Last thursday i had a row with my older sister, because she is claustrophobic and hates confined spaces , i locked her in her room, i enjoyed watching her kick and screaming to be let out, i only meant for her to be locked in for an hour or 2, while anyway my friend rang up and i got distracted and went out, i forgot about my sister, my parents came home 6 hours later and found her locked in, she had missed her driving lesson and a date with her boyfriend, my parents went mad and said i would be getting a taste of my own medicine , they said i will be spending ALL of this weekend locked in my room as a punishment, as i write i am locked up and i DONT like it, are my parents being fair ?
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Hi tanya, welcome to our family. Glad to see you have joined. You have gotten yourself in a mess. Maybe you should take this time in your room to get closer to God. Pray to him and ask him for forgiveness. What you did to your sister was pure evil, satan at his fineness. And your parents are trying to teach you a lesson. Are they being fair? Im not sure how to answer that. I think because of their love for you they let you off easy. What you did is very bad and a 2 day grounding locked in your room is way better than 10 years in prison. Anything could have happened to your sister during the hours she spent locked in that room. She could have had an anxiety attack or anything. You dont know what could of happened and you shouldnt want to see your sister suffer not even for 1 minute. That is your sister you are supposed to protect her not hurt her. So are your parents being fair? No they are not, they are letting you off easy. So i would suggest that you spend this time finding God and yourself, and thank him for your light punishment. And when you see your sister again hug her and sincerly apologize to her. And then find it in yourself to never do that to her or anyone else ever again. Tanya welcome to our family at crosswalk we love you and dont want to see you hurting. I hope you enjoy your time with us 
Yes, I think they are being fair only you should be confined to your room for the same period of time that you confined your sister.
i know , i only meant to lock her in for around a hour or 2, instead she spent several hours locked up, she had a panic attack and had to go to the toilet in a flower pot in her room, she missed her driving lesson and missed a date with her boyfriend, because of this my parents have locked me in my room ALL weekend as a punishment, when i got home from school last night i was escorted to my room, i was given dinner then locked up in my room for the night, this morning SATURDAY i was woken up at 6am after a shower and breakfast i was locked in my room for the rest of the day, i have spent most of the day at my desk, my parents have said that as i have exams this year, i will be spending my lock up time doing schoolwork, i had to do maths, english, french , science etc, i was also set two 4 page punishment essays to write, one on why its important to get on with family members, and another on unaceptable behavour and punishment, my parents said education is an important part of punishment, i must admit i DONT like being locked in my room, my parents said i deserve to be punished, what do you think ? advice please ?
Your parents are only doing it to teach you a lesson, you have very good parents that love you. To tell you the truth the whole locking you in your room is a little much, but they are doing it out of love not hatred so i get it. You put your sister through a lot and they are trying to make you feel what she felt but thats not possible to do because you made her face a fear that you dont have. And you having to do an essay as part of your punishment is to get you to understand what you did and why what you did is unacceptable. You tortured your sister and enjoyed it, thought it was funny. That is satans work at hand. Your parents just wants whats best for you, and want you to learn a lesson from this. You should listen to them and do what they ask from you. Learn from this and never do it again. And dont forget to tell your sister that you are sorry and that you love her. And just know you have good parents and they know whats best for you and they really do care for you. Hope this helps
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have said sorry to my sister, but i dont like the punishment, i spent ALL of yesterday shut in my room, the only time i could come out was to use the bathroom, i had to be escorted there and back its not a nice feeling hearing my bedroom door SLAM shut then hearing the key turn in the lock CLICK, all my friends went out yesterday evening but i could go nowhere just locked in, my parents said that is the point of punishment, to teach someone a lesson through suffiring, today i have tons of schoolwork to do plus three 4 page punishment essays to complete one on THE PURPOSE OF PUNISHMENT and another essay on WHY ITS WRONG TO SHOW HATE TOWARDS MY SISTER and one more essay on WHAT I HAVE LEARNED FROM BEING PUNISHED, my parents say the essays are important, one because they punish, as they make me think about what i have done wrong and why its neccessary for me to be punished, my parents say education is a very important part of punishment, what do you think ?
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I dont think education is a good form of punishment no. Education is very important though, but shouldnt be looked at as punishment. You should enjoy learnig and look forward to learning not despise it. But your parent want you to learn from your mistakes so that you dont repeat them. This is why they want you to write about it, so that they can see that you know what you did wrong and why it was wrong. Hopefully you have leared from this and your punishment has opend your eyes.
I hope you were able to finish the essays for your parents. By writing them you are forced to consider they questions they asked. I think that’s the reason behind why you’re confined to your room this day. To give you the opportunity to really think about your actions and not write off the incident with a ‘sorry’.
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Sounds to me like you should consider removing the log from your own eye before trying to remove a splinter from anyone else’s. Be the one. Learn from your situation become a better person than your people. Read that bible. It will show you the way. It’s not easy but it is worth it. Dont worry about what they are doing. Try to look at the positive. At least you have a room. There are people out there that dont. Be slow to anger because it can always get worse. Rise above, or fall. Your people are wrong so become right. Then stand and fight. Not just for yourself but them too. They love you. But love is sometimes hard to see.
yes part of my punishment was to write those essays, my parents said that they wanted me to learn from the punishment essays, they said i was to take my time and make sure the essays were of the highest standard, they marked them out of ten my parents said if i scored a mark below 7 i would have to do them again, i scored 8 for both essays. i hated being locked up i never knew just how important freedom is until its taken away, i am free now and no longer on punishment, but my parents have set me one more 4 page essay to write, the title is WHAT I HAVE LEARNED FROM BEING PUNISHED do you agree with this ?
yes part of my punishment was to write those essays, my parents said that they wanted me to learn from the punishment essays, they said i was to take my time and make sure the essays were of the highest standard, they marked them out of ten my parents said if i scored a mark below 7 i would have to do them again, i scored 8 for both essays. i hated being locked up i never knew just how important freedom is until its taken away, i am free now and no longer on punishment, but my parents have set me one more 4 page essay to write, the title is WHAT I HAVE LEARNED FROM BEING PUNISHED do you agree with this ?
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Sweetheart, I think they are being more than fair. If that had between my children umpteen years ago when they lived at home, I hope I would have responded similarly. They are doing a good job disciplining (teaching) you how to treat you sister. It is a lesson that will serve you well in life.
If I had done that to my sister in my childhood home, I would have gotten a beating. I doubt you would have preferred that! 
I only now saw the rest of what your parents asked you to do. I found it interesting. :
I don’t think I would have thought of that. Dare I admit that I think the essays were a pretty good idea? I don’t think you understand, Honey, how serious what you chose to do to your sister was it was actually mean, even though you saw it as a joke.
Take some time to consider how you love your sister, and think about how you can demonstrate your love for her. Kindness and respect are fine ways to do that. You, too, deserve both kindness and respect from your family members, but because of what you did, it may be hard to get these, until they can trust you again. You know?
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it was hard being locked up, my parents made my punishment VERY strict, when i got home from school on the friday evening i was escorted to my room, i lost my tv, phone , pc etc after dinner my bedroom door was locked with a key, bed and lights out 9pm, my parents made me get up at 6am on the saturday, after a shower and breakfast i was locked in my room for the day, i had to spend many hours working at my desk, doing school work and of course punishment essays. i have 2 other sisters, they teased me by talking loudly were they were going to go on the saturday, bowling or a cinema, they knew i was shut in and could go nowhere, this made the punishment much harder, the next day sunday my best friend came around in the morning to say they were going out for the day and would i like to come, imagine how i fealt my my parents said she cant go because she is on punishment, i then watched my friend leave in their car from my locked bedroom window, it was a misreable punishment why no sympathy ?
Your parents know you. They’ve known you since you were born and must believe that your capable of writing this essay. You did a good job on the other essays and I’m feeling kind of proud of you. Way to go! You’ve told me what it felt like to be locked up and how much you hated it. Perhaps what they’re after is for you to take that feeling and apply it to your sister who feels even stronger about being locked up. Isn’t that why you did it? To hurt her in a way you knew would hurt her?
I hope you’ve made up with your sister and don’t harbor any bad feelings towards her. Why carry around bad feelings that weigh us down? As long as you live under your parents roof, they have a God given authority over you. It seems to me that their actions are meant to help you see the consequence of what you did. It feels like a punishment, but I see that they love you and want what’s best for you.
You will need to decide how you want to live in your parent’s home. If you choose to rebel, then life with them will be hectic, angry and troublesome. If you respect their decisions, you will have peace. They deserve your respect. I’m rooting for you!
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if i am honest i hated being locked in my room it was such a dull and boring punishment, i missed my freedom so much being shut in a room all weekend doing homework and punishment essays, but my sister has a phobia of being shut in, i locked her in and i know she suffered , i know she had a couple of panic attacks while locked up, i paid for this with my own punishment, i was locked in my room from friday evening when i got home from school until i went back to school on monday morning, please dont miss understand me i know i deserved to be punished, but i just think a whole weekend plus tons of schoolwork plus punishment essays was too much , dont forget i was locked in my room friday night, saturday night, and sunday night, my punishment hurt BIG TIME ?
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What you did to your sister hurt big time as well. Maybe that was your parent’s point. I think it’s time to get over it. Sure, it was a lot but it’s done. Time to move forward and one more essay to go. You can do it. You’re a bright girl. I know you feel it was unfair and even if it was unfair, they are your parents and have the right. I believe in their knowing you so well that they did what they thought was best for you. Call it a life lesson. They’ll be plenty more life lessons along the way. What will you do with them?
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yes i know i deserved to be punished, and i was punished, the proplem i have now is my parents know how much i HATE being locked in my room, so they have said whenever i break rules or misbehave in the future, that will be my punishment a whole weekend locked up in my bedroom, i am normally well behaved so my parents said this is a deterent , so i behave to avoid the punishment , is this fair ?
Tanya, this is my last reply. It seems that your issue is unfairness. In a polite and gentle manner you should take that up with them. They obviously feel that its a fair way to deal with the harm you caused your sister and a fair way to deal with future disobedience. It’s an issue between you and your parents. Without knowing your parents, I believe it’s fair and hopefully you will too. Not that you will behave for fear of punishment, but because you want to honor and respect your parents.
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