I am currently separated from husbans of almost 20 years. I was unfaithful and in a relationship with an also married man. I have fallen in love with him and he will not leave his wife until his daughter goes to college and if she even leaves then. I have discovered I have transference addiction and have a sex addiction and due to none sexual 20 year relationship I’ve started exploring in unhealthy ways. Please pray God direct my life, I get healthier and restore my relationship with with my 15 year old son and I become strong enough mentally to divorce my husband although my son has begged me to wait until he goes to college.
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First, welcome to our forum @Bumpergirl2002
I do have to warn you, though: if you come here seeking truth, you will get it. It may not be what you want to hear, but you will get the Truth. You say it’s been twenty years. That is a long time to throw away. You said that you are the one who cheated. Does your Husband want the divorce, or is this just a sin addiction desire of yours?
"He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself." Proverbs 6:32
Know, according to Jesus Himself, that what you did is the only excuse He gives for divorce.
" And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” Matthew 19:9
But Jesus also said this.
"So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19:6
Being with a man who has already cheated on his wife with you, will cheat on you. Being with someone who destroyed his family and hurt his wife most intimately is not one you should be “in love” with.
I will be praying for you. I suggest that you rethink the whole situation. Always remember, God can fix anything that we break. If you are unwilling to or it is not possible to reconcile with your husband, you still need to get away from the married man. Do not destroy two families and damage many lives by carrying this on.
Peter