I thank god and I am grateful for every need I have he has provided…I am a 62 year old single man, never been married and no children…So often I wonder WHY lord, I really don’t have the right to ask for anything you have given me what I need but it feels meaningless because I am always by myself…Oh lord you know most of the people I know are married with children and grandkids making this time of the year hard on me emotionally…I go to church but its the same surroundings lord…Life has no meaning or purpose and honestly lord I’m tired of being alone, would you please fill the voids in my life…In the name of jesus I ask thee…Amen…
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Rather than just going to church talk to the minister where can you help?
Get involved with every asprct of church life.
I’m in a small church 150 members and we have at least a dozen single elderly members. Yes many have family, some don’t and they depend on friends in the church for support at Christmas etc.
Do you have friends at church, outside church?
Build on those relationships, start a club/meeting for the elderly to support each other.
Praying for you! I wonder if there is a family or families in your church or community who don’t have grandparents and would love for you to be a type of grandparent for their kids. Both my parents and my husband’s parents live far away, so it is our older neighbors who don’t have grandkids of their own who attend my son’s school performances, babysit in a pinch, bring my sons treats, etc. This is such a blessing to my family and my sons love these neighbors! I bet you may be able to find a family who would love to have extra help and a “honorary” grandparent for their kids.
If its any comfort to you there are many, both Christian and non-Christian, who feel the same as you. When God created Adam, He said that it wasn’t good for man to be alone. That tells me that God knows how you feel and agrees with you that loneliness is not His answer.
I can’t comment on what you should do to change your situation other than to say that no child of God is ever alone. You may not know it, feel it, or be assured of it, but Jesus is with you now and always. “Never will I forsake you. I don’t leave you as an orphan. I will come to you.” Perhaps that is the first step. To take Jesus’ words to yourself and make the choice to believe that what He says is true.
So many people have gone through life and are going through life without a spouse or children. They feel their life is meaningless and without any purpose. That is simply not true. As a matter of fact, the apostle Paul speaks about this and he says that its a gift to those who are able to accept it. 1 Cor 7:7-9 Sometimes the first step towards emotional peace is simply accepting what is instead of yearning for what isn’t.
You are loved by God and you belong to Him. Let that be your standing point going forward. I do understand how you feel. Maybe you just need to focus on what you do have, and what you have is glorious.
I know where you are coming from. I was single and miserable for most of my life. I had virtually given up on love and became a drunk. In 1999, this changed. I started praying for my deliverance. I stopped in a parking lot to look at my directions I had written down. Surprise, it was a church parking lot. The youth pastor came to the driver’s side and spoke with me. I started attending church and stopped drinking with God’s help. I got into a Christian penpal group (remember, it is 1999). I met a woman from California and became close. I flew out to meet her and after spending 4 days, I flew back home and put my home up for sale. We were married in 2000. 25 years have passed and we have 2 grown sons and two grandchildren. God works miracles. I am living proof. Talk to people and put yourself out there. I will pray for you.
Jerry
Praying for others even random strangers can be beneficial.
Thank you for sharing this so honestly. You matter deeply to God, and your life is not overlooked or wasted in His sight. Praying that the Lord meets you in this loneliness and reminds you that your purpose is rooted in Him, even when the days feel heavy. 