Any Marriage-Related Goals for the New Year?

Any Marriage-Related Goals for the New Year?

As we enter 2025, it’s a common time for reflection and setting intentions for the year ahead. In her article, author Jennifer Waddle shares 7 things you can implement in your relationship to draw yourselves closer together and grow spiritually as a couple. She explains how new habits such as intentional prayer, listening to Christian podcasts, and getting mentors for your marriage will help strengthen your foundation and help you thrive spiritually.


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Are you going into 2025 with any goals for your marriage? Perhaps you want to be more intentional about date nights, reconnect after becoming empty nesters, or try counseling to work through hurts or conflict.

Whatever your position on New Year’s resolutions, every marriage can benefit from growing together spiritually! What does this mean and how do we get there? Read the full article below for resources and 7 practical ideas:

Yeah! I wanna get married! Not the “showboating that costs more than an annual salary” kind of married, but like the, “wake up next to my best friend every day” kind of married. :two_hearts:

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New Year is not even a religious holiday, it is not Orthodox or Catholic. For the sake of simplicity, I will omit other religious movements in my example, in no way infringing or belittling the importance of other faiths.

In Russia, they began to celebrate and mark the New Year by decree of Peter the Great. But this was at a time when Russia still lived according to the Julian calendar.

Let me briefly remind you why the World switched to the new Gregorian calendar. 1582 is the year when the Pope finally agreed with scientists that as a result of an unaccounted error in measuring the calendar year, an advance in the position of the Earth in its astronomical orbit had accumulated. This advance was several days. (Calculate how much yourself.) It was because of this that the calculation of the year was shifted by the size of the accumulated error, and a different number of days was introduced in February so that from now on this error would not accumulate.

That is, in 1582, part of the World switched to the Gregorian calendar, but not Russia! Russia continued to live according to the old Julian calendar. That is, Christmas fell, as expected, on December 25. And the New Year, according to the decree of Tsar Peter the Great, was celebrated immediately after the Christmas holidays, after the Christmas week. Thus, first came the religious holiday of Bright Christmas, and then the secular holiday of the New Year was celebrated.

And everything would be fine, because Russia has always been distinguished by its own national character and has never adapted to anyone. But in 1918, Bolshevik Russia also switched to the Gregorian calendar. But the Russian Orthodox Church did not submit and continued to adhere to the old calendar. It continues to adhere to and celebrate church holidays according to the old style to this day.

Thus, all dates and holidays, church and secular (civil), shifted relative to each other. Another disagreement (I would say a discrepancy) has arisen between the Catholic and Orthodox churches. And now the entire Western world celebrates Christmas (Catholic) on December 25, and the Orthodox world - on January 7 according to the new style or according to the old style, this will also be December 25.

For Orthodox Christians, a very serious problem has arisen for celebrating the New Year. After all, the Nativity Fast is a very strict fast, the second in importance after Lent. And according to the new style, it turns out that the New Year falls on the days of the strictest period of the Nativity Fast. At this time, for Orthodox Christians, there can be no secular holidays under any circumstances. After all, Orthodox Christians must fast until the first Christmas star, and this will be on the eve of January 7 according to the new style.

Ironically, Catholics do not really celebrate the New Year (after all, Peter I did not introduce them to this). Catholics mainly celebrate Christmas. And Russians (mostly Orthodox) of course also celebrate Christmas, but first, committing a great sin, they get drunk and indulge in gluttony during the Nativity Fast, on New Year’s Eve.

New Year is not an Orthodox holiday!

Celebrate the Bright Nativity of Christ! And not the secondary holiday of New Year.

Yes, I am from Russia and I am writing to you what I know at the moment.

You are seriously off topic. Again.

Hello! This is about marriage and New Year. I wrote about New Year and what it means for Christians; it’s just information, nothing more, and I didn’t touch on feelings. It’s up to each person to decide whether to accept it or not.

Take it from a native English speaker: this is about upcoming goals for marriage. Not the origins of New Years celebrations. You didn’t talk about marriage goals.

Alright, let this information be useful!

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You recognize of course, that Farid is NOT a native English speaker and as such you might also recognize why the title of the thread (referencing the New Year) took him down this particular path.

I’ve taken the liberty to share here, what he shared in the Chat Room-- so that others might get to know him a little better.

Farid10:15 am

I live in Russia, in the city of St. Petersburg. I am a father of many children and work as a truck driver. Our city is very wonderful; there are many places to go. It is a historical city, and you can find any company that shares your interests. The people are kind and religious. Outside the city, it is simply magical, with many rivers and lakes, an abundance of fish and crayfish, and plenty of forests and wild nature. We love to meet in small taverns with friends and share our impressions from the past week. We enjoy football and hockey, and we love everyone without any wars or diseases. We love to sing and dance. We always praise God, His Son, and the Holy Spirit. This is how we live our lives and raise our children.

My name is Farid. I was born into a Muslim family, but it so happened that I was never introduced to the faith. Time passed, and I faced various trials in life. There were moments when I reached the brink of death, and in my despair, I called out to God. Immediately, some people came and helped me, and then they introduced me to God. Now, when Muslims see me as a fellow tribesman, I tell them that I believe in Jesus Christ, in God the Almighty, and in the Holy Spirit. They immediately distance themselves from me. Now I have learned that my duty as a Christian is to share everything I know. Dear friend, I live in Russia, in the city of Saint Petersburg. I work as a dump truck driver, and I have a family with four children. I love jazz, painting, and I am interested in nature and animals. You know, I am very grateful to God for everything, for meeting the angels who helped me, pulled me out, and gave me knowledge, which is invaluable, my dear friend. Of course, there are also consequences from my past life that I struggle with. What else can I tell you? I have a small dog and two cats. They sometimes tease the dog, but it’s just play; they are like family.

Yes. That is why I helped him out.

goals for marriage seem so hopeless right now. so broken down. losing hope. his sincerity is really questionable. it hurts to better myself as a wife when he continues to make things yet worse anyway. tired of the typical christian advice that tells me to just pray for my husband and make myself better in the meantime. getting pretty jaded. our own changes just dont guarantee our spouse will change too. im pretty beat down over this. i guess my one goal is to … ugh i dont know… too depressed to do this right now.

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@wantthetruth dont lose hope sister, ground yourself in God and wait on him for answers. He will allow you to see clearly and lead you in the right direction. Im sorry you are depressed and ill pray that he delivers you from the worry, pain, and depression. I’ll pray that things change and you are once again are restored with joy and happiness. Stay strong sister, you are stronger than you know.

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thank you i really appreciate your comment. encourages me.

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So sorry to hear dear sister. From what I have known of you over the years on various forums, you have a very beautiful and unique heart. You are also rather profoundly bright and expressive. I guess I would just encourage you to pray how God has gifted you so, to be able to help your husband better experience the marriage he has with one of your gifted. That God help open your eyes in how best who you are in Him (created in His image AND redeemed a new as a NEW CREATION in Him too) can help bring your husband to better modes of discussion. Deeper places in his heart toward you in God (helping him to see thinking at a higher level than where he might allow it to just be rather squandered).

I don’t believe that however God has gifted you means you are not to ever lead in some very profound ways toward Him and him (your husband) in love. Because you are created in His image AND there is no longer male or female (Gal 3:28) in terms of His gifting, granting of opportunity and granting of spiritual footing in a marriage where you are one. I could totally see your creative and inquisitive heart be such an intimacy lantern God can use as and for hope in a most precious thing as marriage.

I hope in some ways these words are helpful or at least encouraging. Blessings. :slight_smile: