all i want is to have a good relationship with the mother of my child and her new bf i want the best for him how do i say something nice to him when i have a big issue with what he is doing i dont have a good past with people who dont agree with me when it comes to my son
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Most children can understand a binary situation.if when visiting you, there was a no marijuana policy that was different than the policy in your ex-wife’s home. the child would adapt to the different “house rules” The same would be true for different parenting philosophies. As long as you explain why you have a different one, it should be understood.
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That’s a hard place to be in, but your heart to do what’s best for your son is clear, and that matters. Romans 12:18 comes to mind: “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” You can’t control how others respond, but you can choose to speak truth in love, with calm and clarity.
Sometimes a simple “I want us all to be able to work together for his good” opens the door. You don’t have to agree on everything to be respectful and consistent. Praying for wisdom and peace as you walk this out.
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@JennyLynne thank you so much for this i will use this info for sure
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@Candi on this one please
your son is your ex’s and your responsibility. the best the bf should strive for is to be a “cool uncle”-type figure, and to help your ex in whatever way she asks. it should NOT be up to him to be any more than that. of course, if your ex reinforces what he tries to instate, then you just dont have a lot of power when youre not around. but really, its not his place to disagree with you, it should be between you and your ex. you have the right to tell him nicely if you dont like what hes doing, and if your ex disagrees with you, it has to be hashed out between you two. HE has no rights.