long as they have gone to church we do things like going bowling, ordering pizza, and many other fun things. There are two 15 year old girls, AJ and MI and a 14 year old boy, BJ and my son, who I don't believe to be at risk. He has a good head on his shoulders most of the time and accepted Jesus the begining of this year. AJ has two younger sisters who won't go to church with us and only went bowling with us once. I think all of the girls are wonderful and even the young boy are alot of fun. The girls always come to me for advise and I feel flattered and do my best to refer to biblical passages and principles when I address their issues. The problem is that they all go to school together. Well, this wasn't a problem until today. They forged really wonderful friendships that go beyond church. They have not only God, but each other to walk through the tough times they have. Anyways, they were all playing and being stupid while waiting for the bus to pick them up from school. AJ's middle sister said something about my son and BJ making a good couple. This didn't really upset the boys, they took it in fun. Problem is, my son said that the girls had better be nice because he could go to BJ's house and get guns (that don't really exist) and shoot them. The girls were laughing even at this, because they knew it was in fun. BJ said, "Yeah, we know were you sleep" and giggled. Principle of the school over heard and made it a police report. We have warned my son over and over that his stupid, although in fun, comments were going to get him in trouble some day. When I talked to the principle, he even said himself that knowing the good and fun kid my son was, the principle didn't think it was a real threat. He said himself it sounded like he was joking. AJs mom is very lazy. She is living off of the girls social security checks, (they have very "mild" learning disabilities}, and their fathers child support and food stamps. She refuses to get a job. AJs sister was not upset, but AJ's mom is acting like she wants to press charges on my 14 year old son. HOw do I deal with this. My lawyer friend says that I shouldn't even take AJ to church on Sunday. My husband says that we are going to call them and invite them to church with us anyways. I see my husbands point. I know in my heart, that this is my cross, my persecution for wanting to follow the Lord and do what he has given me to do. I know I should have faith in Him and know that somehow he will make things right, but then there is my thoughts. I don't want to see my son persecuted on my behalf. I think that AJ's mom is just looking for another way to get more free income. I know that if she presses charges, this is what she is doing it for. I don't want my son to end up in JDC because of a stupid mistake my fourteen year old made. I know that the Lord is definately teaching my son a lesson that I have not had success in and for this I am thankful. What do you think? What should I do? How should I respond? I simply love those kids like they were truely my own. I enjoy giving them the love and understanding that they do not get at home. I enjoy taking them to church and bowling. I never knew how much I really liked teens until the Lord brought them to me. I know this is what my calling is. The Lord put these kids where I could witness to them. The Lord put the things I endured in my past to use as a mentor to these youth. I never ever solicited these kids to my door, they just showed up. The more I take them to church and youth group, the more show up. Help[sm=crazy.gif][sm=icon_smile_boggled.gif][sm=shakinghead.gif][sm=popsigh.gif]
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