Marriage is full of ups and downs. Have you ever helped your spouse through the loss of a loved one? Maybe a child, parent, or close friend? Or have you gone through times of grief where your spouse has been a great source of comfort?
In her article on the topic, Beth Ann Baus says: “helping your spouse grieve is a burden of love, because grief is hard, it’s exhausting, it takes time, and can change a person forever.” She offers great suggestions for how to practically help your husband or wife through all kids of grief.
You don’t be married for 39 years and not face grief. I definitely helped my husband over his grief over the death of his father at the too young age of 64. We also both helped each other when we grieved over the loss of our first baby to miscarriage & he was there for me at the loss of both parents and 2 brothers.
However, I have also helped my husband through the NON-grief he felt over the loss of his mother this past January. She was a formidable woman who did everything for her 2 daughters & had nothing to give to her only son & middle child except for abuse. He spent his entire adult life trying to prove himself to her. When we got the news, the closest thing he felt was relief, and I was there for him, as I still am.
Ive never been married. My dad passed away in 2011. It hit me hard. I knew he was dying. He had cancer. I know he’s in another dimension where Jesus, and angels are.
Ffom different degrees, Christian people live with pain.
Its part of life. Having faith and steadfast is the key.
