I was reading through these Bible verses on friendship and it made me consider what friendship as an adult truly means and looks like.
It was fairly easy to make friends in school, but as an adult it can be more difficult. I think one thing I am guilty of is waiting for someone to pursue me in a friendship instead of being vulnerable and pursuing them. Even in this busy season of life I’m in, I want to prioritize friendships.
What have you found most helpful and insightful for making and strengthening friendships as an adult?
I’ve noticed that friendships in adulthood tend to form more around shared rhythms than spontaneous moments, not so much “we sit next to each other in class,” but more “we show up in the same spaces over time.”
What has helped me is being intentional about small consistency rather than big gestures. Just showing up regularly, same group, same weekly activity, same class, same volunteer slot. That seems to create natural familiarity, and from there trust grows slowly, almost in the background.
And I’ve also seen that curiosity goes a long way, asking a second question, remembering a detail someone shared, following up later. It signals warmth without pressure.
It’s interesting how simple it can be when there’s a gentle pattern and a little noticing.